Legalising Marraiges for gays and lesbians?

Question

"Legalising Marraiges for gays and lesbians would thraten the stability of the family"- give your veiws FOR or AGAINST the statement.

This is a Project.
Its a Statement All I wanted was your veiws why whould u be for the statement, and why would u be against it. Back up your answers with detailed reasons... Allot of answers got did not really give me enough

Answer 1

Well, it's been legal here in Canada for 4 years now and guess what? Cats and Dogs aren't shacking up with their owners, kids are still being born to heterosexual and gay couples alike, Brothers and Sister are not marrying each other, fire and brimstone have not rained down upon us, Churches and religion can and do still preach their beliefs and are not being forced to marry homosexuals, the family unit is alive and well, society has not collapsed and most importantly, our civilization continues to thrive.

This is not fiction, this is fact, so the question then becomes, now that gay marriage is proven to have no ill effect on the stability of the family, can religious nutbars get over themselves and realize they don't control the world anymore?

Answer 2

My 2 cents worth...
gay and lesbians are marrying in churches or through other spiritual organizations anyways just to show their love and commitment to each other. Lots of couples have been together for years. No less than a heterosexual couple. So, WHY shouldn't they benefit from the legality of the commitment as heterosexuals?? They are people too and deserve the same rights and privileges. We need to get with the times and stop seein labels and start seeing people.
And the argument for damaging the stability of family is nonsense. Look at all the hetero marriages falling apart. Look at all the children in foster care because somewhere along the line we stopped thinking of others and started thinkin of me me me. The stability was lost when we became selfish and stopped considering other's feelings.

Answer 3

I think the heterosexuals have already threatened the stability of family with the cheating, divorces, unwanted children, 3somes, deadbeat dads, incest, abuse, rape... I think people foget that homosexuals CAN reproduce, even though the couples raising the children are same-sex. The children in gay/lesbian homes are very happy, healthy, intelligent children who are not dysfunctional or 'automatically gay.' Children do not "need" parents of both sexes present to be happy. Most gays are born with heterosexual parents! Marriage is supposed to be about the union of two consenting adults in love who are not blood relatives. The bonds of love are not about any religious beliefs because we all have different beliefs, so it would be wrong to make everyone follow the ways of any one particular religion (such as Christianity). True love is about love and in all fairness and equality, church and state should be separate things. Gays and lesbians who marry should at least get the very same legal entitlements as anyone legally married. Keeping the religious element out of our lawmaking can help change what could be legal.

Answer 4

I already answered this question before but since you asked it so nice, I will answer it again.
How can the fact that I am married to a woman treat the stability of the family? As if I would have married a man if I hadn't been able to marry my wife...
I am who I am and since I have the same rights as my fellow countrymen and -women, I have the right to marry who I want!
Besides, many years ago, when homosexuality wasn't accepted, people married under pressure of the community and their family... Many children were born in such marriages... Children who now have to deal with the fact that one (or both) of their parents are gay and have been living a lie for many years. Is this so much better for family stability?
And what about all the divorces? Amongst my siblings (4 children) I'm the only one who is with the same partner since I was 19... So which one of us is in a stable relationship?

Answer 5

This claim is a specious argument -- on the surface it sounds like it has merit, but in fact, it lacks logical or causal relation.

But we must ask, in what possible ways does gay marriage challenge or threaten heterosexual family organization?

Andrew Sullivan is a conservative pundit who has written a good book about this and many articles, trying to uncover what real fear drives the Right Wing Religious persecution of gay marriages.

Sullivan compares the question to the fear-mongering which the U.S. had about interracial marriage in the period 1910-1960s. Ministers made claims that God created the races and to mix them was an offense to God -- very few churches would do this today, or even admit they did this, but it's a historical fact.

in the same way, churches will eventually catch up to the morality of civil society, but not until they cause a lot of suffering for many folks.

Answer 6

how would it threaten the stabliity of the family... OH i get it. Threaten the stability of like undermine...like say some random pop star getting married vagas for a few minutes..no that deosnt undermine marriage...but two people who love eachother and happen to have similiar genitals...no thats threatening.

Its absolute **** to say that it threatens anything, except for maybe the fat, white, rich mans sexual insecurity.

I cant wait until the day that our children look back in history and feel sick to their stomachs about the way gays were treated. I cant wait to tell my children or grandchildren that daddy was on the good side.

To those that think two people who love eachotehr shouldnt get married: good luck explaining your bogotry to your children. Yeah I know the bible and bla bla but people who chained up blacks and sold them also used the bible and they are still seen as scum

Answer 7

Sometimes even the "legally correct" families make the biggest mistakes by abusing their children and even killing each other; I think that real families are groups of people that cheerish and love each other no matter their gender. Why not let the gays have their right, I mean at least they are not throwing bombs and invading foreign families for money, ironic is the fact that these abusers are the ones against gay marriages, and they are legally correct right?

Answer 8

I'm for legalizing gay and lesbian marriages.

It's not like it will change any one else's lives. People aren't going to start converting their sexuality because now they can get married either which way. I think marriage laws might have to change, like the waiting period just because of the quick marriages in Las Vegas, and those types. But that change would be for the better anyways.

I think we should give marriage rights to gays and lesbians and not just call them 'civil unions'. Whatever. But if two people love each other, they'll live together and know they'll spend the rest of their life together, they're practically married.

I think that gays and lesbians should be able to be as miserable as 'regular' married couples are. :)

Answer 9

Against

In todays world approximately half of all marriages end in divorce. That doesn't even take into account annulments. While it is true that a developing child does benefit from a stable home life, if so many marriages end in divorce already allowing more marriages cannot be said to worsen any effect of marriage on family stability.

This does, of course, assume that by the use of the word 'family' you include children to make it 'family' instead of merely a married couple as a faimly. But, considering that gay and lesbian couples cannot conceive children in the general manner, it all becomes a moot point. If there is no family for the to 'unstabilise' gays and lesbians cannot threaten family stability.

But, as there are ways for gay couples to have children, allowing them to marry can only surely serve to improve the stability of those family units as they have a legally binding document to keep the parents together.

Also, who ever mentionned the necessity of a parent of both genders, that was completely unrelated to the question. Even if it is true (I do not agree) it has no bearing as to whether gays getting married threatens family stability. Not everyone who gets married has, or even wants, children. And the issue of gay adoption is goverened by completely separate legislation from marriage.

Answer 10

I contend that FAILURE to legalize marriage for same-sex couples threatens the institution of marriage, and thereby the stability of the family.

As gay couples are more and more prominent, out of the closet, and living in neighborhoods across the country, the depth of their love and commitment will become obvious to heterosexuals. Denying such love recognition in the marriage laws makes those laws seem antiquated to everyone. Therefore, even heterosexuals will see that love and marriage are no longer associated with one another.

When heterosexuals see their love and the love of their gay and lesbian neighbors as equivalent, they will be less likely to go through the marriage ritual. However, were same-sex couples allowed to marry, it would strengthen the marriage bond as the vessel that contains the strongest commitment couples can make to one another.

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