This past 3 months, my husband has being fantasying about my close friend and wants us to have a threesome. Is that acceptable? Are any of your husbands asking you to do some weird things like this or is it just my husband?
2007-04-10 05:27:15 · 45 answers · asked by bella v 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
A fantasy IS a fantasy as long as it STAYS a fantasy.
As soon as it become reality, the entire dynamics of your marriage and your relationship with your friend will change, and I'd be willing to bet, not for the better.
2007-04-10 05:43:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
its up 2 u
2007-04-10 06:15:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This type of thing is very sensitive and not to be taken lightly. You must be absolutely sure that you and your husband have a very close relationship and that you trust each other implicitly. If you are having any doubts then that is already a danger sign.
There is nothing wrong with experimenting and some couples have very successful multi-partner (sexual) relationships.
First, ask yourself if you could watch him with another woman and not be angry.
Could he watch you with another man and not be angry?
You should all sit down and talk about it first. Make sure there are no surprises and lay out some ground rules.
If you decide to do it make sure that alcohol is not involved. Be sure that you are all completely lucid.
Ultimately it is a question that you both must answer.
2007-04-10 05:39:37 · answer #3 · answered by Sapper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest that you not do it because you are going to loose 2 things. 1 being your friendship with your best friend, because you will never be able to look at her the same way, because she to would have been with your husband. and 2, your marriage eventually, because once is all said and done, you will also not look at your husband the same way either knowing that he has been with your best friend. You need to think of how you are going to feel about both of them being together even if you are there watching and participating. I know that men fantasize about this type of stuff and it is better left as a fantasy. because afterward you will want to know how your friend was and if she was better than you and so forth....so for the sake of your friendship and marriage.....i would not do it.
2007-04-10 05:36:07 · answer #4 · answered by mrs_endless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has fantasies. If you act on that fantasy tho it's a different story. Has he asked you how you feel about it? Or is he only concerned about his feelings? If you are really uncomfortable with it then do not do it. You will risk a relationship and a friendship. If you are comfortable with it and your friend is comfortable with it then do it. Just keep in mind the consequences.
My husband has hinted around a couple of times but i think he was joking. I don't think i could stand the thought of him even touching another girl!
2007-04-10 05:35:21 · answer #5 · answered by mikeandjackie_98 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not this is normal these days and you did not mention if this is something you are interested in. Do you think you would go for it? It may bring you closer or tear you apart. My ex wife actually approached me with the idea but then got mad at me because she said I was more into her friend. MAKE sure if you do to lay it out right away that there will be asking of stupid questions like was she better? This is a mans number one fantasy.
2007-04-10 05:31:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although it's a strange situation, I actually know at least two couples that had a threesome with a family member. In both cases the reason given was because they felt that the family member was safe and would keep it secret.
2016-04-01 07:04:23 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All normal men have a fantasy about a threesome. Who better than their wife and her best friend. I tried this with my ex but it never happened. Oh how I wish it had though.
If the GF is up for it and you don't see anything wrong with it then let him have his fun as a birthday present.
If you think it's wrong or disgusting then tell him you could never do that or never do that again?
2007-04-10 05:37:19 · answer #8 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope.. if my husband asked me that I would soon be a widow. Doing a threesome is only asking for trouble. I would not even consider it. Not only could it be damaging to your marriage but you will lose a friend as well. It is one thing to play games
in a marriage but to bring another person into it is bad news like they say three is a crowd.
2007-04-10 05:32:47 · answer #9 · answered by greeneyedredhead 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Never ever do that with a good friend. And think very long and hard over all of the consequences of doing such a thing. Fantasizing is one thing, acting on it with a close friend is a whole other ball game!
2007-04-10 05:34:13 · answer #10 · answered by Kris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋