Bi or Lesbian? I still can't figure it out.?

Question

I'm still trying to figure out if I'm bi or lesbian. I know I'm not straight, and I know I'm extremely attracted to girls, but I'm still unsure about how I exactly feel about guys. I have no desire to have heterosexual sex, I am not turned on by a male body, and I actually find male bodies/"parts" a turn off. I am completely attracted to every bit of the female body, and the idea of being in a relationship with a female (romantic/sexual) is so much more appealing to me than being with a male. The only thing that confuses me is the fact that when I was younger I thought I had crushes on males, but maybe it was just that my perception was blurred and I just wanted attention, from anyone really. I like to be desired by males, but I want nothing to do with them when they approach me for a relationship or intimate encounter. I don't want to kiss them, touch them, be touched by them, and I DEFINITELY don't want to have sex with them, but why do I like for them to think I'm attractive?

I also find some males attractive and want them to find me attractive but that's all I want. I don't want to be with them in any way. I just want to be desired by them, but I always reject them.
So am I just an attention-seeking-lesbian or what? Any ideas on how I can figure my sexuality out for good?

Thanks to all, in advance. This whole "figuring it out" thing is difficult!

Oh...and if this helps at all...I also tend to be flirty with both sexes, but only have intentions with females.

Answer 1

everybody wants to feel desireable..whether or not you want to have sex with them or not is irrelevant.

Answer 2

Sexuality is not an either/or condition. Sexuality is a continuum and at different times and different situations your attractions will change. And guess what? You will most likely move back and forth on that continuum for the rest of your life. The good news is, that unlike most people, you already see the possibilities. Relax and be who you are.

Answer 3

Am I Gay?

"There is no easy way for someone else to determine what your sexuality is, after all your sexuality is your own personal issue and it does not have to be communicated to all people. In understanding your sexual orientation you must be comfortable with the fact that you are unique and how you feel about yourself is going to be different than how I feel about myself. You have to decide what your sexuality is for yourself, through asking yourself questions and experimentation. But don't feel pressured to box yourself into a sexuality or a course of behavior that you do not feel comfortable with!"

Answer 4

that's kind of how i feel.... i consider myself 3/4 lesbian and 1/4 straight (but for simplicity's sake i just say that i'm bi) it might have something to do with the fact that it's always been expected of us that we want guys to like us, and it may just take a little while to get used to the idea that there can be other options. but i'd say that you sound more lesbian than bi to me, although that's just my opinion.

Answer 5

Sounds to me you are lesbian for sure
and you
are seeking attention from males
whom you have no sexual desires

Answer 6

Well im a lesbian myself and you are a lesbian. You're a tease to men because you like the reaction to how you look but you know that they cant get your goodies. ALSO IF U WANNA 4 GUD GET AT ME!!

Answer 7

I'd say you are a lesbian. Not being sexually attracted to men would pretty much exclude you being bi.....

Answer 8

It sounds to me like you are lesbian.

Answer 9

well you are getting my attention right now