i am 14 and i really want to have a baby what should i do?

Answer 1

Babysit someone else's baby!!!

Answer 2

Somewhere in your mind you sense that this is not good for you, or else you would not have posted this question. So that is positive. Part of being a mature teen or adult is to look past want and do what is best not only for ourselves but others as well.

I know that you know 14 is not an appropriate age to become someones parent. Being a parent is a huge responsibility and it is extremely stressful, thankless and scary. Grown adults find it difficult can you imagine the strain it would put on a 14 year old.

I think that you need to take some time and try and figure out what it is you think a baby would do for you. You very obviously are trying to fill some void. What is it?

Once you figure out what you are really trying to do, you can take more positive steps to filling that void. You do not want to be a parent. What you may be looking for is the unconditional love that you think a child will give you...Funny isn't it. Your parents thought the same thing about you. How is that paying off for them?

I wish you luck

Answer 3

You are crazy! Having a baby is for adults. It's not easy. It's hard, hard, hard work. Have you ever taken care of a baby? Once you have a baby, all the fun and games are over. It's not about you anymore, it's all about taking care of that baby. What kind of a life can you give a child? Do you have a job? Do you have a house? Do you have health insurance? Can you afford food, clothes, diapers, wipes, medicine, doctor's copays, bottles, etc? I'm 35 years old and married, and my husband and I make around $100,000 a year and we can barely afford to pay for all those things. You need to think this over.

What about your life? You need to stay in school, go to college, get a good job, and then get married and have a great job and find a great partner who can help you buy a house and have a home. Then you can start to think about kids!!!!

If you like babies so much, get a job babysitting!

Answer 4

YOU ARE STILL A BABY YOURSELF!!!!! IT IS SO HARD TO RAISE CHILDREN, NOT TO MENTION IT COST MONEY EVEN IF YOU GO TO DHS AND GET HELP THEY DON'T PAY FOR DIAPER THEY ARE LIKE 9 TO 10 DOLLARS A PACK AND YOU'LL GO THROUGH SEVERAL A WEEK , WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU OR THE BABY GETS SICK AND THE STATE INSURANCE WON'T COVER MEDS.? WHAT WOULD YOU SO? YOU CAN'T GET A JOB BECAUSE YOU ARE 14 AND WHEN YOU DO YOU CAN'T WORK A LOT YOU'LL HAVE A BABY WHAT WILL YOU DO IT IF YOU SAY DAYCARE HOW WILL YOU PAY FOR IT. AGAIN NO JOB, THINK ABOUT IS SWEETHEART YOU ARE ONLY 14 PLEASE RETHINK!! i HAVE 3 BOYS AND i AM 24 AND IT IS HARD NOW FOR ME. ENJOY BEING ABLE TO SLEEP BECAUSE WITH KIDS YOU GET NO SLEEP, YOU'LL REGRET IT BECAUSE YOU ARE SO YOUNG THEN IT WILL BE TO LATE. BABY'S CRY A LOT AND NEED ATTENTION 24/7 . STAY IN SCHOOL AND IF YOU REALLY WANT A KID FINISH SCHOOL AND THEN GET A JOB AND MAKE SURE YOU ARE READY AND NOT 14 TO HAVE A BABY.

Answer 5

Take it from the rest of us sweetie it is way too much work to deal with a baby. You would bring another human being into this world that needs to be cared for not just with love and affection. But with money, time, educational needs, wants, pains and desires. Think about how hard it is for you right now.

What if your child grew up and wanted a baby at 14, what would you say? I'll tell you what you would say get a hobby, let me get you a pet, anything but a child.

My daughter is 13 and she doesn't have any other siblings but she started helping another younger child at Big Brother Big Sister and she realizes that it's not easy taking care of someone other than yourself.

Being a single parent isn't easy and you would have to relay on someone else's money, time and expertise. It's too stressful. Trust me!!So my advice to you is take care of you and the rest will come later, husband, baby and all!

Answer 6

First of all, I think that it is very common for someone to want a baby , but you have to put things into perspective. At 14, darling you are not financially capable of raising a child, or able to take care of any of the other needs that a child will have. You have your whole life ahead of you so take one step at a time and when you are older and in a position that you will be able to care and give a child all of the things it needs, then make that decision. For now focus on you and your needs, such as an education, so in the future you can afford that baby you want.

Answer 7

please read this!! At 14 i wasn't interested in boys but we are all different!! I'm now 17 and 18weeks pregnant!! I was with my child's father since i was fourteen and at that age it seems like a fairy tale!! "IM GOING TO HAVE A BABY AND MY BOYFRIENDS GOING TO BE THERE!! IM NOT GOING TO HAVE TO DROP OUT OF SCHOOL CUZ I'LL GO TO A CONTINUATION SCHOOL" sorry to say it doesn't really work that way!! i know.. I'm only 3 years older than you!! and might i add NO 14 15 or 16 year old guy is mentally or financially ready to support you and your baby!! I'm just lucky I'm home schooled and have such a supportive mother!! but if you don't take all the advise that's on this page and decide to have a baby at 14 MAKE SURE YOU DONT LET IT BE YOUR REASON FOR FAILURE BUT MORE LIKE YOUR MOTIVE FOR SUCCESS!! i know its mine!!
good luck Shea!!

Answer 8

Start babysitting and if possible , get your school to get you one of the computer tracked 'baby dolls'.
This urge is based on being totally clueless and reality usually cures it.
They are NOT toys and they require care 24 hours a day . NO more friend time , it will be ALL baby time for years . . .
Let alone the fact that you probably have NO $$$$ to rent an apartment let alone feed it and pay for doctors.

Start caring for real babies and the doll where they can track if you don't get up in the middle of the night for the baby feedings or ignore the cries and all the other neglect teenage parents subject a baby to.
(you can end up in jail for child endangerment and neglect)

Reality should bring you back to your good senses in a short amount of time.

Answer 9

Wait! omg wait... I swear I know how you feel... When I was 14 - 16 I couldn't think of anything else...

I'm now 21years old and 21weeks pregnant and I swear pregnancy is NOT FUN. It's stressful and hard.... and when the baby comes it's even worse.

Before you can be responsible for another life you need to grow up yourself! You need to live life and have some experiences so you can teach your child..

Besides all of that, you are going to have to have a good job before you can raise a child... and a place to live, and I would recommend you also have a husband or life companion before considering parenthood.

Answer 10

Talk to your parents about it. You are way to young for a child. Have you tried babysitting? You need to sit down and think about it. Who will be raising the child? Who is going to pay for the child? Who will watch the child while you are in school? How will your parents react? Those kind of questions. A baby isn't a toy. You can't just take the child down from a shelf when you want to play mommy and when you get tired of it you can't just put it away. Having a child is a lot of work and money. It could be a phase you are going through.

Answer 11

figure out whats missing in your life thats making you want a child. No 14 yr old wants a baby for unselfish reasons, generally it's because you feel out of control with something in your life that is making you want something that you can have control over, such as an infant. What none of you guys seem to get is that the infant controls you much more then you control him or her, and a baby is not going to fill that void. Find something else to do that is less destructive.