My husband and I argue about the boundary rules I set because he's been caught in bad positions like (giving a male buddies female friend a ride) and stuff like that well Our mutual friend who's husband just left for Korea yesterday got my husband to come over and help install the new dryer she got delivered today, it was actually delivered I saw the guys bring it they just forgot somethin on dryer, something I'm cool with that. But he stayed and let the kids play her husband says its cool but I feel that I as the female should take the kids to play and that since his buddy is gone he has no reason to be over there for more than 5 minutes unsupervised. She is my good friend and there has never been any inkling of an issue but I just don't think its appropriate. He says Im insecure but I would never dare ask her husband to do anything for me if she were not around and I would not try to be in any position where we can be alone, am I just insecure and should loosen up or am i right
2007-04-10 11:40:21 · 10 answers · asked by rasheeta1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's not approrpriate. You may or may not be insecure, but that's not the point. It is totally uncool and leaves the door open for even accusations (he said/she said) later that you don't want ot hear. If she's your good friend, you need to find a gentle way to have her call you first if she's going to call on him, you both need to be there.
My husband used to do handy work and if my friends needed something I would either go with him or know that he was going to be there. Usually my friend would call me and talk while he was there fixing whatever it was that he was working on. Just courtesy and avoiding even the appearance of impropriety is very important in a marriage.
2007-04-10 11:47:26 · answer #1 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not being out of line. Your husband seems to come to her rescue everytime she needs help. She needs to deal with this on her own, or else find a man to do it for her. Your husband needs to realize he's taking time away from you and the kids. You're not being insecure. It's unacceptable and inappropriate since she's asked so many times. A couple is ok, but after that she needs to realize that she's annoying!
2007-04-10 12:06:14 · answer #2 · answered by SillierKimmie! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably just trying to offer support to his friend's wife while he's gone. You said the wife was your good friends - sounds like you don't trust your husband and you don't trust your friend. You need to work on that. If your husband has never done anything wrong (like actually cheating on you), then you being suspicious of him like this all the time is really going to start making him mad.
2007-04-10 11:46:12 · answer #3 · answered by Jas 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
either trust him or leave him. your insecurities will eventually take a toll and you will end up alone. stop being silly and childlike.
you can't stop a man from doing what he wants. he wants to cheat he will.
sounds like he's just being polite and casual. nothig to worry about.
2007-04-10 11:55:37 · answer #4 · answered by Nicole M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the same with you, I do not think that is good. Why would you not go with him? The thing is that you just never know what will happen and think that is on the line.
2007-04-10 11:44:56 · answer #5 · answered by xyz 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
cmon, girl. Y're fine. Sober Up
2007-04-10 11:55:19 · answer #6 · answered by betsey w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loosen up. You're going to smother your husband to death.
2007-04-10 11:48:43 · answer #7 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You sound waaay too insecure to me... Are you really serious? Your poor husband.
2007-04-10 11:46:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Loosen up, lighten up, you will drive yourself crazy as well as him if you keep this up.
2007-04-10 11:43:20 · answer #9 · answered by St.Jeb 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
.... testing no worry
2007-04-10 11:49:58 · answer #10 · answered by Sofia D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋