why doesn't he stop lying!?

Question

why doesn't my soon to be x-husband stop lying to me! he has been lying to me since november about why he cheated on me. i know he is still seeing her and he just tells me some BS lie. "we put or relationship on hold till the divorce paper work is done" he says.
what a crock! he's all clean cut, shave chest, wears cologne, new clothes.
why cant he just tell me the truth! AHHH!
is this some sort of game or what... why wont he stop lying?

Answer 1

Maybe he's just a stupid manipulator...dont fall for it........they deserve each other. Go find someone who doesnt have to lie.

Answer 2

You will never get the truth from him,it's a guy thing a code they live by.It's a secret code men have lived by for ever,I'm not making this up it's true.How many times have you heard of a man telling on another man, the only time is if he wants the girl for himself so he tells the wife or girlfriend that he has been cheating on her, that is the only time a man will tell on another man.You could walk in and see them in bed in the middle of sex and he will say it isn't what it looks like.If that doesn't work then he turns it around and makes you think your the reason he is cheating on you and most women are naive enough to believe it. The men use the pain the women are in to their advantage and 9 out of 10 women believe it was something they did,and the man lets her go on thinking that.Why not it gets him out of the hot seat.

Answer 3

Maybe he is lying, maybe he isn't.

The big question is "Who cares?"

Honestly, if you two are getting a divorce you should be more interested in getting your affairs in order and separating like grown adults.

For all you know, he may be telling the truth and the changes you cited may simply be a new part of his self image that meet some emotional need of HIS and aren't necessarily something he does just for the other man/woman/whatever.

Answer 4

If you two are divorcing why the jealousy? Did he want to divorce you and that is why you still have obvious feelings for him? Who cares why he lies. When you two are divorced you have no part of his private life and don't need to know who is with or isn't with. If you two have children then that is all you need to talk about, the kids, not who's he with. A divorce is the end of a relationship that lead to marriage and didn't work! You need to concentrate on you now. Not who's he with or been with or might end up with. Worry about you and be truthful to yourself.

Answer 5

honey, i know it's tough, but you need to not concern yourself with his dating life... he may be lying, but that is a big reason why he is your ex.... be glad you got rid of him when you did and not when it was too late (as in contracting something you can't 'wash off'!). If there are children involved, i can see why you would need a mild bit of interaction, other than that, you need to just worry about your own romantic life, as hard as it may be at this point... i really hope i didn't come off harsh, I'm only trying to put you on your own romantic concerns, and open your eyes to the fact that the more you harass him about his romantic life, the more flattered he becomes! don't give him that satisfaction girlie :o) go get someone who is clean cut and smells good for you :o)

Answer 6

If you stop asking him questions, he will. If he is the one making the conversation and you are quiet, buy some of those ear pluggers or wear those bunny shirts that say "I'm not listening?!"

I have a better idea, why are you still living with him? Move out. If he ends up having sex with you, be aware of the cooties you're going to get from that tuna sandwich he keeps sleeping with. Yes, STDS is transmitted through sex partners , you know.

Answer 7

Do you still love him and do you think he still loves you? If there is still a chance, try reading the Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands by Laura Schlessinger. It probably sounds crazy but I went through the same thing and it helped me and my marriage and it's helped a lot of other married couples too. My husband and I actually finalized our divorce May of 2006 but thanks to how that book and Dr Laura's advice changed me, we remarried in Feb 2007 and things have been a million times better this time around.

Answer 8

It's an ego thing for him. He won't admit to his mistakes because he knows he did wrong and feels some kind of guilt. Just be glad he will be your ex soon. I know you are wanting some kind of closure but the truth may not come out till after some time when he's ready to admit it (if at all).

Answer 9

men always lies , they lie and lie till they forgot whats a lie and whats not, we would be wasting our energy and iq to just solve the mysteries of men who lies so honey get back on track ignore him, move on, find a lesser men they dont lie and get yourself a brazillian wax , new cloths, perfume and a new men till the divorce paper is done.
dont give him the attentions thats what will drive him crazy , dont even communicate with him
make yourself available again ... men can lie but if we are smart enough we can manipulate :)

Answer 10

He is lying and will not change. He does not feel he needs to explain himself since it is over. Who cares who he is with, he is not worth your time or trouble. People who lie need real good memories so move on and I Hope the next guy you meet makes you happy, Your ex will end up cheating on his new woman too and end up on the Jerry Springer show.

Answer 11

hey dear if he cant stop lying then y dont u except the truth that he is no more in the relationship,one thing is fact that he is ditching u,its better that u ditch him that sound atleast good for u this time,i know u must be feeling bad or hurt about this but dear he is nt hte only person out here in this world u will find more caring man out there,who will gives u lots of love and care more then him,who will think that ur happiness is more than his happiness coz ur hppinessbeneath in ur happiness hope u got wat i mean go ahead be happy in ur new life forget the past,coz past is past and well come ur better tomorow and enjoyed them with a fellow who loves u -all the best dear have nice time - [e-mail]