2007-04-10 10:44:10 · 23 answers · asked by Brian 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
guys like to get straight to the sex. women are more emotionally involved. we all like the small things...kisses, handholding and hugging without the expectation of sex. give her these things more often and she will fall all over you again. guys forget the small things are just as important. try making her a nice bath (throw some rose petals in it) light some candles and give her a nice glass of wine. then when she is done, maybe you can dry her off and give her a nice body massate that turns into oral pleasure and then SEX!!
2007-04-10 10:49:31 · answer #1 · answered by sylonthego 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*Well every woman is different, and we all don't know what your wife likes...so it's hard to give you a definite answer.*
~Anyways...I would suggest...role playing...(well i like it.) just b/c I look younger than I really am (I'm 21 and I look 16-17) so the whole school girl outfit suites me, and whatever.
**Sooo you can try that idea, or you can just go to the sex shop too and buy yourselves some sexy night time clothes...and a video...and some toys...and try things you have never done before.
Or go out and buy a kama sutra book, and again...try things you never have before. Because "you don't know until you try it." So your wife may not be up for that kind of stuff, or you both might be shy to the whole idea...but what you are not doing...may just be what you've been needing to do the whole time?!
**So consider it. And be spontaneous. It gets your adrenaline pumping. Which makes it that much hotter to have sex. Or want to.
~Well I wish you luck in finding what fancies you in the bedroom..... :)
**Oh yeah...physical stimulation....and rubbing in places...also does wonders...too.
2007-04-10 10:52:54 · answer #2 · answered by Shut your mouth when u tlk to me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you get in bed..lightly rub her back, arms,breast etc slowly moving south!! Tease her a little..Don't make any sudden moves. Now start using ur mouth to kiss her entire body and really tease her when ur down south.. By now she should be responding.If she's not than you probably need to try a different approach! Like taking a cold shower cause She's not interested!! Than ask her if something is bothering her...Maybe it just wasn't the night to try..then try another nite. Oh the night u plan to do this send her flowers that day and be really sweet to her..If nothing else she'll feel like she owes you lol Good luck with your wife!! Hey I love the slow rubbing and kisses it turns me on more than the aggressive stuff, however if she likes the aggressive stuff then I'm telling you all wrong!! grab the hand cuffs!!!
2007-04-10 11:00:55 · answer #3 · answered by sash 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good, healthy sex doesn't start in the bedroom...it starts in the kitchen...during breakfast....the point is, a woman will respond to love more readily if she isn't led to believe that it's just "a precursor to the real thing", if it is genuine and stands on its own, if that makes any sense. For example, my husband will come into the kitchen, while I'm making breakfast, come up behind me and put his arms around me and kiss my neck. When we go out, he will play with my hair, caress my hair and face on occasion. When we are driving somewhere, and our eyes catch each other, he will wink. Simple things like that go a long way towards setting the mood for later intimacy.
Hope this helps.
2007-04-10 11:58:14 · answer #4 · answered by Gumbi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Magic, Money or something of value that would be an attractive exchange for the service. You could use some romance but I don't think women appreciate it any more, or at least enough to get turned on. The key is value and she has to get at least something back in equal value then she turns on like a stove. Love, passion and those things don't work anymore.
2007-04-10 11:09:01 · answer #5 · answered by g_menagerie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on what type of woman she is and what her love language is. Romance is a big seller. Try cooking her a candlelit dinner, or a sensual massage. Take a flower and trace her body with the pedals. Let her know how much you need her and how wonderful is. you could tell her why you love her. Get creative. Step out of the normal bedroom routine. Fulfil a fantasy of hers. The most important thing is make her feel special, like she is the only woman in your world.
2007-04-10 10:50:12 · answer #6 · answered by bar_merch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read two books, both by Lonnie Barbach, THE sex therapist in the country today, full of hints, worth every dime and in paper back:
For Yourself
For Each Other
2007-04-10 10:47:50 · answer #7 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing turns on a woman more when you do something unexpected...like housework...like telling her she's beautiful. Tell her you missed her...be real, genuine and without expecting sex..
A backrub...a romantic bath...flowers for no reason...and a kiss when she is feeling down. When you do something selfless because you love her will bring her closer to you.
2007-04-10 11:36:38 · answer #8 · answered by Marilyn C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This could just be me, but its quite simple. Do something romantic for her. Tell her you want to spend the night out with just her, and take her to a romantic dinner. OR plan something romantic at home. Give her a full body massage.
2007-04-10 10:48:56 · answer #9 · answered by Jennifer M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i definitely advise against playing hard to get if you're married, you're just going to piss her off! ask her what she likes or try kissing her neck, ears and the rest of her body. take a bath or shower together and take turns washing each other...that usually works =)
2007-04-10 10:50:14 · answer #10 · answered by Melanie Joy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋