If someone you are LIVING with complains nonstop whenever you disagree with them, shouldn't you do or say som

Question

one night in May 2006 my mother made my father go live with his mother, then that night unbeknownst to my brother, 22, sister, 19, and I, 21 she unplugged & hid the phone & went out and got her crazy online gf from Albany, NY who had taken the bus to MD and the next day rented a moving truck and we had to get everything we could in 1 day and everything else was abandoned, & move to Albany. In August my mother drove me back to MD for college, but her gf came along and yelled at me the entire way and cursed my mother's parents out when we got here and my mother did nothing but sit in the vehicle and look sad. But my mom's gf would just go on and on complaining about me and expect me to just sit there and LISTEN to her complain about me and do NOTHING.If I even tried to leave or cover my ears she would physically attack me and I would be in tears and no one would do ANYTHING. So was I really just supposed to sit there and LISTEN to her talk crap about me and do NOTHING? What would you do?

and for some reason my mother, brother, and sister would not do or say anything; they all apparently thought that I should just sit there and not do or say anything while my mother's gf went on and on and on. WTF??? If you are living with someone you are SUPPOSED to be able to disagree with them and speak your mind to them, even if it means being rude. And if this means having to defend yourself then so be it. Am I the only one who realizes this? Or am I wrong, and should I have just avoided complaining or saying certain things in my mother's gf's presence, and not done anything when she complained nonstop (and often made COMPLETELY untrue statements) about me? Keep in mind that she threatened to kill me and would put me out of the apartment in a city where I knew nothing and no one if I myself did anything physical.

Answer 1

Wow. I don't know if you could do anything in the moment that wouldn't just make things worse for both you and her, but afterwards I would certainly take your mom aside and ask her what the heck she is thinking having that woman around and how bad of a situation you really are in. Your mom I'm sure is smart enough to realize her gf was completely in the wrong to do that. If she's not smart enough, well, I don't know what you can do about that except to get out of that situation asap when or if you're old enough to do so. Good luck.

Answer 2

The real question is why do You stay and expose yourself to this abuse. You're above the age of emancipation. Arguing is neither productive or conducive to you having a functional life.

Where's your father in all this? Your emotion would be better spent consoling him than siding with your mother and siblings. If they chose to lead that life leave them to it.

Your remaining in this dysfunctional relationship is empowering the gf. Your rejection of her irrational behavior may awaken them to their own situation far better than any thing you could say. Actions speak louder than words.

Answer 3

Man, if I were in your situation, I would just pack up and leave. There's no reason for you to endure that pain. If she hurts you physically, you can always call the cops. And shame on your family! How dare they sit and do nothing while youre hurt!! And shame on you!! You should be doing something about the situation instead of just taking it. Passiveness doesn't always work. Sometimes it's just better to take the initiative.

Hope it all works out. *hug*

Answer 4

I would have told her that she ruined my life and if a very subtle and serious tone go "I wish you were dead"

Answer 5

I would just ignore....and concentrate on what i'm doing....