Why should I pay child support?

Question

My ex wife cheated and decided to leave me. She ended up with the house after our divorce . She now lives in the house with her boyfriend while I'm living in a small apartment and paying child support for our three kids, barely able to get by. I love my kids but i feel like i'm being punished for my ex's decisions. She broke up the marriage, why should i suffer?

Answer 1

You should pay child support for the well being of your children. Unfortunatly you can't dictate how she spends it and most of the time it doesn't get spent on the children. If you are still able to talk calmly between the two of you, maybe you should put half of what you pay in child support into a fund for the children college. Her decision may have hurt you and ultimatly the children something awful, however your children will grow and make their own judgement so do right by them and pay the child support. Good luck., and sorry for your pain.

Answer 2

You're paying child support for the kids, not the wife. Your children shouldn't be punished because of your ex-wife either.

Go back to court, get back the house and the kids, and then you won't have to pay child support.

Answer 3

If you don't pay child support you're not punishing your ex or her new boyfriend, you're hurting the children.
Not paying child support will only show your children that you don't care about their well being. Trust me, they may be young now (if that's the case) and not understand, but in the future they will.
I grew up in a single parent household and my father didn't pay the majority of the time and even growing up I wondered what was wrong with me that he couldn't even send what was ordered. Was I that bad of a child? Did he not love me enough? Wasn't I worth it?
All I'm saying is, regardless of your ex's actions, you're still a parent to those children and don't hurt them. Good luck.

Answer 4

Exactly my question! It's so horrible the way that men get f'ed over during this. Yes, they are your kids, but she made the choice to go outside of the marriage and disrespect you, and the kids. It's disgusting. It's the fact that they are your kids, and nothing else. No matter who cheats, the man always has to pay. I feel for you. Try to get on the best you can, and just be there for your kids.

Answer 5

simply you are the man and you have a penis and in the laws eyes the penis is an evil thing and must be punished. That's the only way i can explain your situation because it makes no since, there is absolutely no reason for a woman to stay in a marriage anymore at all, she gets to cheat , leave , take the kids , and you have to foot the bill, so there you have it the penis theory!

Answer 6

Then are you saying your children should suffer?

Sounds like a raw deal you got or a bad lawyer and it sucks...I don't know how she ended up with the house or the kids.

Child support is still your duty. You may be divorced from your wife, but they are still your children and it's not their fault she broke up the marriage.

Go see a new lawyer and talk to them about the situation and see if you can get your payments reduced due to hardship or if anything can be done at all.

Answer 7

let me get this straight, so what your saying is that because your ex cheated and ruined the family that your kids should have to suffer even more by having their father not help take care of them. WRONG, your children still needs the same support that you've always gave them emotionally and financially

Answer 8

"Child support" is for the kids. You're paying child support because you have contributed to bringing these kids to the world, end of story. "Alimony" is for the wife. Do you pay alimony? If not, then you have nothing to complain about. If you feel they're taking too much in child support, go back to court and try to fight it.

Answer 9

Because those are your children.

Children are entitled to financial support from both parents (whether one parent has been "bad" and the other has been "good" and feels like he/she is being punished or not) until they reach adulthood.

They didn't ask to be here. You had a 50% share in bringing them into the world, and now you have a financial responsibility to help to take care of them, whether their mother is behaving like a 'ho or not -- because whatever their mom's doing is not their fault.

That's why.

Answer 10

WOULD YOU LIKE IF YOUR KIDS WERE BARELY ABLE TO GET BY WITH FOOD AND CLOTHES AND SHELTER AND EVERYTHING ELSE A CHILD NEEDS? WOULD YOU SKIMP ON WHAT YOU GAVE THEM IF YOU HAD THE CUSTODY? NO! SO WHY WOULD IT MATTER IF YOU CAN BARELY GET BY OR IF YOUR EX HAS THE HOUSE. THE KIDS ARE THE CONCERN. IT SOUNDS LIKE YOU ARE ANGRY BECAUSE SHE HAS MOVED ON. BUT ITS THE KIDS THAT NEED TO BE THE NUMBER ONE CONCERN, NOT YOU. YOU DON'T WANT YOUR KIDS TO SUFFER SO YOU SACRIFICE EVERYTHING FOR THEM, EVEN IF YOUR WIFE ENDED THE MARRIAGE, BECAUSE THAT IS WHAT A GOOD PARENT DOES.