Please help!!!!!!!!! Totally stressed beyond belief!!!!!!!!!!?

Question

My baby daddy and I got in a fight last night. I'm so tired of dealing with him, but I don't know how to let him go. We have been living together and I THOUGHT we were suppose to be together, but last night things just blew up. He's crazy! I was on the expressway trying to take him to work and while I'm going 60mph he shoves the steering wheel, with our kids in the car. He was screaming in my ear and growling. I can't take it anymore. Things have gone down hill since he moved in together last year, and especially since he pushed me and I called the cops. Now he has disorderly conduct on his record. I told him I'm not happy and he said that since he has no where to go around here (Oh) that he has to go to Ga where he has family to stay with. The thing that makes it so hard is the fact that he was my "first", and the kids. I know you women and probably some men will agree that you always have that general concern for your "first". My girl is 4 and my son is 7m. I dn't want um to miss out

I want to let him go because I know in the end I would be a lot happier, but it just seems so hard to let him move so far. I think if he didn't have to move to GA from OH I would be able to cope better.

Sweetme, how did you learn to let someone in after this happened to you?

Sorry I didn't say that he's a good daddy. That's not an issue. I know it sounds like he's not,a nd he does do crazy stuff with them around, but when my daughter was little I still lived @ home. he would come get her or I would drop her off and things were good. He was happy, she was happy, and I was happy, especially for the fact that he was standing up and taking care of her (something I never had from my dad). So I'm pretty sure he would hurt them if he could see them w/o me in the picture. The only thing I would be worried about is him taking off w/them.

Answer 1

I was in a bad relationship and I got out.... I was 3 months pregnant and it was soo hard. SO HARD. It is the best and healthiest thing though. Maybe he is just saying he would have to move but if he cared about his children he wouldn't do that. To tell you the truth my ex said the same thing that he had to move with his family to NC and right now it is over a year later and he still lives here. I know it is rough but don't drag it on any longer. You will feel upset at first but afterwards you will realize that it was the best thing you could have ever done. Down the line you will find a good man to treat you right.... I did. Good luck to you.♥♥

Answer 2

He is a negative influence on you and your children. This aggressive behaviour could escalate and get worse.
He may be the biological father for your children but that doesn't make it safe for them to be around him. He can scar them emotionally and physically.
This man can't stand on his own two feet, let alone take care of his family properly.
He is looking for someone to take care of him, you have your own kids to look out for.
You are not his mother or his keeper and he has no respect for you or he wouldn't continue this behaviour.
You are right, you would be a lot happier without him.
So he is your first, keep a spot in your heart for those feelings and let go.
He will not be there for you in any way, shape or form.. if you think he will, you are fooling yourself.
You know in your own mind.. come on that he is a dud, stop covering up this bad deeds and face them... they will help you make the decision to end this here and now....
You need to start fresh, so get him out of your house and life.
So he goes away, that is a good thing, cause he won't be messin with you and confusing you even more.
Get your kids involved with a community group, big brothers or sisters or something at your church, where they will meet strong role models... This is what they need.
It is your job to protect them from harm and to nurture them, so get to work.
Clean house first (get rid of him)and make a plan for you and your children's success.....
You will be happier, and you know it!!!!!

Answer 3

Firstly, you get over your "first". Some people remember them fondly, some with regret. You will get over it. You will get over each man in your life who is not the right one. This one is clearly not the right one. He is abusive, dangerous, and does not care for you or your children's welfare. You called the cops on him and that alone should be enough for you to tell him to get out of your life. I hope you had him arrested and prosecuted, and did not abandon the case just because you love him. This is a domestic violence situation. Neither you or your children are safe until he is gone. It would be best that he moves far, far away so he cannot come back and hurt you. Many men who abuse their women by hitting them become more violent over time. You say you don't want your children to miss out...miss out on what? Miss out on being around a violent, angry man who has no respect for the mother of his children or the safety of his family? Your daughter is already 4 years old and has seen and experienced enough of this man's poor behaviours to affect her for life. Save your son and help him grow up to be a good man by deleting this nefarious character from your lives as soon as possible. Get out now while you still can. There are domestic violence hotlines in just about every town and they can help you if you need a place to go. Please don't get hung up on feeling love for your first love. For one, this man does not love you or your children. If he did, he wouldn't act this crazy, scary way. And secondly, you will find better love - I promise. Believe in yourself and make the best life you can for your children. Be a strong woman and leave him - that will be the best example you can set for your children. Broken hearts heal and you need to grow up and think of your children. He may have broken your heart, but what if he breaks your bones, or worse, one of your children's? Kick him out and move on with your life.

Answer 4

Fighting is not good for you or the kids,if you two can not work it out,it is best to split be for someone gets hurt or the kids.

Answer 5

TRY GETTING YOUR OWN PLACE OR TELL HIM TO GET HIS OWN PLACE. MAYBE SOME TIME APART WILL MAKE HIM REALIZE WHAT HE IS DOING AND WHAT HE COULD BE POSSIBLY LOSING. I AM SURE THERE IS A WOMANS SHELTER IN YOUR TOWN SOMEWHERE OR DEPARTMENT OF HUMAN SERVICES SOMEONE IN TOWN THAT WILL HELP A MOTHER WITH 2 CHILDREN GET OUT OF AN ABUIVE SITUATION.

Answer 6

let him go before he kills you or the kids!