My boyfriend Kevin and I have been together for about 3 years since we were both 19.His best friend of 5 years, Jake and my best friend of 7 years, Casey have been dating for about a year now and we would hang out together a lot. One night 6 months ago we arranged for the 4 of us to go to this party and both my boyfriend and best friend couldn't make it so me and Jake went together. We flirted most of the night and ended up sleeping together. We felt like total **** about it the next day because my boyfriend pretty much worshipped the ground I walked on and my best friend adored Jake. We agreed to keep it a secret which turned into a 6 month affair that neither of our partners ever suspected. We probably would've felt guilty as hell if we hadn't had so much fun together and had the motto that you’re only young once. Two weeks ago we got caught and our partners went nuts. I've had my BMW keyed, the word “****” spray painted on my car, Jake’s car got bashed with a baseball bat and his tires slashed which my they’re getting the bill for. They’re being really childish about all of this and making idiots out of themselves. What is wrong with these people?
2007-04-10 03:55:50 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
well what is wrong with them is that their "best friend" and partner slept with each other and never told neone bout it which is ******* stupid on your part you should be honest bout everyting with your partner duh
2007-04-17 17:47:14 · answer #1 · answered by Paige S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
heyy there! i have never been into that kind of situation before but i'll try my best to help you. You should say sorry to your bf and your bff and if they forgive you that good but if they dont then i guess you'll have to let it go and date Jake. But i do have say that its yours and jakes fault for this. you guys could have atleast said to your partners that you guys were having too much fun that you guys slept in bed together. but idk maybe you and jake could arrage a dinner for kevin and your bff and talk it out and you sorta deserved getting your car sprayed and jake deserved getting his car bashed with a baseball bat and his tires slashed but that's the past forget it. its equal now you spelt wiht jake and they destroyed both your cars so it's fair and you guys should just forgive each other.
2007-04-17 16:06:56 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's easier to blame someone else than accept blame yourself isn't it? You can't say that you didn't expect them to be happy about it. What'd you expect, that they were going to forgive and forget? If you're all friends you would know not to do that. And I know you migt've been "in the moment" or we dont know how you felt at the time. But come on now. You're old enough to know wrong from right and what you and Jake did was VERY WRONG! And you let it go on for 6 months knowing it was going to hurt your Boyfriend. You shouldn't be asking what's wrong with these people you should be asking what's wrong with me?
2007-04-17 13:34:35 · answer #3 · answered by meximari420 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are being really childish and making fools of themselves? Wow. That's the height of self-centeredness. What is wrong with these people, as you so put it, is you and Jake. You cheated, and more interestingly, did not care. Even now, you have no regrets. Nor do you think you did anything wrong. It seems to me that you and Jake are the fools who are acting childishly. Frankly, you're getting less than you deserve. Did you really suspect you'd get sympathy here?
2007-04-10 04:05:09 · answer #4 · answered by JB 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whats wrong with you and Jake? I can't believe you two would even go there. You got what you deserved, and so did Jake. Geez...you could of broke up with them or something, but to keep it going, that is just wrong of you.
2007-04-10 04:05:06 · answer #5 · answered by Ellyn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is wrong with them?? What is wrong with you and that jake guy....you hurt your friends bad..yeah what they are doing is kinda childish...but what you to did was childish to...you hurt you best friend real bad and he hurt his best friend...what the hell do you expect......all i can say is whatever they do to you isn't half as bad as what you 2 did to them.....you should've thought about it before you kept cheating on them for 6 months...that was just completly wrong!!
2007-04-17 15:07:31 · answer #6 · answered by Tiffany G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, ya'll played with fire and you got burnt! What they are doing is not right, but they are acting out of rage and passion. Passion overtook you and Jake and that's how this mess got started, based on your description.
Best of Luck..
2007-04-17 07:41:57 · answer #7 · answered by Kbear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Waht is wrong with you? Dont you see how badly you hurt these people? While I agree it is childish to vandalize property they are letting their emotions get the better of them. They should be glad that you are out of their lives. With friends like you they dont need enemies.
2007-04-10 04:05:31 · answer #8 · answered by mnwomen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now what would you think if this happened to you? well its the same and therefore nope its not childish its stupid but youwould have to prove it but oh well move on and forget the problem and dont' look back.
2007-04-17 12:53:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay, the destruction of property is extreme -- a baseball bat! but really, you hurt people. and obviously, anybody's first instinct would be to hurt you back. i'm not saying you deserve it, but i'm not saying your former partners deserved it either.
if i were in their shoes, i'd be pissed. you're just going to have to deal with consequences of your actions, and hopefully no one else gets hurt. whatever you do, do not retaliate. just fend them off the best you can, and let them ride it out.
2007-04-16 00:37:15 · answer #10 · answered by EchoHound 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nicely, that's disingenuous to pretend you're something once you at the instant are not. you're perpetuating stereotypes and that i in my opinion do not see any fee in what you're doing, different than perhaps on your person own entertainment. i assume your answer relies upon on your thought of morality...in case you have a thought of morality.
2016-10-28 08:28:50 · answer #11 · answered by sherie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋