When someone is hurting inside.......?

Question

When someone is hurting inside why do they feel the need to out on a happy face and pretend they are happy? Is it true that if you look in their eyes you can see the sadness? If so how?

Answer 1

The eyes are the seat of the soul ! they can tell you ever thing you want to know about a person. Why people show a superficial face is because the world we live in is a feel good look good society, and most people are very critical and judgmental, they don't recognize we all are made differently and what has a effect on one person may not have the same effect on the other person, so many times people judge others problems in them handling a situation in how they would deal with that same situation, and are baffled as to why this other person is overwhelmed with this situation in the first place. In most familys, to show your sadness about a situation can cause overwhelming emotions, especially if you are in religious one, and believe in Jesus Christ, because he say's be of good cheer, I have over come the world: in other words have been where you are, and i have over come and you can too so smile so if your sad you are saying I don't believe GOD is going to deliver me from this: but there is a sad part about this for your children children need to see the situation parents face in order for them to be able to deal with situations healthly, so every now then I show a sad face to let mine be aware life is not always fair and it is not always fun and it's not all about how you feel

Answer 2

when someone is hurting, if they have the kind of personality that i have, they do not want others to feel sympathetic towards them. when i am feeling down in the dumps, which often do, i put on a "happy face" or as best as i can. sometimes, when i do act depressed, my friends have no idea how to help me/ cheer me up. i would put on an act almost everyday so that they do not need to get more stressed out with my problems. i dont know if you can see the sadness through the eyes, but if it is possible, my friends arent my friends or im just very hard to decipher.

Answer 3

Most people are sympathetic to physical injury pain as it can be seen, we are more likely to talk about our injury eg how it happened, treatment etc.
Emotional pain can not be seen it can only be felt and that is by the person experiencing it. Many people have the ability to 'feel' the distress in another person and will offer some soothing words or listen to why the person is hurting.
An example is that when a death occurs most people have adjusted and returned to their routine within 6 weeks. For those who have experienced the loss more deeply they will grieve for longer. Those who have adjusted do not understand why the other person has not.
Our eyes are our window to our soul or, inner self and it is very rare that our eyes don't tell others how we are feeling internally.

Answer 4

I think most people do try to hide their internal pain from others. Most of the time it's either because you don't want to answer any questions about what's wrong or have to talk about it. I can tell with the people I'm close to when they are hurting or upset over something by looking in their eyes, yes. The eyes tell you a lot about a person that they may not show.

Answer 5

Society inadvertently tells us that it's not ok to express negative emotions. Too bad, since they're natural and highly therapeutic. They're stiffled so as not to make others' uncomfortable or so others' don't feel obliged to become involved.

So, essentially, society urges us to pretend we're feeling something we're not to spare others' feelings or the time. Warped huh?? You wonder how anyone *really* knows anyone.

I don't know about your second question. I think this is something that should be reserved for good dramatic movies. I get the feeling you're referring to the type of person who denies being sad, but really wants you to notice, so there's this dance of "guessing". That kind of bores me. If people don't want to share how they're feeling, even when prompted, for whatever reason, fine by me. I'm not prepared to play any sort of guessing game. It's a time-waster in the face of blatant, mature communication.

Answer 6

Well, first things first, you have to ask a doctor and figure out why it hurts in the first place. I wouldnt recommend applying anything right away if you dont know what the exact cause is, but for a dry nose you could try a saline solution. Mix of 1/4 teaspoon of non-iodized table salt and 1/8 teaspoon of baking soda (optional) per 1 cup (8 ounces) of water.

Answer 7

when someone is hurting inside, they put on a happy face because:
1. They don't like it when people feel sympathetic.
2. They don't want to be feeling down because of their problems.
3. They don't wanna feel different because they're unhappy.
4. They don't like people asking about their problems.
what mostly fits me is 1 and 3, and 4.
i don't like it when people try to make me feel better. sometimes, it doesn't work at all.
what i want is to have the person that hurt me to make me feel better. most of the time, its someone that i care for, so it hurts even more. like yesterday, my cousin suddenly left without telling me (i saw him leave though) ANYTHING. not even a bye-bye, or a good night, or anything else...........
he just left.
i will be in the same continent as him for less than one more day, and i will leave very soon.........(i am on vacation)
what hurt me the most is the possibility that i will not see him for a few years.............so that hurts.......alot..........

Answer 8

I don't know that everyone seeks out happiness; some people get morose and seem to want to wallow in their misery. Those who do seek out a happy face are trying their best to get over the unhappiness, I'd wager.

Can you tell emotions from another's face? It depends on the degree of control the person has over facial expressions. People can learn to fake facial expressions--you can see it in any good actor's performance, as well as in the 'poker face' that professional gamblers cultivate, or the 'game face' of professional athletes (especially basketball players).

Most people don't exercise much control and you can get a clue from their facial expression, but some people are expert at masking.

Answer 9

As someone who lives with multiple medical problems, several which cause chronic pain, I will often hide the fact that I'm in pain because I have found that most people who don't have health problems don't want to hear that I'm hurting. So when someone asks me how I'm doing then I just say I'm hanging in there. If someone asks me if I'm doing better then I tell them no and leave it at that.

Answer 10

I do it because I don't want to hurt the people around me. I also don't want to hear their comments about it because they usualy try to minimize your pain and I don't like that. My feelings are very real and should not be taken for granted.