that when it's over,it means over. His the one that had an affair with a married woman, and yes his getting what he supposed to be getting from home (his not that good) He was the one that told that his having a deep feelings for this woman,so with all my blessing and my kids the love that we have for him dissappear. And when we let him go and yes divorce is in the process,that's when he said that his feelings for this married woman was only Infatuation??I forgive him with his first affair because we didn't have kids then, but second affair can not justify his excuse...........
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Yes i was a devoted wife, never complain about anything,and always there for him........
2007-04-08 17:32:00 · 6 answers · asked by islandgirl06 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hes pretty much shown you that hes going to continue to cheat actions speak louder than words you already gave him a chance and he messed up he probably thought you would just forgive him again and he could have his cake and eat it too but it doesn't work like that now you can find someone who will truly be there for you and he can have what his actions showed he wanted freedom to screw as many as he wants leaving him was a very strong thing for you to do for you and your children -best wishes to you !
2007-04-08 17:40:35 · answer #1 · answered by Jules 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to look at the big picture a little differently. You have to realize that YOU are getting the divorce NOT your children. You have no right to tell them to stop loving their own father!!!! You must keep their father in their lives as long as they are 18 and under.
He had an affair before you two had children and you went and had kids with him? Why would you forgive him? You thought having a kid or two would glue him to your bed? Why shouldn't your husband think he could get away with it one more time?
An affair is not about you honey, it's about a guy and and the ego in his pants. He knows he bagged you, he just wants to make sure he can get another one in the sack. Men that have low self esteem do this. It has nothing to do with you.
2007-04-09 00:46:37 · answer #2 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can understand your pain. Sounds like he isn't listening to himself. Suggest to him he seek counseling. You might consider that for yourself. Divorce is a big step, particularly when there are kids. If you do nothing else, keep him and the kids together. Don't come between them. Don't bad-mouth him to the kids. If he wants to destroy his relationship with the kids, let him do it himself. Don't help that. Kids are forever and no matter what each of you do you will always be the parents. Good luck with a tough situation.
2007-04-09 00:42:02 · answer #3 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
D-I-V-O-R-C-E!!! That should give him a good enough picture, if not a restraining order should do the trick. Good Luck.
2007-04-09 00:44:03 · answer #4 · answered by daisydownsouth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, what is your question? Is your husband a moron in addition to being a cheater? The answer is yes, he is.
2007-04-09 00:37:53 · answer #5 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
BUT DID YA GIVE A BJ WHEN HE NEEDE IT...WE NEED TO BE BLOWN AT LEAST ONCE A DAY?????
2007-04-09 00:46:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋