is it posible to never have an orgasm,?

Question

im 20 and have been with my boyfriend for 4 years and ive never had1, ive slept with other guys be4 him and still havent??

ive tried a hundred time by myself with toys and nothin feels good

Answer 1

I bet your b / f's glad you shared that info with us !!

Answer 2

I had the same problem up until i was 19. Here is what I did; I went to a female freindly sex shop and bought a vibrator (where the vbrations were mostly directed at the clitoris, the rabbit). Best thing I ever did. I am 22 now and I have never looked back.
Research what you think you want and go for it, don't be dissapointed if you don't orgasm the first time you use it, I didn't. just keep on trucking! Good luck.

Answer 3

I've slept with my former boyfriends and i never orgasmed...it's been nmore than 5 years. I also thought i would never have an orgasm. I was really wondering why they say sex is the best. When I got married, the first few months of having sex, i didnt have an orgasm till my husband taught me how to get an orgasm and from there that was the time I told my self, sex is great!!!. It's just a matter of muscle control, you can learn it if you masturbate...and also you have to have a partner who will teach you that and it's not that easy to learn coz even me, it took me almost 6 years to feel the glory!

Answer 4

I read somewhere that 70 percent of women don't orgasm. That is a very high percentage. Can you reach one by yourself? If you can then it is possible with your partner.

Try and relax, let him know what arouses you, but most of all don't let this be the most important thing about your lovemaking. Focus on your closeness and how well loved you feel, because intimacy is better than the big O.

I too never had one until I met the right person, I was always shy and uptight. When i met my husband this changed. I now have had years of having the big O so good luck!

Answer 5

Some women never have an orgasm, it is all about relaxation and "letting go", letting it happen.
To be as young as 20 and not had one is nothing to worry about. It's best to begin on your own.
Make sure you are alone in the house and won't be disturbed, unplug the phone and go somewhere in the house that is comfortable. It might be easier to leave you knickers on and touch yourself through them.
The secret is, to find something that "does it " for you and to keep on doing it until your body responds. Doesn't matter what it is, as long as it excites you. The rest is practise.
Once you have found what excites you, you might want to share it with your boyfriend or you may keep it to yourself, whatever. Enjoy!

Answer 6

Orgasm is mental state and it has nothing with physical. You use what ever method- sex is all about mind and body plays its tune.

Look within- you may not be happy or relaxed while doing it and/ or may be you could not have someone who generate 'that' feeling inside you.

Orgasm is concerned with pleasure and sensation..and this is right that good percentage of women do not experience this and certainly not every time.
Do not think about it too much- relax and take it normally.

Answer 7

Its more common than you think. About 1 in 10 women.
Anorgasmia....
But....you just might know HOW to have one.
Its not like stuff you learn at school for crying out loud.
And people get all weird and think they Should know - and thats where the embarassment and shame come from. Screw that. That takes all of the fun out of sex if you take it seriously.
Get a book from borders, they have all kinds and read up on it. Who cares what the clerk things. You probably will never see them again, and people buy books that are far more embarassing.

Answer 8

It is totally normal to never have an orgasm. It depends on the man and woman and how they do it. Maybe try different positions during sex. Foreplay can also sometimes stimulate orgasms.
Sometimes if the male caresses your breasts this can also trigger an orgasm.

Answer 9

Don't feel bad. I wasn't able to have an orgasm until I starting masturbating. I think out of all the times I had sex...I only reached climax once. So in order for me to feel pleased, I masturbate.

Just start exploring yourself and eventually you'll reach your climax.

Answer 10

Youre too hung up with guilt and s h i t !! I'd get you there though....never fail ! Regards your "pill" answer and the disgusting food...you mustve been in UK cafes or anywhere there where food is served in public. That's normal..not to do with being on "the buffalo" (bill) Pill. Get a man not a boy,get orgasmic and grow into a proper Woman !!!

Answer 11

I've heard some women do have problems with that but you're still young. Maybe you could try different things or try some herbal stimulation pills. Or talk to a doctor about it.