My best friend (4 years) got pregnant and is 7 months. it happend last sept. or oct. and she didnt tell me until january. do you think she is scared of what i mite think of her? Everytime i bring up something about the baby she always changes the subject. do you think she could be in denial? if she is so far along shouldnt she be getting things together for the baby?? by the way is keeping it!!! and she naming it after me!! im happy for her, i guess i just need some outside help!
2007-04-10 06:32:58 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Everybody has their own way of dealing with traumatic events. Because you are not the one having the baby, you probably don't fully understand just how freaked out she is about everything. It sounds like she is going to be a very young mother, so she is probably a little panicked about all the things that go along with having a new baby. Also, she is probably really worried that once she has the baby, she will never be able to just be herself and hang out with you the same way anymore. Because of this, she probably changes the subject on purpose when the baby comes up because she wants a little more time to just be a teenager before her life is changed forever. Does she have a large support system (parents, other friends, etc.) who support her decision? If so, get them all together and throw her a baby shower. Each one of you can write down a cute saying or deep thought about the joy of motherhood and get her really psyched about it, rather than dreading it. Also, it is really important for you and her other friends and family to let her know that you're all going to be there for her, for whatever she needs. That will put her a little more at ease about all of this.
2007-04-10 06:43:57 · answer #1 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always let her know that you are happy and thriiled for her and the baby and that you will be there for her and the baby all the time. Taking her shopping for some things to get her going is a good idea.
2007-04-10 06:41:26 · answer #2 · answered by skye_lashay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I kept the pregnancy a secret for awhile as well. I dont like it when people talk about me or my belly...hormones are just raging right now...she's probably feeling a bit of depression. When you talk to her, make it exciting. She's not in denial...just going through a lot. Just keep the support high and strong. She'll feel different when the baby is born.
2007-04-10 06:41:18 · answer #3 · answered by Laurellamags 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try talking to her. if shes 7 months she should definately have some things ready. maybe you could shopping with her for some baby stuff. good luck
2007-04-10 06:37:38 · answer #4 · answered by hello 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋