Is this child abuse?

Question

If your mom calls you:


Fat

Retarted

Worthless

loser

etc

Trust me its not anger!


I told her once


Do you like calling your son names?


and she didnt answer

No my grandmas really nice and so is my grandpa

they wouldnt dare touch there kids :o

I dont call my mom anything and i dont know my dad


and yea im poor so my mom is depressed but why does she take it out on me?
i have a brother and sister >.<

and she loves them

she never says i love you
and she never says shes proud of me

Answer 1

I am so sorry. As a mum who had done this in the past, I can tell you from a mums point of view, that we don't mean to take out our bad momnets on you beautful children. We are so very proud of you, unfortunately we also forget that you are children & need to be loved & nutured even when we get nothing in return. It is so wrong of us as parents to do this , and still we do it.

Get help for you & her

If you are able try to forgive your mum, and if you are able go to her tell her you love her, even if it is with a card and a flower. if you are able share with her how she crushes your spirit everytime she calls you names & how unloved you feel by that and be ready to hear her side. (I know it is making you sound and act like the grown up, sometimes it is easy to show compassion than react negatively, and it is also good for you beacus it helps in the grieving/healing process)

No matter what, remember you are so very special & loved & wanted, even if you don't feel that way now.

Answer 2

yes it's called "verbal abuse" I suggest that you speak with a school counselor and/or the school nurse. If not call a hospital and ask for information. She needs to be aware of what she is saying and doing. If she's very overwhelmed and stressed out, this may be what is happening. Also she probably was called all those names and isn't aware of it being abuse. Sometimes parents say things out of anger, frustration, depression and pressure. If she isn't apologizing it's probably because she isn't aware of the damage she is causing. Whatever the reason, you need to speak to someone whom can direct you to the help that you need. I want you to know not to believe that because your mother is saying this to you, that it's true. I hope this helps. Good luck.

Answer 3

It can be. How often does she do it? Does she ever say she loves you or anything else positive? Tell her it hurts your feelings when she does this and if she mocks that, tell her not to be dismissive of your feelings. If she mocks that too, talk to a counselor or an adult you can trust because you've got a really crappy mom that you need help learning to live with.

My parents never said they loved me and called me stupid and a loser every day of my childhood. They also beat the crap out of me until I was 12. Now they wonder why I don't have anything to do with them.

Some people just don't get it and never will. What you need to understand is that you're NOT fat, retarded, worthless or a loser. Your mother being screwed up is not because of you, it's because of her.

Good Luck!

Answer 4

Yes it is. Calling a person names is verbal abuse and it is also psychological and emotional abuse.
Parents should really think before they label a child with a negative name. These names really hurt and emotionally cripple a kid.

Answer 5

It's verbal and maybe even emotional abuse and should not be necessary.
In some places (States) pointing a finger at someone may constitute abuse, or threat to abuse. So yes, you might say that, but it's a serious charge, so you'd better make sure you want to do that.

Answer 6

If your school has a school psychologist or social worker, make an appointment to speak to and share with this person the abusive words your mom heaps on you.

Call the police if you get no satisfaction and speak to someone concerning your desire to be placed outside your mother's residence.

Answer 7

Yes, it is called verbal abuse and it can hurt just as bad as physical abuse. If your mom is doing that you need to talk to someone at school, church or you pediatrician.

Answer 8

Emotional abuse that builds anger. Let her know how you feel because you have respect for her and tell her you wounldn't call her those ugly words to her.

Answer 9

its not child abuse- child abuse is when they physically hurt you. but that is verbal abuse. and really really mean. dont take things to heart, some people are just messed up in the head. im sure nothing is wrong with you or whoever is being called those things. we are who we are, and we all rock in our own way.

Answer 10

YES! That's called verbal abuse, which is just as bad, if not worse, than physical abuse. Bruises and cuts will heal, but verbal abuse sticks- forever.