looking for the right person .will i find that special someone soon.
2007-04-08 12:17:48 · 18 answers · asked by ruthie G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, you can find happiness again, but take it from someone who has been where your at now. Don't rush into anything. I am now divorced. I was a widow for almost 11 years before getting married again. Loneliness can cause us to make poor decisions.
2007-04-08 12:21:40 · answer #1 · answered by Krinta 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My fine Lady I must first start by answering your question with a question and that is...
How long have you been a widow?
I just want to be clear is all in the fact you are not still grieving.
With that said and out of the way my advice to you is.
Visit and learn from others who are successful in meeting a lot of people within settings where people with interests like yours congregate. These will maximize your chances of finding the right person for you.
Also, learn how to be happy alone and accept that you can be happy alone the rest of your life. That peace of mind, confidence, and lack of "neediness" will help you overcome your fears and help you be more successful when seeking out others.
Also, make sure that you don't have some personal quality such as a drug or alcohol addiction or abusive behavior tendency that will eventually undermine a relationship once you get into it.
You must also set realistic expectations. For example, some people (mostly men) want to get involved with someone who is much more physically attractive than themselves. Research has shown that most people seek out those who are close to their own physical attractiveness (as rated by outside appearance). So if a good figure is important to you, keep yourself in good shape.
All you women of the world possess the power within to Turn it On and Turn it Up so explore new ideas, new places, new wardrobe, hairstyles, etc. Break the rules (If you have set any) in regards to who it is that you want to spend time with, remember that time is a priceless commodity that so many of us take for granted.
Get out on the town fine Lady and shake your stuff because the Man you seek is not just going to come knocking on your door. You must prepare yourself for the Journey and the Hunt and I believe it will not take you any time at all to find that special someone you so seek.
"Good-Luck" & Happy Hunting
2007-04-08 20:42:53 · answer #2 · answered by Chaz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you want to be happy again, and that is okay, you deserve that. I hope you do find that special someone soon. It makes sense to want a partner in life. Start getting involved in things you are interested in. Put yourself out there. Leave the house and go out and do things you enjoy and where you can meet people. Websites like eharmony are good too. I met my hubby on match.
2007-04-08 20:07:38 · answer #3 · answered by twinmom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When the time is right you would come face to face with a man that you could only find in your dreams.
Don't worry time is running yes and time has passed, you have loved and had probably lost your one true love but when we fall we have to dust off and try again. Your husband would want you to be happy so find someone who would treat you right. Glad to know that you are ready to go and face the world again.
2007-04-08 20:05:55 · answer #4 · answered by *Pretty In Pink* 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you will find the 'right' person but not soon. I don't know how long you were dating before you met the man you married or how long you were married but enjoy the journey, even if that sounds like a simplistic answer. I don't know who wrote it but I like this philososphy, "Work as if you don't need the money, dance as if no one is looking, and love as if your hearts never been broken." There's no owners manual or road map to life. You take it as it comes and you make it up as you go along. Live.
2007-04-08 19:46:17 · answer #5 · answered by more2know2 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't get caught up thinking the only way you can be happy is by finding "someone".
Be happy in yourself and your life.
No one is going to replace your husband, so it is a waste of time to try and find someone that will.
Be confident and secure in yourself.
Be fun loving and giving.
If you project your happiness and contentment, you will attract the right kind of person you are looking for.
If you make it a mission to find that person, it will get very frustrating, and it becomes very evident that is what you are doing.
2007-04-08 19:42:23 · answer #6 · answered by Mr R 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am a widow for 17 years and i am a happy woman.I am not in a relationship but if i ever had the opportunity i will not let it go.Be patient and dont jump into something just because you are sad or lonely.View your horizons and take your time.There is happiness for everyone and sometimes we have to be patient til it comes our way.
2007-04-08 19:23:13 · answer #7 · answered by BARBARA B 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't label yourself as a "widow". You are a woman first and foremost. To call yourself a widow implies that you re hanging onto the memory of your late husband. This is not an encouraging prospect for any new man. I know you probably feel it is disrespectful to your late husbands memory - but you are single.
2007-04-08 19:24:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well first of all my sympathies to you because i am personally related to someone who is a widow so just do not do any thing stupid i know it is hard to be alone and it is not a good feeling but do not blindly trust some one just because you want to be with him and may be it might be a while before you find some one special
2007-04-08 19:24:12 · answer #9 · answered by khanaliimran 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who knows if you will find someone special again? Certainly not the yahoo audience! Why don't you join a church group or www.eharmony.com or something. First step first ... the rest will fall into place ... you cannot rush it.
2007-04-08 19:21:26 · answer #10 · answered by daffodil 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋