2007-04-08 23:58:56 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well what does that really mean?
Your mother is your mother no matter what. Whether you choose to deal/interact with her is a different question. Your wife is supposed to be your soul mate and life partner. Likely that you two will be together for a much longer time than you are with your mother. YOU also have many more significant life events with your wife. Living in the same house as adults, children, financial management, health concerns, sex, and a mutual support for each other. You do not have these with your mother...unless you are really weird.
Choose the wifey
2007-04-09 00:54:09 · answer #1 · answered by jamonit 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I've lived with my wife twice as long as I did my mother.
Oh, I guess that just answered this question........
Why is this even a plausible scenario? Won't mommy let go?
The natural scheme of things is that you cleave to your wife with the blessing of the parents. Why the need to choose?
There comes a time, usually about 18 years old, that parents must accept that have done all the training they can and the child must make their own decisions about things. There is something seriously amiss if there is a necessity to make that choice between wife and mom. If would be a mother who cannot accept her mother role as advisory to adult children.
For this situation to exist indicates that a lot of mistakes were already made along the way. This is not a choice that anyone should need to make, ever.
2007-04-09 00:40:06 · answer #2 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should not have to choose at all. If the mother forces him to choose he should put her in her place in a nice way and stay true to his wife. If his wife forces him to choose, he should put her in her place and tell her that all family is important and that just because they are married does not mean he will stop speaking to his mother.
2007-04-09 00:39:02 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Sodas♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ideally, I would simply choose whatever I thought was the right thing to do, and if it disagreed with either my wife or mother than I'd try to explain my decision with love but be firm in it.
On the other hand, if there's no moral question here, or it was something that wasn't important but I was being called upon to side with one or the other and all other things were equal then I would certainly side with my wife.
I would want her to 'stand by her man' if the roles were reversed, so it's important that I stand by her as well.
2007-04-09 00:41:45 · answer #4 · answered by Jon S 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wife. You should choose the wife. I know this because my soon to be exhusband has chosen his mother over me for the last 17 yrs. I can't take it anymore.
2007-04-09 02:40:22 · answer #5 · answered by Lorrie W 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I am a man,which I hope I wont be,(kidding), I would pick a wife than my mother, for the reason that my mother gave me my life and took care of me, but wife will be my future and my partner and will put up with me day in and day out..just my opinion...
2007-04-09 00:05:09 · answer #6 · answered by islandgirl06 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
you have some fairly sick recommendations dealing with your head. first of all i could in no way become in touch with somebody like that. yet enable's say I did. i could refuse to chose and that i could stroll suitable as much as the guy, kick him interior the relatives jewels, then attempt to combat him for the weapons together as my mom ran for help and my husband helped me take the weapons far off from the loopy guy. Ya possibly i could get shot, yet you do no longer mess with the individuals i admire. If i bypass down, so is he. there is mostly a good risk together as we are suffering for the weapons, that i could accidently shoot him a pair of cases : ) opportunities are high this guy is making plans on kill the two my husband and mom and probable me too, so what do I could lose by potential of attacking him? that's greater efficient then status there and doing no longer something yet begging him to no longer kill them, whilst i understand that's what he plans on doing. i'm hoping you're no longer the loopy guy, who needs to try this, for the reason which you're enjoying a damaging activity and you will finally end up being the biggest loser of all.
2016-10-21 10:17:20 · answer #7 · answered by trinkle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they both love you then you will not be asked to choose, stand up for yourself man! play it like this if your mom is right she is right if you wife is right then she is right don't choose a side choose the individual situation
2007-04-09 00:40:14 · answer #8 · answered by ponitail 55 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why on earth should anyone have to chose between the two.a real man must know how to tackle both of them without hurting the others feelings. you r bounded by duty to both of them.dear brother, if ur wife is wrong dont abandon her, just explain to her with love make her feel secure.tell her u need her and cant manage without her support.ask her if her brother deserted her parents how she would feel.i am sure she will understand. and if ur mother is at fault speak to her alone and in a very soft way,tell her u love her and u need her guidance to live ur life.tell her to support u. put ur head in her lap and make her feel wanted in ur life.this should solve ur problem.but never ever chose between the two.
2007-04-09 00:18:27 · answer #9 · answered by natasha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is yet another unsolved question globally, like, which came first - An Egg or a chick?
But one thing for sure. You have an option for the wife but not for mother....... Love your mother because you have no other option and love your wife because you opted her......
I think my hubby will die..... LOL
2007-04-09 00:10:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋