13 and i had a miscarriage and my family is happy!?

Question

I'm 13 and i had a miscarriage 3days ago my family are happy i really wanted that baby please sombody tell me why they are so happy!

Answer 1

Sometimes things happen for a reason. I know its tough to go through a miscarriage, but maybe this was a lesson not to get pregnant before you can take care of the baby. Your family is probably happy because they were going to have to support the baby. You wouldn't be able to drive, couldn't get a job, couldn't afford anything for the baby. And you probably wouldn't be able to finish school. Just be more carefull and wait till you are able to do all of those things before you have a baby,
Sorry for your loss.
Think of this as a second chance.

Answer 2

First I would like to tell you how sorry I am for your loss. Last year I had a miscarriage and it is very difficult. I can only imagine how much more difficult it is for your if your family is not being supportive. Your family is probably thinking of your future rather than what you are going through right now. Since you are only 13 they probably felt that getting pregnant in the first place was a big mistake since it will affect you for the rest of your life. They probably thought about how difficult it would be to raise the baby at your age & get your education. Instead they need to be more supportive of you in this time of need. How is the "father" of the baby reacting? Do you have someone to talk to? It helps a lot to be able to communicate your feelings to someone. I really hope you have someone who will listen and not judge your thoughts & feelings.

Answer 3

First off, let me say that I am sorry to hear of your loss. However, you can look at things from many perspectives. You are 13, not old enough to obtain a job that will properly raise a child. Dropping out of school to fulfill what you child needs (raising) is a big mistake in the long run. Your loss even though is great, but it can be viewed as a blessing. Wait until you are older to bare children. Wait until you have a GREAT job, a GREAT partner (who will ABSOLUTELY stand by you and your child). Wait until you have a degree that will land you a GREAT paying job that will pay you the substantial amount of money that it takes to raise a child properly. As for your parents, they may be "happy" because they know that THEY would have ended up raising the child. Not you, you are way to young. You may feel as if you are ready and know what to do, 13 is WAY too young. Focus on more important thing is life. Again, I do feel for you, my husband and I suffered through a miscarriage two years ago, so I know the pain. But be smart and protect yourself against pregnancy and diseases.

Answer 4

I had my baby @ 17, and although I was lucky to have a mom who supported me to finish school, not everybody is financially capable to support an added responsibility, your family isn't trying to be cruel really. But you have to understand that it's very difficult to be a mother at such a young age, think of it this way, if your family cant afford to buy diapers or formula, where will you get the $$$, if you cant yet legally work??? A child isn't like a babysitting job, this baby will cry, burp, get colic, hungry, hot/cold, at all times a night. It is very cruel and selfish of you to put your family and an innocent child through hardship just because you want it. You are still young and have plenty of time to have kids when you can rely on nobody but yourself and your husband.

Answer 5

Because having a baby at 13 will ruin your future. It's a terrible thing to suffer a miscarriage but it's your body refusing the fetus. It happened for a reason. If you want a baby now you'll want one in a few years when you can support yourself and your baby so why not wait?

Answer 6

They shouldn't have been happy for you. Instead, they should
have sat you down and explained that one day you'll have to make your own choices, and that if you feel you want to have a baby, then it's up to you make your own money and get the welfare for it. Because at 13, no one wants to hear the same old "you're still a baby yourself" stuff. So if you want to give it another try, then just do it. It's your body, your choice, your life.

Just please remember that should you feel differently when you get older, a child is for life. So if you decide to try again and have a baby, just know that it won't go away when you're ready to go out with your friends, or go to prom, or go to college, or meet the love of your life. Best of luck to you!

Answer 7

I'm so sorry for you sweetie. I don't think they mean to hurt you more by this. Its because of your age. I do think all you need counseling for dealing with this. You need help just with the loss, then the communication with your family. PLEASE get on birth control, that way you don't have a baby before you have a chance to be an adult. You will be a good mom, when the time is right. Enjoy being a kid, it doesn't last long. Once you are an adult, you always have to be one.

Please follow up with your doctor for physical & emotional check ups.

You can email me anytime if you want to talk. I'll be praying for you Sweetie.

Answer 8

possible ur family are dealin with ur misscariage differently than u are because it hurt u alot more and 2 u it seems they look happy because u dont feel happy maybe there showing different way of dealin with it ior if they really are happy then maybe they dont want 2 ruin ur socail life by raising a child at that age because they c that they will be the ones caring and paying for the baby when ur at school and dont have any money

sorry 2 hear for ur loss

Answer 9

Probably with two pregnant daughters still in high school they were going through some shock of their own, I mean, your sister had a baby at 16 and a month later you are pregnant by an 18 year old?!? You should just look at it as not meant to be.

Answer 10

Well, because being 13 and having a baby totally distrupts your life and the way you experience your teenage years. Your parents probably just want you to go through the normal development cycles of life and have a baby after you turn into an adult.