See it;s like this, me and my fiance my high school sweetheart wants to have a baby. And I dont know if I should wait or go for it. I need some advice I think I am ready should I wait or should I go for it.
2007-04-10 05:28:41 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
I don't think the issue is age, but maturity and commitment. I would wait until you're married and settled, then discuss when the best time to have a baby is. It's a big decision and a life-changing decision. It's wonderful, but not easy. If you have to ask, it's probably not the right time.
2007-04-10 05:33:58 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it really depends on YOUR life. I'm 17, not, yet graduated, still in school, living at home, JOBLESS, and 4 months pregnant. I am NOT ready to have a baby. Wait to rush into something like this. What you might not realise is that this is a full time job for the rest of your life... a child doesnt go away when u cant afford it and it doesnt just switch parents for a while so you can finish school or do some of the other things you never got a chance to. PLEASE wait... wait until you know your ready and theres no question about it because i would hate to see another person in the situation that im in.
But if you think that you are ready then go for it. A child isnt a burden its one of natures miracles and it can be a great blessing
Good Luck with your decision
2007-04-10 13:46:26 · answer #2 · answered by Sam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's not so much the age as where you are in life. Having a baby while your still in school is probably not the best idea (at least not in high school, college there is a little more wiggle room but you'll still have to focus and work much harder than everyone else to get your degree). I believe an ideal time to get pregnant is when you are happily married, both have stable (yet flexible) careers and are past that "party stage". Whether that happens at 20 or 35 totally depends on the person.
2007-04-10 16:32:42 · answer #3 · answered by boo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you have to ask if you are to young to have a baby, then you are to young. This is something that is going to change your whole life. Can you afford a baby? Do you have a job , insurance and all of the rest of the obligations that come with parenting ? Think about your future first and the rest will fall into place in time....
Do not let some guy talk you into something and then when you know it he is gone and you are on your own raising a baby. Make sure there is a wedding ring on that finger first....
2007-04-10 12:38:05 · answer #4 · answered by perrisgal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are engaged, just wait until you are married and settled into you home and family life. Then after you settle into marriage go forward with a baby. There is no magic age~~it depends on maturity, financial stability, etc. Some are ready at 19 others are not ready at 30.
2007-04-10 12:45:13 · answer #5 · answered by Oh me oh my...♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a baby is a massive massive responsibility! Everyone will tell you that lol!
I think that you should wait and finish school (high school) if you haven't already, find a good job (if you haven't already), and then plan a future and have some fun, then try for a baby.
The way I look at it, is that you want to give your child everything, and anything, and you have to be in a position for that both financially and emotionally.
Only you both will be able to make that decision.
2007-04-10 12:34:48 · answer #6 · answered by chloe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, how old are you, have you finished school yet, if not get an education first, do you have a place to stay, are you both working. Having kids is hard work, it's a 24 hour a day job and they are expensive, if I were you I would enjoy my life for a bit longer, don't rush into something you may regret later, when you see all your friends out having fun. You have your whole life ahead of you, what's the hurry.
2007-04-10 12:34:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Under 18 is too young. Its what I did and it wasn't easy. Enjoy the teenage years before you get stuck with a life long responsibility. I love my kids to pieces, but watch my friends go out all the time kinda makes me wish I would have waited. Good luck!
2007-04-10 12:36:39 · answer #8 · answered by ashleighharder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a place to live that will be enough room for a baby? Do you have a steady income? Do you have health insurance? Do you have enough money to pay for $50 a week in formula and baby food, $50 a week for diapers and wipes. Do you have enough money to buy clothes for your baby and still have enough money to feed you and your boyfriend? If you can answer yes to ALL of these questions, then you are old enough to have a baby. Age isnt a factor.
2007-04-10 12:36:16 · answer #9 · answered by Michelle Moy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are you? are you ready to become someone's mother? if you can honestly answer this question knowing that you are financially stable and emotionally prepared for the baby then age shouldnt really be a factor
2007-04-10 12:34:13 · answer #10 · answered by best kept secret 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋