2007-04-08 17:30:14 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'd say it's common. I've only been married five years and we do have sex but it's not like it was years ago already. Just cause you don't hold hands (I never did) or sneak kisses anymore doesn't mean you're not affectionate. If he's thirsty and you are more than happy to go get him something to drink that is affection. If he helps you make the bed one morning that is affection. Married couples move from groping eachother to helping eachother throughout years. It doesn't make it a love less marriage. I'm sure you miss eachother when you are apart and find it easier to seep when you go to bed together at the same time.
2007-04-08 17:36:00 · answer #1 · answered by Jessica V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is actually very common. Most relationships start off very intense and exciting, but once the excitement has worn off and the fires of passion have cooled life just becomes very mundane. This doesn't mean that your other half doesn't love you it just means that the passion and excitement you once felt around each other has fallen off to a more routine level. I would suggest going to your local bookstore and browsing the aisle on sex and relationships. There are many wonderful books out there than can help bring back the affection that you are seeking. Unless there are issues of infidelity and lack of trust I would try the self help route first. You might also try going to an adult novelty store to rekindle some excitement. If taking these steps do not help then I would say that counseling would be your next avenue of approach. Good Luck
2007-04-09 00:48:21 · answer #2 · answered by truckerman96 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are probably the most difficult thing any of us ever do. Look at your friendships, they vary in intensity with each person. Marriage is a close personal relationship but it is very easy to take each other for granted. That is, we tend to make assumptions about our partners and when the assumptions prove true, the magic seems to go out of the relationship. It is possible to rekindle the flames...but you have to ask first if it is worth it. If so, then work at it. Talk with your partner about the situation and how you might make it work better. If it is still a comfortable relationship, consider how many other marriages you know about that don't work as well as yours...and consider leaving sleeping dogs lie. Or, if you want to get out, if there are no kids, get out. If ther are kids, then you've really got a problem...at least until the kids are old en ought to understand. Good luck.
2007-04-09 00:37:19 · answer #3 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The in love part is gone ,but the I love you part is still there. My husband and I are no longer in love with each other, but we are used to each other, because we are friends and we have a 8 year old daughter, I say this because I am older than him and we have out grown each other but we satisfy each other and we sleep in separate rooms. We are used to each other and maybe we feel that starting all over with someone new will be to much like work.
2007-04-09 00:48:31 · answer #4 · answered by reddie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know... it is hard but i love him and vise versa....there are times i don't think i can do it, but here i am....34 years. i really don't want the dating scene and i am not going to cheat so i am safe in my little world. we have a lot in common and love holds that together. i don't want to have to train anyone again and i don't want to have a step family that i have to pretend i like or fight with all the time so i will take what i have and enjoy it till the day i die.
2007-04-09 00:58:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
someone once told me....one never has to work on marriage, one has to work that there is love.
It worked for me.
2007-04-09 00:44:45 · answer #6 · answered by Sabine5 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋