He doesnt have that bad of a past just because when we first started going out he was kind of like a rebel. But now hes nothing like that but they wont even give him the chance to prove it. Im really close to my family and im planning on move in with my bf in a couple of months. What do i do it will be hard to bring him around my family.
2007-04-10 04:20:26 · 12 answers · asked by lost_in_love_still 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You should never let your family get in the way of a relationship....If you love him then the will eventually get over it.....And if they don't they will atleast except him so that they can have you around....And then when you two are not around they will probably talk about him, but will that really matter because you nor him will ever hear it. And if they do try to talk about him infront of you, defend your man and don't let them do it.....I have been with a man my family hates for 14 years now and I still love him with all of my heart....And my family excepts that.
2007-04-10 04:25:44 · answer #1 · answered by todayillsee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all, don't move in with your boyfriend. For your own sake. It seems to be a popular "next step" in relationships, but it ends up in disaster all too often. If he's not willing to make a committment to you (i.e. propose) he shouldn't get the benefit of having you in-house. If you're not ready to commit to him, you shouldn't be living with him. Don't compromise yourself, and hold off for a proposal.
Second, don't worry about your family unless he really has done some serious things. Perhaps they are concerned because they don't believe he has changed and improved. If you're going to stick with this guy, then stick with him. They'll come around sooner or later. You need to live your life as you see fit. Help them to understand that you truly appreciate their advice and warnings, but you have made your choice. Don't alienate your family in the process, you'll always need them to be there for you, and they always will be no matter what man you choose.
2007-04-10 11:28:06 · answer #2 · answered by robin0408 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Understand they are just looking out for your best interest.
No offense but you are not a good judge of how much he has changed, you are too close to the issue and bias for him. Remember love is blind and all that? There isn't anything you can do about your family except give it time. One of you will be proven right in the end. Hope it's you.
2007-04-10 11:26:02 · answer #3 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one...first off, your family may be right, and you might be blinded by your feelings for him. Are you SURE he is a changed man? Second, alienating your family by staying with this guy will tear you apart. And yes, your relationship with them will change. It will be strained and uncomfortable. Are you sure he is worth it? Third, your family might be nosey busybodies who think their 'poop don' stink' and probably need a little controversy to keep things going. If so, then don't fall for this controlling behavior. Deep down, you know the answer.
2007-04-10 11:28:59 · answer #4 · answered by MJESUSE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm..have you tried to tell all the good things about him to your family? Convince them to give him a chance, it should work I think. They obviously wants to see you happy that's why they behaving so. You should talk serious about this to them and listen what they have to say about all this. I can understand its not easy to start a new life by breaking all old relationships. Maybe they are right on few points, just try to compromise by listening to them and try them to make understand how you think about him. it's huge step you should think carefully by doing anything.
2007-04-10 11:35:22 · answer #5 · answered by Miss N. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm facing a bit of that myself right now and what I can tell you is that you just have to let them think what they want and keep encouraging your BF to hang out with them. If they don't like him, that shouldn't change their support for you and your decisions. It's your life, dear.
2007-04-10 11:31:31 · answer #6 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just have an family event your birthday for an example where he will be and they will be or if you have a cousin or sister around your age then go on a double date and she can see how he is and brag about what a great guy he is
2007-04-10 11:24:38 · answer #7 · answered by Avaria 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is up to YOU not your family who you should date or fall in love with. if they dont like him then that is something you need to talk to them about because it is important that they get along if you are planning on being with him for a log term
2007-04-10 11:23:33 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Sabre♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't force him on them. Let them see how happy you are and that will speak for itself. You may also invite them to your place some time. But by no means should you try to get their approval of your choice of mate. Good luck.
2007-04-10 11:25:37 · answer #9 · answered by Just Because 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if your family loves you which i know they do then trust me they will eventually get over the fact that your with him and except it. as long as he's treating you right.
2007-04-10 12:49:11 · answer #10 · answered by guyisha05 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋