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omg they r big instead of she is so pretty and i have had breast reduction info for a long time i want to know how i should comfront my mother??? PLEASE HELP

2007-04-08 11:33:37 · 17 answers · asked by nicole s 1 in Health Women's Health

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You should talk to your mother about it. Let her know how they make you feel.

If you have back pain, let her know. That is one of the major factors of someone having a breast reduction. I should know, I had major back pain until after my breast reduction.

Though most PS's will not operate on someone's breasts if they are under 18, if you've had severe back pain they will take that into consideration.

Take a look at these sites:

http://www.breasthealthonline.com
http://www.bfar.org

2007-04-08 23:44:47 · answer #1 · answered by Terri 7 · 0 1

OK first, get a grip with who you are not your mother. It may be something from both sides of the family.

Secondly, I surmise you are in your late teens thru your twenties. The fashions right now are not the most flattering for a voluptuous woman nor any woman of normal figure. It may seem wierd, but first try going into the minimzer bras then head to a top notch woman's lingerie store and get fitted for a correct fitting bra.

The adjust your fashions to reflect the greater qualities of you i.e. face, height, legs, personality preferances and higher style than buying Old Navy or something similar. You may spend more up front but will have outfits that are classic, sexy yet place you above the group in the hip huggers and other sausage clothes.

In closing, this will help detract from your breast size and its visibility. BTW I am a straight guy who for years has had a preference for voluptuous women and have helped many of them with the same issues. You will be pleasantly surprised at how your image changes when your mental perception is influenced by how you change the garments on your physical being. Good Luck!

2007-04-08 11:42:25 · answer #2 · answered by Jim from the Midwest 3 · 0 1

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2016-10-02 09:29:07 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

I have a niece who went through the same thing you are going through. I'm going to tell you what I told her. 1. If you are not happy with them, then why shouldn't you change them. 2. If they make you feel bad about yourself then you have the right to change it. 3. If they are as big as you say then they will end up giving you back trouble. 4. You need to do research and present it to your mother.
This way she knows you're serious about it. I would tell her all of your emotions regarding your breasts. NEGATIVE AND POSITIVE. Then I would present her with surgical options if that is the way you choose to go. Also don't just jump to surgical options there are bra's to help you with the size problem.
My niece ended up having a breast reduction. She is now 20 and she couldn't be happier. Her mother was completely thrilled that she had the strength to confide in her too.

2007-04-08 11:43:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

first of all, if u want breast reduction REALLY consider about parenting in the future. Since if you get breast reduction you wont ever be able to breast feed, and sure you could use formula, but nothing is better thank real mother's milk. Also babies that drink mother'smilk will be slimmer and healthier, and so when your considering this, consider one day that if you want a healthy baby you shouldnt get them smaller.

you should embrace having big breasts since not a lot of girls do, but want to.

My sister has huge ones too, and she has no problem and is proud of them.

My other sister just had a baby and told me about her friend that had breast reduction, and now she had a baby and can't feed him, and she feels terrible because she never thought of this when she was getting it.

If you want to confront your mom about it, of course tell her that this is a huge insecurity, and just really open up to how you feel. Maybe go out for brunch together and just bring up that you are really uncomfortable because your large breasts are bothering you so much.

Another thing, breastreduction can reduce but they can also screw up, if you ever watched plastic surgeries gone bad. Really consider this.

2007-04-08 11:43:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 2

Why do you need to confront your mother? The only reason I'd think she has a say is if she has to pay for it. I know a beautiful woman who had this surgery and not only did her self esteem skyrocket, but also the selection of clothing she could buy and wear, her ability to exersize increased and she stopped getting the horrible back and neck pain she was getting from the constant weight.
I know another woman who had opted (up til I knew her anyway) to not have the surgery, but her father had been completely supportive and was even the one to suggest that he would pay for it if she wanted it.
This is your choice, if you must approach it with your mom try approaching it as enlisting her help and supoort (mom's usually go for that) rather than a confrontation (which presumes adversarial reaction).
Best of luck.

2007-04-08 11:41:15 · answer #6 · answered by heart o' gold 7 · 1 0

I had the same problem when I was 17, I wanted to get a breast reduction to fix it. But my problem wasn't my boobs, it was my self esteem. As soon as I stopped caring what other people thought and started to accept my body and love it for what it is, my perception of myself changed completely. I am 25 now and am very happy I didn't go through with the reduction.

2007-04-08 11:36:54 · answer #7 · answered by california girl 4 · 2 1

i know it sucks, i had huge boobs too. (i had a breast reduction, it was the best choice i could ever make) the only way to tell your mother is just coming out with it. tell her how uncomfortable you are, and how people talk and its bothering you. and girl getting a breast reduction is so worth it. i was 14 when i got mine done. the childrens hosptial in pennsylvania is so great they are so nice. goodluck sweetie.



***the girl who said you cant breast feed if you have breast reduction is lying, i breast feed and i have had a breast reduction

2007-04-08 11:59:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

Just tell her that you're uncomfortable with your body and think that breast reduction surgery would make you feel better about yourself. Personally, I don't see what you're complaining about, lol, but I guess most women with basically nothing for boobs would say the same thing. I'm sure you're beautiful the way your body is naturally...think about the permanent change you're making just because of things that others have said. It's not really worth it.

2007-04-08 11:39:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

Just go to her and explain how embarrassing this is for you. If you are having shoulder or back pain because of large breast that is another reason to go for breast reduction.

2007-04-08 11:36:27 · answer #10 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 1 0

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