What would you do if Ur child is gay?

Question

I have a nephew who is the most handsome Kind hearted little man u will ever meet. I see things in him that send off the "Gaydar". He is the only son and his mother has passed. His father denys him dolls and anything pinl(which is his favorite color).
The man's a real caveman and a self righteous christian to boot. I have informed his sisters that we are gonna let him be whoever he is.

The only thing I truly fear is how he will be mistreated. So instead of letting him be a victim I am gonna train him in self defense..

What would u do in this situation? please no sick haters need apply. This is a child.

Answer 1

I think that sounds like a good idea in signing him up for self-defense classes. At least, it will boost his self-esteem. You sound like a great role model and very loving as well as supportive. If you continue to play such a role, whether he comes out of the closet or not, you will have been a strong, meaningful influence in his life.

Answer 2

I assume your nephew lives with his wifeless father. Whatever you see is not important. What is important is the child's well being.

Your nephew must stand on his own two feet, not his uncle's. From your tone, your nephew's mother was your sister. This means communication with your brother-in-law needs to increase.

Playing with dolls or liking the color pink is not an indicator that you nephew is gay. Moreover the lost of a mother at an early age may cause actions that are misleading.

At this point, you do nothing. You watch and make sure your nephew is not harm. Your idea about self defense training is a good idea, talk with his father about it.

Answer 3

I would not care I would love him anyway, I have a similar situation I am positive my nephew is gay and my brother and sister in laws are very catholic and thinks that gays go to hell, the great thing is when he grow up he will still have family and a place to stay with us, be a support as much as you can you can always protect him he has to learn a lot on his own but let him know you will alway be there for him and love him the way he is!

Answer 4

You don't mention that he is gay, but you think he may be? Many boys have feminine traits, which does not mean gay. My son is gay, and I just love him. I worried about other mistreating him in the world when I first found out while he was in high school, but I worry less now. He the most loving, handsome, intelligent young man (of course I'm mama), and it really doesn't matter who you prefer, that's such a small part of this large life. What I did was love him. I didn't promote it (I'm not a PFlag parent), I didn't oppose it, I just let it be, and enjoy him being in my life. We talk more about his school and future career and friends (including boyfriends) and politics and on and on. Hope this helps.

Answer 5

I don't believe in an invisible man but I do believe in God. My son was gay. I must say that I was disappointed but loved him anyway. When he was diagnosed with AIDS, I didn't desert him as his gay friends did. I took him on trips until his health began to fail. Then I was always available to take him to his doctor appointments and get his meds for him; even drive places to bring him things to satisfy his late night food cravings. When he died at age 37 in 2001, I was deeply grieved but I also know that he wanted to die because he was tired of the agonies he was going through. After witnessing first hand what that lifestyle can produce and reading how prevalent AIDS still is, though main stream media is doing what is currently "politically correct" by not reporting it, gays, adulterers, pedophiles, and what have you will still answer the calls to fulfill their lustful appetites.

Answer 6

Oh dear. If your right, this little man is probably in for a rough ride... with his father i mean.
I am very open minded and i would not care in the slightest if my kids where gay, or bi (doubles your chances on a friday night!)
I honestly think you are born that way and its not a choice. Like wheather you are born with brown or blue eyes.
If i were you, i would stay close to your nephew and let him express himself when he is around you. Let him play with dolls as well as trucks. Draw flowers and butterfly's... and buy him that pink donut! who cares! It might just be him wanting to experiment because he is not 'allowed' to have/do/say these things.
When he is older, he'll turn to you when he needs someone the most and you'll thank your lucky stars.

Good Luck!

Answer 7

You know, I have a little brother who is on the feminine side. He likes to play dolls and likes pink and it's absolutely no big of a deal... just spend more time with him playing sports or something. If he's a child, he'll grow up to be anything that you have taught him to be. For example, if he grew up in a family that taught him violence and hatred then he will grow up violent. If you teach him kindness and let him get closer to God, then he will grow up to be a very good young man.

Answer 8

Love him no matter what his sexual preference is.

Your worry may be in vain. I thought that my son showed signs of being gay. I made sure that we always had a good close relationship. He has told me many things that most children would not tell their parents.. I once asked him if he ever had confusion about his sexuality, and he admitted that he was once curious about that himself. I, of course, told him that no matter what his choice was, that I would love him. He has since decided that it must have been a phase that he was going through, because he can't imagine being intimate with a man. I have to say, however, he is very sensitive to other people's feelings. It may be that I raised him by myself. It really helps him with his girlfriends. They love his kindness and consideration.

In the meantime, make sure that this child does not suffer any abuse. If you see anything that that appears to be abuse, notify child welfare immediately. This child should be treated with the same respect as any other child.

Answer 9

I have two kids. I hope and pray that I never have to face this, as I do not condone homosexuality. However, iof either of my daughters told me when they are older that they prefer women, I would still love them. They are, after all, my children. I would do the same thing as you, I think. I would make sure that they know how society feels about their choices, and I would make sure that they know how to turn the other cheek to the rude comments.

As an added note. I am a Christian, and I do not believe that homosexuality is right. BUT!!!! I believe that we should love the sinner, and hate the sin. Just because someone is homosexual, God does not love them any less.

Good luck in whatever choice you make!!

Answer 10

i'm glad your doing right in training him in self defense.. that shows your support despite whether or not you accept his morals.. you know he probably has concerns regarding "himself" as well.. and no one has never had the guts to ask him.. you should have a one on one conversation with dude.. and talk about that situation.. like why he feels that way.. and why he behaves a certain way.. he may've never had a close male friend.. and from how you described his pops.. he may just not feel the love he needs to from dude... and having sisters and no bro's could play more into how he acts and views life as a whole... me myself.. i'd have a talk with the guy.. and i would be devasated.. but in the end you can't force someone against themselves.. they have to see on their own.. so your teaching him how to fight is a good first step.. but a conversation is just as must due.. no assumptions

t.londons!