i fear for my grandchildren. my daughter and son in law and 3 grandchildren live with my son in laws parents. the house is disgustingly filthy, they have lots of cats and dogs. the animals do their business where ever they want in the home and the cats constantly scratch the babies. the brother in law is always hitting the kids, the house is a single family home but yet has 9 people living in it. the kids do not have their own room. nobody works in the home but my daughter. when i sit for the grandkids they always have bruises. there is no smoke detectors in the home. the home is very old and they don't even have a carbon monoxide alarm. my daughter and son in law are not the problem, the in laws are. my daughter makes sure they have food, clothes and keeps up on the medical and dental for them. they are seen reguarly by doctors. due to living under these conditions the children can't even talk. they are 6,3 and1. the father in law wont let them move. he said he will take kids away.
2007-04-10 06:12:05 · 20 answers · asked by indianadeb2000 1 in Health ➔ General Health Care ➔ Other - General Health Care
You need to talk to your daughter. First off, the father in law CANNOT keep the kids if they try to move. He would not have a leg to stand on. It is his filth that the kids are living in and no judge would turn custody over to him. All your daughter has to do is have a peace officer come over while they move their things out of the house. Offer to help them find a place to stay or offer your own home. If they move in with you they don't "have" to have their own rooms as long as they have a safe, healthy and clean environment and a place to sleep. But you do need to talk with your daughter before you go calling authorities.
2007-04-10 06:25:06 · answer #1 · answered by mom of 2 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Cps will take them away if they find out about the situation. And the father in law can not take the kids. The courts would investigate the parents(your daughter) house and then the father in laws and it is very hard to take a child from there mother. Usually the courts wont do it in less they are living in an environment that you have described. my mother is a lawyer for these kinds of things. I will talk to her and see if i can get back with you
2007-04-17 15:31:25 · answer #2 · answered by Texas angel 18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The father-in-law has no legal rights over the grand-children and can not prevent your daughter and son-in-law from leaving if they choose to. He is just making threats that he will not legally be able to follow through with. This is a situation where your daughter and son-in-law have to do what is best for their children. If this is reported, it will be your daughter and son-in-law who will be held responsible since they are permitting their children to live in this type of environment. If you are in a position to care for the children, then perhaps you are also in a position to have the whole family live with you temporarily. Your son-in-law needs to find a job as well so they can save up money to get out of this living situation. Yes, the children can be taken from a home if they are living in this type of an environment, but it will not be your son-in-law's family who is in trouble, it will be your daughter and son-in-law. If I were you, I would do whatever it took to get them out of that house. Nothing can keep them there if they don't want to be there.
2007-04-10 06:33:31 · answer #3 · answered by sevenofus 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely yes they can be taken away. The father-in-law does not have a chance of getting the kids. She needs to get herself and her family out of that situation before disaster strikes. You, as the Grandmother, have a moral obligation of reporting these conditions to Child Protective Services, but only if the parents refuse to move out. How are you going to feel when something happens to those kids, and you did nothing to protect them and your daughter? The house could burn down, or the abuse goes too far and someone dies. What kind of a future will your grandkids have growing up in a filthy, abusive house, and no one around to teach them how to talk? Calling CPS may seem harsh, but it may also be the wake-up call those parents need. Please do something now before it's too late.
2007-04-10 06:26:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
OK from what you just explained... even if the father in law trys to take the kids away... no one in their right minds would let them poor children live in that house... its unsafe, unhealthy and well just sounds plain disgusting.. they are both adults, as long as they can afford it, they should live on their own.. Maybe call the police, social services something... they shouldn't be living there.. get them out now before something really bad happens to them... and they lose the kids for good!!!
2007-04-13 16:08:34 · answer #5 · answered by openmindedfreesoul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is a plumber and he went to a home similar to this for a job, where animal and human fecies littered the house. He explained to dispatch the situation and they called child prtective. Convince your daughter to leave this situation before someone does call, it could be a meter reader, repairman ,anyone. Give her the support she needs for your grandkids sake. Why does she feel this is her only choice?? It is very hard to get your kids back if they are taken and she could be criminally liable if she keeps them in that situation.
2007-04-10 06:49:55 · answer #6 · answered by FLORIDA MOM 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
definitely!!! I anyone from social services came in and seen the conditions those children were living in,they would probably be removed and put in foster care until and decent home could be had for them. Your daughter needs to get those kids out of there. The doctor could even report them. If there are no finances, maybe welfare could help them find something. Please, for the childrens sakes, somebody do something.
2007-04-10 06:19:43 · answer #7 · answered by momofnine 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The father in law cannot take th children away with his home in the condition that you described. The adult kids should get out on their own and raise their kids away from that nonsense or they could be taken away by the state for living in unhealthy conditions.
2007-04-10 06:21:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the others. If you truly think that these living conditions are dangerous, then it is your responsibility to do something about it. I had a friend living in an eerily similar situation: My friend, her husband, 3 children plus one infant, her 500lb handicapped mother in law, and terminally ill father in law... not to mention the animals. When the ambulance had to be called to remove the mother in law from the home, they reported my friend to CPS. Let CPS judge whether or not the children are in danger, you can report them anonymously.
2007-04-10 06:21:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your local state agency (e.g child protective services) were ever to make a home visit, the children would be removed from the situation and it would ultimately be very unlikely that the parents would ever regain custody of them! It is also very likely that charges would be pressed aginst the mother and father! No children should be kept in such an enviorment!
2007-04-10 06:16:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋