I have a friend who will cancel plans with me the very last minute. to the point where i already took a train to meet her somewhere. I had a huge talk with her about how this hurts me as a friend and makes me feel like she doesnt care. She promised not to do it again.. The next week, she begged me everyday to go to a concert with her. I finally said ok.. She called me 20 minutes before we were going to meet saying she was sick and cant go..... I went alone like a loser.
I didnt even say anything this time, have not gotten back to her in 2 months, should i just forget her as a friend?
2007-04-08 19:00:22 · 15 answers · asked by tbo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I'm surprised you have to ask. You know the answer. Forget about her. She is intently self centered, rude, and thoughtless. No one needs a friend like that. If she does ask you to do anything with her just say NO. dont even try to explain why to her so she cant talk you into it. Just say no.
2007-04-08 19:29:51 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
u know i think it would be best to ask her why she does that n find the real reason. coz u c noone would make a plan just to cancel it at the last moment. do find out why does it happen everytime??? but all the same hereafterwards when u do make plans try to be ready to carry out alone. u should have done it long ago. then u wdn't have been so frustrated. now the thing is u must njoy ur plans n u can't dump someone just coz she cancels the plans or u can always invite a few other frnds. then it won't really matter if she can't come!!!
ur buddy
2007-04-09 04:04:02 · answer #2 · answered by ur buddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if you should completely write her off, but you definitely should not agree to go anywhere with her again. Next time she asks you, even saying, I really mean it this time! (LOL) act a little bored at the idea and mention another plan you have. Think up another thing you're going to do that day, if you must, and then do it. You don't need to keep rearranging your calendar and emptying your pocketbook and emotions on someone who seems to get a kick out of knowing you will continue putting up with this shabby treatment. And that's what it is: shabby treatment...and she's testing you, whether she realizes it or not. You have better ways to spend your time. So spend it better.
2007-04-09 12:47:50 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't dump her. She may really be telling the truth. People have busy lives now a days, so busy we don't even have time to spend with the close ones we love. Just ask her when is a good time for you two to get together. Don't drop someone because something bad comes up and they say they can't make it. We are humans things happen.....we make up for it, we move on. If she did this once or twice, it shouldn't be a big deal, if she does this every time then just ask her straight up, do you really want to hang out with me or are you just too busy. First see what she says and give her another chance, I've had friends like this, heck I've been like this myself a couple of times too. It is called life things happen, like I said we our all humans!!! To think if you would have dropped her and then she said she couldn't make it because her Grandmother died or something tragic like that happened, then you would feel really bad. Just give her another chance, thats the real part of friendship!
Good Luck Hon!!!!!!!!!
2007-04-09 03:09:29 · answer #4 · answered by Daughter of a Coma Guy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow, sounds like your "friend" is just stringing you along! Probably makes arrangements with you as a backup plan and when something or someone(usually one of the opposite sex) better comes along, it's "see you later!" to you. Now, that's NOT a friend and it's not very nice of her. Sorry and she's very inconsiderate too.
Forget her. Many good people out there to make friends with!
2007-04-09 02:14:06 · answer #5 · answered by imm 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be her friend, just don't make any long term plans with her. If you want to do something with her, make it a spur of the moment kinda thing. That usually works with people who back out all the time.
2007-04-09 02:06:07 · answer #6 · answered by namojaro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have not spoken in 2 months, maybe she has already dumped you!
Move on. Who needs loser friends like that!
Oh, and I am willing to bet the only times you did ever hear from her was when she needed something or thought you could do something for her.
Cross her off the list.
2007-04-09 02:04:29 · answer #7 · answered by Viola Shumski 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Probably your friend has taken you for granted. Just treat her as a normal friend and don't waste time feeling bother by her. Go out and spend more time with other friends who bothers.
2007-04-09 10:23:54 · answer #8 · answered by KalaFerns 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes I would forget about her. If you do decide to be friends in the future though just don't make plans with her. Be telephone friends.
2007-04-09 02:05:03 · answer #9 · answered by winkcat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't expect her to change. Change ur outlook. Realize that u always have the control of saying yes or no to her when she asks to meet. Don't always say yes, but do always keep ur word.
2007-04-09 02:04:56 · answer #10 · answered by Gist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋