why is letting go such a struggle? Rather it be a person or a bad habit? it is easier said than done.?

Answer 1

letting go like most departures in our lives is always painful. It is giving something or someone that has been occupying a space in our lives. It like having a seat mate or a bedmate, who has been with you for some time. Letting go would mean severing the ties that bind you, cutting the cord that connects you to each other.
You're right this is easily said than done. The longer it has become a part of us, the harder the letting go. The deeper the roots are the difficult is the tree to be uprooted and let die.
Letting go is a part of our life. We only live for a while we have to let go to move on to our different stages of life.
But the nice thing about letting go is, like a wheat, it has to die to give way to give way to a number more of wheats. Like a fruit has to fall down from a tree to give rise numerous others fruit trees in the future. That should be our inspiration when we let go. It must be a seed or seeds of something better, a source of life and hope...

Answer 2

Because when you look around every person you see will have to face losing everything and everyone she has, including herself. Death is the great equalizer. Breaking up with a girlfriend, moving from a familiar place or changing jobs all remind us that the clock is running and that we will eventually lose everything too. This can be unbearably difficult to face, but for those who are able it can make life all the more sweet and enjoyable because they're not counting on the unlikely hope of life continuing beyond the grave. I certainly can't blame anyone who needs to maintain that sort of believe.

Bad habits have other layers of reasons beyond the one above. Mainly they are comforting or distracting and they alter brain chemistry. We use everything from energy drinks to candy bars to pot to alter our brain chemistry to feel the way that we want. Letting go of that is hard enough, but some substances create tolerance and withdrawal and make it all the more difficult to let go. Ask anyone who's quit smoking.

To change behavior, do SOMETHING ELSE rather than just trying to STOP the behavior in question. That is one of the single biggest secrets. Come up with a plan for how to cope with the inevitable urges when they come. Think through the situations that are likely to bring up the urges.

Answer 3

A habit is the repetition of activity that we know and understand and works. To give that up means that we must structure that space now empty with the new behavior. It usually must be a highly attentive effort and it must satisfy the need to have that time and space fulfilled. Many people will let themselves get shut off at that point and return unconsciously to the old behavior and then have to start over again if they are determined and resolved enough.

Answer 4

Why is letting go a struggle? Perhaps because we as humans tend to cling to things? Humans are afraid of change. We want things to remain the same, comfortable, predictable and reliable.

Answer 5

Well, when it comes to loosing someone dear to you, it is very hard. It isn't easy, but we cry for ourselves. We don't normally consider the person will be at a better place because we mourn for our own loss. Once you look at it from the other person's perspective, it might be a little easier. :()

Answer 6

it's hard letting go for our own selfish reasons. thinking only of our own self than looking at the whole picture and without considering the consequences of our actions. it differs in ever person. we have to summon that courage at one point in our life to let go even though how painful it might be. this calls for maturity and strenght that comes from within.