why do i connect with older people?

Question

I have a lot of friends my age, but it seems so much easier for me to befriend people older than me. I'm 17 but my sister is 23 and I can connect with all her friends that are in their mid 20's. Also, at work I am friends with all the people my age but am also friends with the people who are 15 years older than me. I really look up to them and would rather hang around with the older people. Also I like older things like dancing to polkas, or music and movies from the 1940s. And when dating, I usually prefer guys older than me. Anyone know why I would rather be friend with people almost twice my age?

Answer 1

You are probably an intellectually curious person. People your age have probably had the same experiences and ideas you have. Older people have more and different experiences and a change to be exposed to more ideas.

As you get older, you pick up some people skills along the way that make you easier to get along with.

And the older you get, the less susceptible you are to peer pressure. People are themselves and don't care as much what others think of them. Unless they work in an office, then they wear a tie because everybody else does.

Answer 2

I am the same and always have been. I am 23 now, but when I was a teenager, I always liked guys in their 20s and 30s (and, on one occassion, 40s). I have had two serious relationships - one with a 15 year age gap and one with a 20 year age gap. I have some great friends all in their 30s and 40s (and one early 50s - who has sons my age, who I just don't connect with).

Under no circunstances let anone tell you you're unusual or strange - I (and all my friends) see my relationships as a sign of maturity. I have both my mother and father very close to where I live, I am well educated and have a strong personality... so none of the typical excuses fit in here.

Just enjoy it - be proud that you connect with such a diverse range of people - it'll do very well for you in your career and relationships with partner's family and friends in hobby groups and generally people will appreciate it. Anyone who makes fun is just jeanlous they cannot do teh same thing.

Answer 3

You sound like you are a very mature person who needs to be in the company of people older than you are, which there is certainly not a thing wrong with that. I was the same way when I was young. My parents had a restaurant business when I was growing up and I was always around people older than me, I didn't have a choice, but I wouldn't go back and change a thing. I had my younger friends back then, but ultimately chose, and still do choose to be with people older than me. Also, my 2 sisters were 13, and 14 years older than me, and I was always hanging out with them as I grew up. I listened to their music of the time, plus enjoyed listening to music that my parents listened to. To me, it's interesting and fun to talk and be with the older generation, as they can share much experience. Good luck.

Answer 4

I always thought I would be happier in a different generation and I found even if I got along with people my age I preferred to be around people older than my age, because of the treasure of information I could learn from them. Younger people are stuck in the Me-ism stage of life. The older you get the more you have to step outside yourself and you probably find that a little more refreshing. Also the older generations have more to offer in the tastes of music, movies, and even you find they were taught more values and common courtesy which is uncommon anymore. Still be careful out there though because there are alot of older guys that would take advantage of your age. Remember people are people and even if they are older do not always expect someone else to look out for your own well-being that is up to you. Have a wonderful day and be blessed.

Answer 5

Maybe you are smarter than most people your age. You may even have a higher IQ. It's a wonderful thing to be able to connect with all kinds of people. Just listening to you I feel that you are a well rounded person and that you have good self esteem. It's not a bad thing to enjoy the company of older people, sometimes they are much wiser. This just shows that you can adapt to different surroundings, your not afraid to venture out, and can appreciate things that are not always the norm. This makes you an interesting individual.

Answer 6

You are obviously an open and loving person that see's beyond age and physical appearance..... someone who is much older and wiser in mind and spirit. You have the ability to connect with people of all ages and are wise enough to relize that you can gain knowlegde from the young and the old alike.....what a wonderful gift you possess, my only hope for you is that when you are older you know how to connect with the young so you can pass on all the wonderful stories you will have. Something definately to be proud of!!!!!

Answer 7

it happens to me all the time altought i don't like things from the 40's neither to hang around with woman older than me or dance polka. i think u learn from their life and their mistakes and experiences that's why is much easier to connect with them. people from ur age usually look for fun without thinking that this will affect their future. it is good to have fun but not to make such mistakes that will affect the rest of ur life. thinking with the head before making things is the best way to avoid those kind of things.