my bf and i have been together for 2.5 years now and have a great relationship. it started out a little rocky only b/c i was super clingy and used to moving in w/a guy right away (this is why i divorced twice). we've talked about moving in together and someday marrying. i have 3 little girls that i have part-time that he loves very much. we always go out and do things together. we're both 28 and done with college. he's never lived with anyone let alone someone with kids but has told me before it's what he wants-he just has to get used to it.
we've looked at rings on the internet for me and for my birthday he bought me a 1500.00 diamond necklace. he also just gave me the key to his house.
he tells me i'm his best friend and i'm always the first person he tells his problems to or asks for advice from. he just told me on fri that he's in love with me and he made the decision a long time ago that i'm the one he wants.
is there a marriage in the near future or not for a while?
2007-04-08 19:03:44 · 6 answers · asked by prncessang228 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we've both met all of our family members. his nieces call me "auntie" and his sisters refer to me as their sister as well.
we've been remodeling his house the past year and he asks me my opinion on what i want before he changes anything and i don't live there.
2007-04-08 19:05:11 · update #1
he has mentioned that he just wants to take things slow b/c he's never lived with anyone (especially kids) and the only long term relationship he was in ended badly (they were high school sweethearts and she left him b/c she felt like she was missing something).
2007-04-08 19:09:31 · update #2
Just keep going with things the way they are. Dont' start nagging about moving in or getting engaged. This guy sounds great and maybe he's just a little nervous about commiting himself. And really 2.5 years isn't that long to date. Just be patient and give him time and let things move at a pace he's comfortable with.
2007-04-08 19:31:09 · answer #1 · answered by cs_ds_02 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is in love with you and I do see wedding bells. The good thing that you see you had a problem in the past, and this time you have to learn to take things slower for the sake of keeping it together with trust in the relationship you get far with someone. Without trust and needy, clingy, scares guys away...What ever you do set limits and boundaries always, what you want, expect, for the sake of keeping the relationship healthy to be honest and open minded to learn to have a better relationship with your partner, a simple yes or no...Your little girls are very lucky your boyfriend cares about you all, you found someone to care for them, and you.
Not that many guys would want to get involved with a women whom already has three children and has been married two times. They see red tape, but that's just dumb, and judmental.
That's how you know that guys whom are that way, weren't that interested in the person as they claim to be, just wanted some fun not realizing they hurt children when they are selfish this way because children are inocent and look forward to see that someone whom they think loves their mom. It takes two, but women are much more sensitive than men are, and not all women like to be taken for a ride, but this is how some guys are, typical of them thinking with the wrong head. I dont think yours fell into this category, so I hope this helps your answer...Children are smart, they can sense the bad ones but some moms cant see it, till they get burned, wont listen to their children, and some are just insecured that they will not come first, fear comes into their lives, and selfishness...
You found someone that cares. Children are a blessing in our lives, and wish you the best. Good luck...
2007-04-08 19:27:10 · answer #2 · answered by HOPE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay sounds like he wants his cake and to eat it too.
It might be better not to live with him although, especially if you have kids even part-time.
It sounds like he wants to get married. Most men will not give a ring to a women unless he is serious. The first thing to do is to talk to him. Don't give him a deadline but tell him how you feel. You might even want to talk to a counselor before the wedding. Good luck.
2007-04-08 20:05:36 · answer #3 · answered by Ruthie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, 4 me it looks like he loves u a looot n he wants to marriage u!
2007-04-08 19:08:08 · answer #4 · answered by wanna b me 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it to me. He also sounds like a great guy. Good luck to both of you.
2007-04-08 19:07:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try the psychic freinds network or ASK him.
2007-04-08 21:16:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋