is the best way to save a marraige where cheating has occured to cheat in retaliation?

Question

its not the best way to go.....but if your spouse cheats, and you do too in retaliation....arent you then on a level playing field where things can be worked out?

tit for tat never works, i guess

Answer 1

The best way to save a marriage when someone cheats is to understand that the marriage is over because the trust factor will NEVER fully be there again. Divorce and move on.

Answer 2

Nope, I've learned that things like that don't work. I would sit down and find out what kinds of problems there are that could be resolved. Your spouse is cheating for some reason, you have a right to know, but if you go and cheat on that person, it breeds anger and it will make things worse; you know? We aren't in a perfect world and I know your spouse may not even tell you anything, but bringing issues to the surface is the first way to figure things out.

Answer 3

Cheating in return will only make matters worse. The best thing you can do is get some counseling and talk things through. The cheating happened for a reason. If you don't resolve the reason the cheating will probably happen again.

Answer 4

It's the first thing that will come to your mind. But the thing is, would it be right? Don't disrespect yourself & body. Cheating is not the answer to your revenge but rather will make things more complicated. You will just hurt each other more and the family.
As a friend once told me, Living a good life is the best revenge. Nothing to lose, more to gain. Don't let your anger control you. Cheating is NOT the answer. Believe me.

Answer 5

no. because all you do is be littled yourself. you have to forgive that person. not for them but for you. your walkin around with that stuff on your heart hurting. by you cheating you just gave a piece of you away. that going to sit in your mind. it may seem like the answer but its not. if your in a marriage ther is no such thing as a playing field. it a matter of if you love that person an can forgive them. an the choice is do i want this marraige or dont i. take some time for your self. in the end all you did was play yourself

Answer 6

You were both wrong to cheat on each other, but since that's been done, now you both need to decide where to go from here. If you both still want the relationship to work, apologize and work on rebuilding the relationship. How ? Leave the past behind, be honest, caring, loving, and respectful from this point forward. If you aren't able to work it out on your own, consult a marriage counselor.

Answer 7

Maybe to some but I don't think, for those who cheat they go so low that they never think of who they will hurt, and if this person will do the same just to get even, I think both couple can be on the same level and will not dissolve the problem of adultery,...just think about it ok!!

Answer 8

I've been there but trust me it doesn't levelthe playing field. What it does do is make a bad situation worse because now you don't trust him and now he doesn't trust you. It will always be you two trying to one up each other. Always take the high road, that way, when and if the relationship goes sour you can always hold your head up high. Also try counciling it works wonder for my husband and I and if he won't go,go without him

Answer 9

it is easier for a man to cheat than for a woman too, natually the world accepts it but for a woman she is called a ------, you know what i mean,

if you also cheat on you spouse in retaliation , you are just adding more fuel to the flames, you both have to seat down and understand what led to that and find a solution to the situation.

Answer 10

You answered your own question.

It might make YOU feel better, but how will it help the problems that caused the spouse to have an affair in the first place? And how will it make the spouse any more open to "saving" the marriage?