how do you deal with a child that is bi sexual all of a sudden?

Answer 1

Being bisexual doubles a person's chances of a date. It's really not a big deal.

Edit....Hey...thumbsdowners.....BITE ME! Most of you are religious nitwits and closet homos! Why don't you just come on out and quit hasseling others.

Answer 2

The best thing you can do is understand that he or she did not suddenly become bi-sexual. It may be that now you know or they chose to share it with you *now*. The really important thing to do is don't freak. It could be simple experimentation, straight people and gay people most often come to realize their orientation by harmless expermentation.

The most important thing you can do is listen, that doesn't mean you have to hear all the details about what they're doing but supporting can do wonders. They need to know that you love them regardless of their orientation. I would encourage you to be as open minded as possible, if they are bi, then just accept it and learn what having a bi child may entail, it may mean changing some of your expectations but realize it's not a bad thing . . preach being safe, accept, and provide a loving and nurturing enviornment because all the homophobia in the world can be outdone by knowing someone loves you regardless.

If you have trouble accepting, then I suggest you just make sure they're safe but back off. If it's who they are meant to be,just know that they will continue doing it no matter what. You can try explaining why you might be against it but make sure it doesn't come across as homophobia or you not accepting them as this will do more damage.

Experimenting is part of growing up - They are having these feelings for a reason. You don't want an out of control kid who sneaks behind your back and doesn't tell you anything and may possibly endanger themselves.

A bisexual child is still your child and still the same individual you are raising correctly.

Btw, pflag is a group that does wonders for parents and children alike.

And when we say children, I hope we're talking of at least teenage age . . either way though, experimentation is mostly harmless.

Answer 3

Despite what people think on here, bi sexuality is valid. People are willing to be sheep and accept that you can only be gay or lesbian, or that bis are just horny people... if so you are just as much of a bigot as a homophobic person.

Truth is, bi sexuals are attracted to *both* sexes and they also can have relationships with *either* sex, wow imagine the concept.

So, what do you do mom? Get yourself informed, quit listening to idiots that don't know anything beyond their own stereotypes. May I suggest:

http://www.advocatesforyouth.org/youth/health/pamphlets/bisexual.htm

Oh and uh, I knew I was bi-sexual at 14... mom, be a trooper and use this time to communicate with your child instead of banishing her/him. Chances are the suddenness of his/her sexuality really has been around longer than you think.

Answer 4

Love then unconditionally. Regardless if it is something the child has felt for years or even if its a period of curiosity one should love that child for who they are not for who they like. Does the child being bi make the child less loveable? NO! So love them and teach them about diseases and also what they could face from society and how to love themselves.

Answer 5

Thank MTV for that one.
It's like everyday they say hey if you haven't done it how do you really know you're not.
It's not cool to be gay, why don't they just tell the truth.
For whatever reason people are gay it's a biological flaw.
It's not something to celebrate or ridicule someone for.
It is beyond them or anyone to change them.
But if I had a mental or physical impairment I would cheer about it.
This is what people are doing and THAT is what's wrong.

Answer 6

Children go through stages. A CHILD should not be any kind of sexual. I don't believe in bi-sexuality my opinion is that if you are a man attracted to other men you are gay, you just might like a little taste of a lady now and then. Gay is Gay. My guess is the child is being introduced to a lot of these ideas over media and perhaps from friends. You need to control who the child is around and what kind of things they are being influenced by. If you can't keep track of your kid this kind of stuff happens. Seek counseling.

Answer 7

Well if it is a girl, girls in the US think it is cool to experiment with other girls. It is a trend to them and they just do it because everyone else is. biologically a man should be with a woman and a woman should be with a man. Teach her this and tell her to think for herself instead of doing what is expected of the times. My mom always said if everyone jumped off a bridge would you? In our country today you can't think bad of anything or you get the third degree, so our kids are taught in school to accept being gay and lesbian. Good luck and kids shouldn't be having sex.

Answer 8

my opinion is... does the child deal with your sexual engagements?? If not...perhaps you may want to stay out of theirs so you don't hurt the relationship. How ever always no matter what promote safe sex non stop! They will love ya for it.
Surely they must be old enough and you didnt mind before when they were straight..so dont but in now. It could be a phase.

Answer 9

How old of a child? Is curious child like behavior being confused by your twisted mind to be bi-sexuality?

How do you deal with it, you don't.

Answer 10

Deal with it it is all of a sudden a trend. I know some people who do it for curiosity but if your child is enjoying their new findings then you have to deal with it it is your child for God sake you can't change them.

Answer 11

There is really not too much you can do. You do not want to shun the child. They need you more than ever they need your guidance. You can explain why you disapprove or approve but most parents who act outragous end up losing their kid. You have so many people ready to suck them up in that lifestyle so be careful let them explore as you would let them if they found out about the opposite sex. Let them know boundaries talk about safe sex you may be like oh no but you have to tread soft or they will get sucked up.