I am about to go through with an abortion ( which im havin as im 17 and have no job and no home my partner is studyin and he is also skint , so its the right decision for both of us and the child) , but i was wunderin whether there were any sites to talk to other people that have gone through with an abortion , I have already got a counceller due after the abortion I just wanted to here from other people. Thankyou xx
2007-04-10 07:23:01 · 24 answers · asked by harriboprincessx 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You are doing the best for the fetus and yourself. If you take the advice of the pro life nuts, you will cause more deaths than if you go ahead and abort. The reason these pro life nuts see so many women with post abortion problems is because they nail them to the cross by calling them murderers, selfish and all the other bs that you read prior to my post. ----Most importantly don't listen to the judgemental advice from the pro life sinners. They should take the log out of their own eyes before attempting to remove the speck from your eye.
The link below will give you real non judgemental advice.
http://www.religioustolerance.org/abo_post.htm
2007-04-10 13:26:27 · answer #1 · answered by Give me Liberty 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi , i've been through the same thing a couple of weeks ago , im a student and so is my partner ,we own our own home and im 22 alot of people on here were really nasty about it saying i am selfish but to be honest the way i see it i cant support a child right now and selfish as it may be we dont want to drop out of uni either, we want to be able to support our future children and not expect the social to support us as many people do(sorry harsh but true) .If this is the right decsion for u then dont feel guilty but make sure it is the right one .And please dont listen to all the anti-abortion abuse on here these people are not in ur position and probably just assume we r all silly slappers that dont use protection ,when the fact is that nothing is 100% apart from abstaining .I have to say i did find it a difficult experience and u r right its alot better to talk about it than to bottle it up.I am seeing a councellor at uni at the moment and find it helps alot
feel free to e-mail if u need to talk about it or have any q's i might be able to help with (sometimes it is intimidating asking but ask everyone as many as u need especially ur doc)
good luck hope it all turn out well
miss_ninety_ukuk@yahoo.co.uk
2007-04-10 16:28:41 · answer #2 · answered by miss_ninety_ukuk 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sorry Amy, I thought you asked about support sites for abortion, only, reading most of the responses, I think I misread it.
Come on guys, give the kid a break. It's her decision, one that I'm sure she didn't take lightly, and it's probably one of the hardest she'll ever make and one that's repercussions last the longest, so, if you can't supply useful websites as requested, find questions you can answer instead of providing unrequested opinions.
Good luck Amy, hope it all goes well for you, I'm sorry you have to go through this but am sure you'll be a tad more careful next time.
2007-04-10 16:20:49 · answer #3 · answered by Paula R 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey..I'm glad you are making the choice you are making. It's a lot smarter than a those other people who are even younger than you, who don't have anything else, or a life, or a job, or stability and keep the child for the hell of keeping it. it's not murder what you are doing. It's the choice you need to make. Think of it this way.If in the future if you do have a child you'll be happy to know that you can acutally give them a love, roof over their head, FOOD, education. Good luck. I don't know any sites...but i just wanted to say that i don't think it's wrong what you are doing, because it's not the time for you. one more thing...PLEASE PLEASE PLEASe go on the pill, so we won't have to see this question again, and so you won't get another abortion...because at that point...i think that will be wrong..it's not a joke. Good luck
2007-04-10 19:01:18 · answer #4 · answered by Future Mrs. Hamlet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure i couldn't find any sites that i would recommend too many pro life nutcases out there ... ask your GP or someone at the clinic where u are having it done see if they know of anywhere u can go ... have included the Marie stopes website as it may help u ...
Good luck ....
to all others, walk a mile in someone elses shoes before u judge anyone ...
2007-04-10 14:35:43 · answer #5 · answered by jizzumonkey 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I feel for you. I understand being alone and scared no where to go no one to help and on top of it all carrying a child. I am a single mom of two. I was 19 when I became pregnant with my first child, I lived in a tent in a friends back yard and was unemployed. My family wanted nothing to do with me. I choose to have my baby and keep her... I am not saying it is easy by any means but where there is a will there is a way. God says that he will never put you through any thing you can't handle and he will never leave you. I think before you make this decision you should find a church and speak with the pastor. I will be praying for you, may God touch and bless you and your child's life.
2007-04-10 14:45:43 · answer #6 · answered by Cris S 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I am so sorry that you have to go through this. I was 17 when I first got pregnant and I had my son when I was 18. I was so scared because I had just graduated high school and I was only 2 months into trade school. My father thought that I should have had an abortion, but I didn't listen to him. Thankfully, my boyfriend of 4 years now wanted to have the baby. I continued to go school, although when I got past 30 weeks I dropped down to part time. After I had my son, I just took online courses.
Anyway, you can go to babycenter.com and there are chat rooms for people in your situation. If you want to talk, you can email me at stasia_08@yahoo.com.
2007-04-10 14:30:28 · answer #7 · answered by stasia_08 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
hi im a mum of 4 but i fell pregnant with my 1st when i was 17, i had no home, no money and a **** for a bloke, but i went to the council who gave me a bedsit , i went on benifits , none of that is ideal and i wouldnt recomend it but thats wat i did to keep my baby, my son was born at 30 wks and lived we then got a flat and things started to pick up, none of it was easy but we coped, hes now 11 and has 3 brothers, i went back to college and now im training to be a nurse, if u think aborting ur baby is best for u then go ahead but u can give urselfs a good life, oh and i got rid of the **** !!!! goodluck and please really think about it, or maybe adoption theres some lovely couples who cant have kids who would give the world to ur baby, xx
2007-04-13 12:38:46 · answer #8 · answered by daisy30 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck hon whatever you decide - it's YOUR life. To all those posting advice about adoption agencies and people paying for apartments - it doesn't work that way in the UK. We don't have private adoption agencies and you can't make private arrangements, all adoptions have to go through the local authority. No financial arrangement or provision is made to or on behalf of the Mother.
2007-04-11 19:14:39 · answer #9 · answered by Shelleyb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off do not let these anti-choice people make you upset.
You have made a responsible decision.
Most sites would most likely have these anti-choice people yelling their religious tactics at you.
You could try and call Planned parenthood and ask about support there.
Good luck and always work to keep choice a safe and reasonable option for women.
2007-04-10 14:36:08 · answer #10 · answered by Cammie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋