We were teenagers together and have been split for six years. He was a jerk but has been in therapy and has learned alot. We went on vacation with our kids this winter and hooked up, it was great. Now he wants us both to move somewhere neutral, right now we live on opposite sides of he country. I have full custody of the kids and dont want to put them into an unstable situation but I miss him all the time. I dont know what to do.
2007-04-08 08:56:05 · 21 answers · asked by radice 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What proof do you have that he has been in therapy? Some place neutral? Why? What are his plans? Can you trust him? How long has it been since he has "learned a lot?" What evidence do you have that he is capable of consistently applying what he has learned? Is missing him the ONLY reason you want to get "back together" with you ex?
You're not crazy. You're too trusting. Give your ex an opportinunity to prove what he has learned and don't let him seduce you.
2007-04-08 13:25:35 · answer #1 · answered by divabylaw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One trip does not mean you can make it in a relationship. You need more time together. Sure, time and therapy have probably matured him. But it would be inevitable that some of the same old problems may rear their ugly heads again if you got back together without really thinking this through.
I think you answered your own question when you said you would be putting the kids into an unstable situation.
2007-04-08 09:02:19 · answer #2 · answered by thankamy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2015-01-28 11:54:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup, unless some biggies are altered, you are indeed nuts...... Unless you get into therapy, and stay there for a few months, and live apart during that time, yes, you'd be nuts..... If it is going to work out between the two of you, you'll need to learn to communicate --- something you didn't learn while you were married. And if he's been in therapy, and you have not, you have some catching up to do.... Usually the only thing good re-heated is stuffed cabbage.... if you and he aren't somewhat changed, it will be the case here, as well....
If you want it to work, get into some therapy, hon.... your only chance.
2007-04-08 09:35:40 · answer #4 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey, a tiger can't change his stripes no matter how much therapy he has. This guy is playing you for the kids. Get over it. He knows you like a book and he's just going to turn into the same jerk he always was in the past. Don't move across the country. Something is up here and it's not to your benefit.....I can see it in my cards. Please stay put. Godloveya.
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2016-10-21 08:59:36 · answer #6 · answered by farraj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-04-08 09:59:12 · answer #7 · answered by poeticscribe1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no u are not crazy. if you love him go for it. it will help the kids. i did the same and got together 15 yrs later. it will take time for all to ajust but the kids like staying with both of us. dont let ur family mess up a good thing and only you know that. good luck
2007-04-08 09:17:40 · answer #8 · answered by lilhotrod065 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-02-12 12:28:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, you can't choose who you fall in love with. You can certainly try, but the heart wants what the heart wants. Obviously your heart wants the father of your children.
You're smart for putting the kids first though. They are your first priority and I guess you need to make a big decision that directly affects them.
2007-04-08 09:05:46 · answer #10 · answered by nancielovesmark 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋