i don't want to offend him
2007-04-10 09:52:52 · 20 answers · asked by sassy1011984 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It may not come naturally to you, but the short answer is: be direct. Men aren't good with "subtle." The next time things are getting hot and heavy, whisper seductively in his ear, "Honey, you want to know what would turn me on? ... I want you to ____________."
Also, sex is a synergistic experience, i.e., partners feed off of each other to create something that is greater than the sum of its parts. The more rough and wild you are, he SHOULD pick up on that, feed on it, and act accordingly. I'm not talking about inflicting injury or drawing blood, but try to get him going from the start. How? At the risk of getting an "R" rating here, attack him, jump on him, kiss him aggressively, rip his clothes off, wrap him up with your legs, dig your nails into his back, and/or bite his shoulder. He should respond in kind.
2007-04-10 10:07:08 · answer #1 · answered by Humberto 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow, what more can you say/do? He seems to be really opposed to it. Ask him if there is a reason he doesn't want to get rough or play out the rape fantasy? Maybe he has an issue with it and doesn't know how to bring it up and is trying to avoid it. Ask him if its a turn off for him or maybe he is worried he will take it too far or maybe he hates thinking f you as a wild, sexual being. Id stop trying to get him to do it for now and focus on why he is not doing it. Because you have been very clear as it is. Another idea to try to get him to do it, rent a porno with a woman being dominated to the degree you fantasize about and tell him, "wow, honey that is so hot. Id love to be man handled by you like that"
2016-05-17 05:34:45 · answer #2 · answered by darlene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will not offend him. what you will be doing is saying i like this. and well guys are easy more friction more speed more good. girls have a lot more that goes with the whole thing so honestly guys are cluless unless girls say something. just tell him when he gets home. that you were thinking that he should get a little bit rough in bed. he may seem wierd at this point because he is processing all the changes that are happening. and he will still be a little gentle so you have to give positive feedback when you like what he is doing. and if you give hime some ideas as to what you think is rough that will help things out.
2007-04-10 09:57:48 · answer #3 · answered by gsschulte 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just come out and tell him you have had fantasies or whatever about him gettin rough with you. Tell him you want him to give it to you hard. Tell him to grab A** and smack it. If you have been married for a while he will get the hint. Biting is also a good stimulator in the heat of passion. Give it a shot. Good Luck. J
2007-04-10 11:01:38 · answer #4 · answered by ryder204_jay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would just casually bring up the subject, and then let him know that it's something you want to try and give details about what you're looking for. For ex: "You know the other night when we did (and whatever it was that you guys did) I was thinking, wouldn't it be fun and erotic if you were a little rougher and took charge, I'm just curious what that would be like" ....you could explain it that way, this way he does't take offense and it'll probably turn him on....you'd be suprised.
2007-04-10 10:03:41 · answer #5 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Use a seam ripper to losen the seams on your panties. The next time you start to get undressed for sex, have him undress you. When he gets to your panties, tell him you want him to rip them off. He will be surprised at first but Ripping them off will give him a rush and he might be more likely to try the other rough ideas you whisper in his ear.
Try it!
2007-04-10 11:18:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him "honey, I want to see what it's like when you are more dominating and rough in bed. It would really tun me on." Then, offer to do something that he wants to try.
2007-04-10 09:58:12 · answer #7 · answered by finchfrii 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Actions speak much louder than words... Show him what you want. My wife came to bed with one of the kids jump ropes the other night and i new exactly what to do.
2007-04-10 09:56:55 · answer #8 · answered by bluemist 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You set the tone! Make the first move he may be thinking the same way. I don't know any guy who wouldn't want to. Good luck.
2007-04-10 09:58:40 · answer #9 · answered by tls 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could tell him you were listening to a talk show about how that spices up a relationship and ask him if he'd like to try it.
2007-04-10 09:59:19 · answer #10 · answered by J M 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋