It was quite fun and my wife enjoyed it but I'm not sure if this is the right type of lifestyle for me. What do you think?
2007-04-10 03:01:08 · 48 answers · asked by ? 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
It is probably not a great lifestyle choice - but I think you should enjoy the memory and not let it turn into something negative.
Most times the fantasy is better than the reality. I know a few couples that did this and one or other of them let it destroy them. Think of it as a lived out fantasy and don't let it mess with any of your relationships.
It is kind of like a dish you need to put away in the cupboard for now. You can get it out and enjoy it later.
2007-04-10 03:34:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
There are always those "second thoughts" after what you do. You all three had fun. Why didn't you join in? Talk to your wife and see how she feels. Was this a spur of the moment or did you have this plan going for a while. It is no big deal. Either you do it again or never again. So what. Good luck.
2007-04-10 06:33:51 · answer #2 · answered by WB2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a life style that you and your wife have to sit down and really discuss big time
Some people enjoy the life and live it and stay happily married.
It takes talking and certain people to handle this. Its not for everyone.
It doesn't make your wife any less a good loving wife or you a good husband. If you haven't been through it you can't say.
Most of all if one of you don't feel comfortable it's not for you. That's it!
Last word who is anyone to judge
2007-04-10 03:17:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure that 'Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgendered' is the right choice of category for your question?
Answer to your question - I haven't a clue, but this often seems to be like putting relationships onto thin ice, full of risk and potential hurt. Why risk damaging something that is valuable? And your relationship with your best friend is highly valuable too.
Think this through deeply before repeating it. Don't be swayed by others, it is your call.
Good luck! Rob
2007-04-10 08:56:07 · answer #4 · answered by Rob E 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are questioning it then it may not be right for you, but only you can decide that. You are not the first or the last person to do this. Swapping partners is common. I used to know a couple who openly went to Swingers parties & said it enhanced their relationship. I think we all have to decide what is right for ourselves, not let anyone else judge us or decide how we should be living our lives.
2007-04-10 05:35:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this a dangerous path you tread... you both have to be sure its what you want... you have to be prepared for the green eye monster to appear and it could destroy what "lifestyle" you have.... as you are talking about it now perhaps it was not a good move and you need to discuss this with all in question..
either way i wish you luck....
2007-04-10 05:16:43 · answer #6 · answered by tink 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you probably need this fantasy in order to get your rocks off! I'm sure that it's too late. You've probably done this dozens of times. You might as well continue or go see a psychiatrist about helping you.
2007-04-10 03:12:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Who came out with the idea you your wife or your friend
2007-04-10 03:19:42 · answer #8 · answered by franco vita 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're not sure then don't go there. A "not sure" means you're not comfortable with it. What happens if you're wife decides this other man is better than you?
2007-04-10 08:58:17 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it's each to their own...but if you really loved her and vice versa you wouldn't let another man, especially your best friend touch her.
Although you can't really complain when she sleeps around because you've already watched her sleep with your best friend, I think you've crossed most boundaries.
2007-04-10 08:24:49 · answer #10 · answered by Cherrypink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋