ok soo..me in my gf been dating awhile but one things been buggin me..one of her so called *best friends* (who she used to like before we started dating) They talk on the phone all the time and on the computer and they talk about how they miss eachother and blah blah then one of my friends found out they`ve been crushin on eachother who should i believe?? I trust her cause i no she would never cheat on me but they sound like a lil more than just *good friends*
2007-04-08 08:17:44 · 13 answers · asked by Young Stunna 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think you should have a serious conversation with her. Tell her that you love her but she should really stop being so close with her best friends because people might think they're a couple
2007-04-08 08:27:24 · answer #1 · answered by Lotus K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friend is a good friend that you can trust, then go ahead and ask your gf how she really feels about this guy. I think it's wierd for her to spend that much time talking to the guy even if they are best friends. After all, you're a guy and would you really be able to be 'best friends' with a girl without wanting more from her? Every guy friend I've ever had has wanted to get into my pants. Your gf may honestly just want to be friends with the guy, but just keep in mind it's hard for men to feel the same way when it comes to a girl. Not saying not to trust their friendship but definatley keep an eye out!!
2007-04-08 15:27:00 · answer #2 · answered by DRE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, here's the thing... you may believe she would never cheat on you, but honestly you have no idea. I was through the same a year ago. I thought she was the love of my life and I "knew" she would never cheat on me and... zaz, she CHEATED. It all started with some lies... sms's, phone calls, emails, chatting sessions. So... the best thing you can do is stop lying to yourself believing what she might or might not be capable of and go to her and ask her. Be honest about how you feel about her thing with that guy and ask her... or demand honesty from her as well. If she doesn't feel that the sun rises and sets everyday because of you, then you are with the wrong person. Good luck!!
2007-04-08 15:30:23 · answer #3 · answered by Horumaket 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"I trust her cause i no she would never cheat on me..."
Wrong answer. You can't trust her, you can't trust anybody. Once you realize that and get past it you will be doing a lot better. Yes, people will cheat on you the first chance they get.
BUT...the main question is do you want to have a relationship with this girl? If you do then don't worry about whether she is cheating on you or not and go forth and enjoy your time with her while you have it. The whole point is that you have to let people be who they are and you have to be comfortable with who you are and let life be what it will be. Do not base your life on trusting others. You will then be free to enjoy what you want to enjoy and then move on if the time is right.
Didn't mean to write a book...!!!
2007-04-08 15:25:15 · answer #4 · answered by Keenu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, she is not going to give this "best and Good friend" up for you...so you know where you stand..
just play it cool and don't get all upset if you find out that she is playing the field..
but then again maybe she has a platonic relationship with another guy..not likely..but it does happen..
but if you don't trust your g/f..then just tolerate her as if you push the wrong button and ask her to give him up..you could be in for a rude awakening...good luck...and by the way...maybe you should be getting a foxy lady as a "good Friend" too...whats good for the Goose is good for the gander..
2007-04-08 15:23:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she may be in love with him and not know it. this happens a lot to close friends. she may miss his friendship but never thought about him more than a friend. now that he is away, the feelings are stronger. just look in her eyes and ask her if she is in love with him. when she gets ready to answer, tell her not to answer you yet, and really think about it. Two days later meet with her and look in her eyes again and ask her again if she's in love with him. tell her that you'll understand if she does and won't get mad. if she sincerely says she's not in love with him, then she's telling the truth. good luck!!!
2007-04-08 15:26:18 · answer #6 · answered by truth hurts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you should believe your girlfriend. some guys have this idea that girls are always up to something with other guys. my boy friend got all uptight about my friendship with a guy and it just annoyed me. mention to her that you don't want to lose her but feel a bit insecure about their friendship. whatever you do though don't have a go at her about it as she is more likely just to go running to her friend to get her own back at you.
hope i helped
padme
2007-04-08 15:23:08 · answer #7 · answered by padmevalaski 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should ask your girlfriend if she still has feelings for this other man and if anything has happened between them. Tell her that it bothers you that she talks to him in this way. I mean if she is YOUR girlfriend then she should care enough about you and your feelings to not mess around with this other guy.
2007-04-08 15:21:21 · answer #8 · answered by Shense 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a suspicion I would check into it more. First Intuitions are usually correct.
2007-04-08 15:22:11 · answer #9 · answered by Mandie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like gossip to me...
2007-04-08 15:20:25 · answer #10 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋