i met a guy...we're dating for almost 5 months...i found him interesting...he's smart...the thing i really like for a guy.... i fall in love with him...so he is...when everything between us was turning out so great..he admitted that he was married with one child...they're not together...since they did not live up as a couple cuz the girl left her after getting married to him... but still they have communications...my guy was planning to get divorce with her...cuz he thinks everything between them does not work out and he wanted to work it out with me.... i love him so much....i dont want to lose him... but he's married... probably he loves her coz they been to a relationship for so long... but i can feel he loves me too... should i wait until he's clean..or should i forget him and move on?.. i was really kind of disappointed with him coz i made plans of getting marry with him.... unfortunately he was already married with out me knowing i was so stupid...i jz dont knw till wen i cn w8
2007-04-08 16:51:10 · 26 answers · asked by crazy4bess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
End the relationship. If he truly loves you, he will divorce his wife and get together with you. If he doesn't, move on. It's better that you not waste your time on something you can't have. Wait until he's available..you'll be much happier.
2007-04-08 16:56:58 · answer #1 · answered by Miami Lilly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say you have two options here. One being the better of the two.
1) Wait till he isn't married anymore, then have a relationship with him. Things will just be a whole lot smoother and you will have no regrets this way. Plus, its a real test on him and you. If you have to wait to be in a relationship, that involves a lot of patience and a lot of trust. And if he's truly a good guy things will work out.
2) (The better option, in my opinion) Say "ADIOS!" to him! : ) He obviously doesn't have respect for you, not telling you from the start he's a married man. I'm sure you're an amazing woman and you found a sleezy guy that's trying to take advantage of you here. If he thinks he can be with you while he's married and not be honest with you from the start, then you're getting yourself into one heck of a relationship here. If he would do that to his current wife, who's to say he won't do that to you if you marry him.
I say stay away. It's a HUGE warning sign that he hasn't been honest with you. And that he's "cheating" on his wife.
Don't get into it.
There's a man that's single and searching out there, and you will find him.
Just be patient :)
Good Luck!
2007-04-08 16:59:38 · answer #2 · answered by sugarandspice13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, until he is divorced it is in your best interest to step back from the relationship. If you continue to date him and believe he is getting divorced you are most likely going to really be hurt in the end.
There is a reason why he isn't divorced and it's not money. Not to forget they have a child which means you have to deal with the ex for as long as the relationship lasts, though chances are he is just going to go back to her anyway.
I'm so sorry things turned out like this for you. Just remember there are tons of great men out there... real men. You'll find one someday!
2007-04-08 17:01:56 · answer #3 · answered by az_mommma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not the fact that their still married if they don't live together and are not together but why would he not tell you in the beginning if their was nothing to hide the fact that he's just now telling you isn't good but if you love him stay around but be careful if he takes to long to get divorced let him go because he probably will never do it
2007-04-08 17:01:52 · answer #4 · answered by netta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people do not divorce right away after the marriage is over. Many reasons for this so I would not rush to judgment. If he has started the process not bid deal. Beside this will give you both a little more time to get to know each other.
2007-04-08 16:59:43 · answer #5 · answered by Healthy Lifestyle Geek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I no this guy loves his wife and the only reason they are not to gether is because he cheats on her with girls like you, he got caught with his hand in the cookie jar and his wife through him out.If he did not love his wife he would of told you right off about him being married.Why hind it if you are going to get a divorce do you see what I mean.Men like him are a dime a dozen they go around and brake hearts and walk away when the girl gets to serous.
2007-04-08 17:22:41 · answer #6 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie you may not want to hear this and it will hurt you for a while, but he did lie to you and who knows if he was telling you the truth when he said that he wasn't getting along with his wife? Don't let him used you, now that he knows how you feel towards him,that's when he told you that he is married. Like what you said, try and try harder to forget him and move on with your life or else you will be hurt in a long run and you do not deserve that..................so sorry!!!
2007-04-08 16:58:08 · answer #7 · answered by islandgirl06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Number one this guy LIED TO YOU, number two he's married AND has a kid, number three he's a sleez. Run while you can. If he cheated on her, he will cheat on you. He is holding on to her in case you don't work out. I'll tell you something else too, if people are divorced they obviously couldn't work out their problems, so what makes you think he'll work out his problems with you? If you want to throw your life away then continue on with this, but if not, then run.
2007-04-08 16:58:36 · answer #8 · answered by Y!A P0int5 Wh0r3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to be with someone who is willing to admit he is cheating on his wife? Whether they are together or not, if he really wanted a divorce, he would of dealt with it prior to entering in a relationship with you. He has lied to you and to his wife. If he's willing to admit to this much, what else don't you know about? Good luck hon, I think you are going to need it
2007-04-08 16:58:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, your are not stupid but you have made a serious mistake..I am proud of you for seeking an answer..Please leave him alone immediately..You are trully disrespecting yourself by having a relationship with a married man..You deserve better than that..In the eyesight of God you are considered as an adulterous..Don't even ask him to divorce her..Let him know, the next time you speak with him, that he needs to work out things with his wife, and that you do not want to disrepect GOD and yourself by having a relationship with someone that is married..Let him know you have made a horrible mistake by being with him in the beginning..It is not your fault because he did not tell you this at first..Now that you know.. stay away from him..You will feel better in the long run if you choose to stay away from him..When I was a single woman, I would only be friends and date men who lived alone, and who were not married..I met a man once, when I was single, who told me he was seperated from his wife..IMMEDIATELY..I told him that I could know longer talk with him, and the descision that he makes with his wife is between he and GOD, but I have nothing to say about it..I was not going to allow him to use me as an excuse to divorce his wife, and furthermore, he did not have any respect for me because he was trying to have a relationship with me, while still being married..Men respect women who show respect for themselves..If he has respect for himself, he would divorce her before he would think about being with another woman..The only grounds for divorce for a married man, is ..if she was a fornicator..Leave him alone and wait for GOD to send you a single man. l believe you are going to do the right thing for yourself, and more importantly, to be good standings with our CREATOR..If you do the right thing by letting him go, you will be considered as a woman with class, moral values, and one who cares about herself..love and peace
2007-04-08 17:23:27 · answer #10 · answered by Sister Queen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋