I'm getting married in two months and last night my best friends husband started coming on to me. He was touching me in all kinds of areas and trying to kiss me. What should I do.? I've known him for 15 years and my friend for 24 and don't want to ruin our friendship.
2007-04-08 10:30:43 · 19 answers · asked by momof2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If it were me I would talk to my friend of 24 years alone. Ask her to meet you somewhere for lunch or go to her house when she is alone or ask her to come to your house alone and just tell her the truth explain that you are not trying to hurt her but something happened and you feel she needs to know and explain what happened to you, she may be hurt and angry you may have to give her some time to think this information thru and even a place to stay if it goes to that, just be prepared for whatever and don't think that this is your fault none of this is your responsibility. Your friend needs to know because how many times has this happened and no one told her because they didn't want to start trouble. If he has done this to you, no telling if he has already cheated on her and nowadays there is so many diseases out there that cannot be cured she should not find out she has one late in the game. If you get treatments for diseases early you will have a longer life, let your friend know that you care for her and this is the only reason you are letting her know about what her husband did to you and that you will be there for her in whatever way she may need you.
2007-04-08 10:46:59 · answer #1 · answered by patricia g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say but your friendship is dead.
That is just the way it will turn out. If you tell her, she will blame you and take his side. That is just the way wives are, doesn't matter if you are her friend or not. If you don't tell, he will continue to come on to you until he gets some or you do tell. If you tell him to stop, he probably won't no matter how much you threaten to tell on him. At worse even if he does stop, things will never be the same between you and your friend.
Your friendship is over at least as you know it, get use to the fact and just maybe you can save just a little bit of it.
2007-04-08 17:39:07 · answer #2 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This kind of thing happened to me over 14 years ago.
I got drunk one night and spilled the beans. My friend stopped talking to me. Her BF has several times contacted me and tried to get with me. Even showed up at my new house - I still don't know how he found out where I moved to. He told me all about his affairs . . .
I found some pleasure in her pain. She stopped talking to me and got what she deserved.
I would tell her. Let her make the decision. Just know that whatever ends up happening, you did the right thing!
I know I lost her friendship, but the guilt of not telling would have killed me.
2007-04-08 17:37:21 · answer #3 · answered by Penny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you could do is tell your best friend what her husband did. If you don't he'll think that he got away with it and who knows, he might just go out and cheat on her with someone else if he's not doing it already. She has a right to know and you are obligated to tell her.
2007-04-08 17:38:36 · answer #4 · answered by ur_da_sore_on_my_dogs_ass 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to stop it and tell him your getting married with out your best friend finding out
2007-04-08 17:35:01 · answer #5 · answered by Oklahomachick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well tell him that if he doesn't stop ure gonna have to cut off ur friendship with him... and if u did cut it off then explain to ur best friend the whole thing... and ask for her understanding.... i'm pretty sure she will understand u... if not... then just get away frm the guy... before it ruins ur relationship with ur soon-to-be-husband...
2007-04-08 17:37:21 · answer #6 · answered by Rizzie<3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Avoid him. Talking it out isn't an option. DON'T engage him in a dialog about this where he can make threats or turn it back on you. Avoid him. That simple. And never ever be alone with him.
2007-04-08 17:33:45 · answer #7 · answered by Voices of the Dead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHATEVER YOU DO DON'T FEED INTO IT IT'S NOT WORTH IT YOU'RE ENGAGE LEAVE IT ALONE. WHAT YO SHOULD REALLY DO IS MAKE YOUR BESTFRIEND AWARE OF THE SITUATION SO SHE COULD DROP THAT ZERO AND GET A HERO ANYWAYS ALL I HAVE TO SAY IS HANDLE THIS WELL WITHOUT LOSING A GOOD FRIEND
2007-04-08 17:35:55 · answer #8 · answered by mz cali 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you like him as a friend only and if he doesnt like that then get lost. He will know where he stands.
2007-04-08 17:34:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was a friend then he wouldnt be doing this to you. Tell him off and stick with the man you love. Unless you love this man...
2007-04-08 17:33:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋