My boyfriend Kevin and I have been together for about 3 years since we were both 19.His best friend of 5 years, Jake and my best friend of 7 years, Casey have been dating for about a year now and we would hang out together a lot. One night 6 months ago we arranged for the 4 of us to go to this party and both my boyfriend and best friend couldn't make it so me and Jake went together. We flirted most of the night and ended up sleeping together. We felt like total **** about it the next day because my boyfriend pretty much worshipped the ground I walked on and my best friend adored Jake. We agreed to keep it a secret which turned into a 6 month affair that neither of our partners ever suspected. We probably would've felt guilty as hell if we hadn't had so much fun together and had the motto that you’re only young once. Two weeks ago we got caught and our partners went nuts. I've had my BMW keyed, the word “****” spray painted on my car, Jake’s car got bashed with a baseball bat and his tires slashed which my they’re getting the bill for. They’re being really childish about all of this and making idiots out of themselves. What is wrong with these people?
2007-04-10 04:16:34 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
it hurts to be screwed around with, especially by some one who was supposed to be a mate for 7 years.
Your attitude of being only young once seems to imply no remorse or guilt, and lack of care. Which , be honest here, is not nice to be on the receiving end of.
A break up is like a death of sorts, where you need to go through 7 stages to get over, the first being shock, the 2nd anger. So accept that your ex-friends are going through these natural stages and that's that. if you feel they are being childish, well then you be adult about it and accept some level of responsibility for
2007-04-10 04:29:18 · answer #1 · answered by bee bee 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Who is being the childish one, here? Disrespect begets disrespect. You both disrespected your partners. You are over 18 and considered an adult. I would have to bet that your relationship with Jake will end soon since it was a relationship (sexual game) built on excitement of going behind ones back and very immature. With this crazy world and the wackos out there, ie: the disgruntled ex-boyfriend who shot 32 students in Virginia this week you are damn lucky that you got away with getting your car keyed.
No one is going to respect you unless you respect others...or more importantly YOURSELF. Cause right now your don't think much of yourself to put yourself in a compromising situation.
Ask yourself "What's wrong with me?"
2007-04-17 11:56:26 · answer #2 · answered by LAT 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There isn't a problem with them, it's you I'm worried about. Just picture yourself in Casey's shoes. Your best friend totally betrayed you! Your boyfriend betrayed you! You've been hurt by 2 people you loved! literally!
No one's made to perfection. I hope you realise your mistakes can't be justified. It's true ''you're only young once'' but like seriously, that dosn't give you the right to do things like this, especially at the expense of another.
Even if you had fallen out of love with your boyfriend, you should have been honest & had a proper break up. He'd probably still hate you but atleast you wouldn't feel as miserable as you should be feeling now.
I cant imagine how you can NOT feel guilty :S
Be honest with yourself.
Its cause of girls like you that guys end up being gay. They lose all faith in having a committed relationship. I hope you'll find it in yourself to realise you've made a huge mistake, which you're probably gonna regret later on, especially if you had a really devoted boyfriend. I really do feel sorry for him aswell as your best friend, for having to go through that horrid experience.
2007-04-10 04:50:02 · answer #3 · answered by Shobha 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can't believe you have the nerve to ask this question on Yahoo answers unless it is a joke. If it is true, forget it. I sure hope you never marry and you don't ever hurt anyone like you have your "best friend of 7 years" or your so called boyfriends friend of 5 years.
2007-04-17 16:16:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If anyone is to be blamed,its you and Jake...
Because you both never considered others feeling and have been cheating on them for long,its an absolute betrayal you both had done to people who had faith in you...
You can just be happy that they dint harm you but only the things around you have been damaged for you hurting their feelings..
You never got to understand true love n it shows that you are not worth for anyones love..
You are a kind of girl who is selfish n never cared for others feelings..
All you care about is yourself n your happiness....
2007-04-17 18:06:16 · answer #5 · answered by Krupa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, they are taking it a bit too far; but they have reason to be mad. I have no respect for people who cheat, or people okay with the fact that they cheat. Maybe they've tried to talk to you about it-to express their anger and you failed to listen? They are obviously extemely torn up by this... If I were you, I'd more so be asking the question "What's wrong with me to decieve my boyfriend AND my best friend for a fling?" But I'm not trying to be a "b*****" Just giving out my opinionated answer.
2007-04-15 13:31:18 · answer #6 · answered by Mara 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't really think you can ask that question.
They were the ones that got hurt and you can't complain about what results your actions caused.
Surely you had some idea that you would get caught and this would happen. It's a common story.
One the other hand, you can't be blamed for what they, as individuals, did.
Just think yourself lucky that it hasn't been worse.
2007-04-10 04:31:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hurt plays out in damaging ways
Hurt turns to anger and voila
Im sorry
Its sounds like an awful situation
Give it time and ignore the parties concerned
They need for you to feel the damage they feel
Not adult no excuses
2007-04-17 00:35:31 · answer #8 · answered by ~*tigger*~ ** 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The fact that you cheated on your boyfriend with your best friend's boyfriend was not childish? To make matters worse, you carried the affair for 6 months. If i were them, i wont valdalize property, its not my nature. But i dont blame them for what they did. After all, you deserve it.
2007-04-15 17:29:55 · answer #9 · answered by pretty asian 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It was nice while it lasted, wasn't it? But COME ON...you didn't know that this would happen sooner or later???
What is wrong with them? Absolutely nothing. They are pissed off that you betrayed them for months. What is wrong is with you and your fellow cheater. Take responsibility. Admit you were wrong. Move on.
2007-04-17 09:39:08 · answer #10 · answered by realisminlife 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋