I hate my brother's on again off again girlfriend- I just got back from an Easter get together. See my brother had a baby with this girl, he got divorced a few years ago but has two previous daughters with his ex-wife. Thing is he's using her for attention- he said he doesn't love her and doesn't want to marry her, but his ex-wife got remarried see; I just blattently ignore her and the whole family knows I don't like her. I even at one time asked her to leave my parents house because I felt she was disrespecting my mom- it's one of those indirect disrespects; I just dislike her very much, I've never acted this way to anyone before but even though I don't like her, I respect my brothers choice to marry her or not; I will never be friends with her, I will be polite when it's time to be polite; but I will not make any attemps to talk to her. Is that okay? I treat my nefew normal, and love him, but not the mother. People say you don't have to like everyone, right?
2007-04-08 11:38:59 · 8 answers · asked by #1bob 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Sooner or later, your nephew is going to pick up on your feelings towards his Mom and not understand what's going on. If you want to continue having a relationship with him, you should try and be kind and respectful to his Mom whenever he is around. No, you don't have to like everyone but being outright rude and showing that dislike is not a good thing either. If she is going to become a part of your family, you should try to figure out what has caused all the dislike and see if you are able to work through it. Either with her or without her help. If you don't, it will cause problems down the road for the whole family.
2007-04-08 11:53:21 · answer #1 · answered by Kismitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to like her but I would at least be polite and speak to her because she is the mother of your nephew. One day your nephew will notice how you treat his Mom and that could affect your relationship. I would be afraid that if anything happens between she and your brother, she may not let you see your nephew because of the way you feel about her and treat her. At least say hello and acknowledge her presence. It's the right thing to do.
2007-04-08 14:28:10 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can dislike someone. But remember everyone has issues and flaws. And shame on your brother for using her for attention. Thats horrible. And you brother doesn't seem like an angel. What I am tring to say is maybe you are being one sided. And thats easy to do especially when family has alot to do with it. But just try to be civil for your nephews sake.
Best Wishes.
2007-04-08 11:45:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes! Just pretend she doesn't exist. Of course this could back fire. I did it to a girl in high school for 6 months and towards the end of it she was just sure I was desperately in love with her v.v
2007-04-08 11:49:11 · answer #4 · answered by Bernard W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant hate her as much as u like. be happy ur brother isnt in love with her cuz then ud have more troubles. but their chils has nothing to do with it keep up de goodness and love the baby itll piss off the mother more. and nooo u dont have to like anyone thats ur own judgment, hate on her as much as u like and dont feel pity about it
2007-04-08 11:51:08 · answer #5 · answered by Ani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is ok to dislike her but you have to be civil to her at family or public gatherings.
2007-04-08 11:53:23 · answer #6 · answered by redunicorn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't treat her mean in front of ur nephew but tell her in Private how u feel about her
2007-04-08 12:09:58 · answer #7 · answered by xanemos harita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No , don't ignore anybody . even you don't dislike .
2007-04-08 11:53:17 · answer #8 · answered by Bero 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋