Want to be aggressive, not passive?

Question

In middle school I was picked on a lot and now in highschool I'm finding I'm really passive, even to younger kids. It's made me be really nervous around people, and I have a hard time making new friends. How can I be more aggressive and not scared of standing up to anyone?

Answer 1

I am like you. I am not going to tell you to be aggressive, because in the long run it is people like you who will be happy and making the world a better place.
Good Luck~*

Answer 2

I'm not going to tell you aggressiveness is a positive thing. Think about it. When animals are aggressive, they keep their enemies away.
You just need to learn to be assertive. That's much more effective and you'll be 100% more likely to actually make friends.
There are several good books on assertiveness. Look on the internet and you'll likely find some tips that will help you learn to be assertive.
Learning to feel ok with who you are and knowing that you are worthy of being treated respectfully has the potential to change your life. Good luck!

Answer 3

They can't eat ya, that's cannablism and it's illegal. Basically that was to let you ask yourself what are you really afraid of? Too many men in this world are passive.
I think C.S. Lewis stated it best when he equated a man to a scaple, he said: If you put a scaple in the hands of a surgeon it can cut to heal, if you put it in the hands of a thief it can cut to hurt... but leave it dull, and it is good to no one.
You need to decide who you are, and who you want to be. Not what a few bullies in middleschool tried to tell you about yourself. Most of those kids will be cutting your lawn or picking up your trash in about 7 years anyways. Stand up for yourself and more importantly for others, try to avoid physical conflict but if you do, then you do. And remember win or lose doesn't determine your manhood, the fact that you stand up for yourself and others is a bigger statement of your character, than if you land a lucky punch in gym class.
If it's confidence in making new friends, you need to just decide you like yourself, and be yourself. With the girls smile alot, compliment alot, just saying you look nice today can make a girl feel wonderful. Maintain eye contact, but don't stare, hold your head up too. (Lifting wieghts can also help to improve confidence and esteem) Enter the worlds and interest of others, get to know thier hearts , desires, what they enjoy... cause in essence that is who they are. Good luck, and if you end up scrapping spit in thier eyes first, (they'll close em) then quickly hit em in the face, followed by a hard kick to the nads. I've actually seen this twice, it works.

Answer 4

I think you mean assertive, not aggressive. You will become more assertive as you start to become more comfortable with yourself, improve your self-esteem, and value yourself. It happens naturally over time, or you can work on it by using positive 'self-talk' and generally thinking more positively about things. You have to consciously practice it, and it's not as easy as it sounds, but it will help.
http://www.utexas.edu/student/cmhc/booklets/assert/assertive.html
This link is a good start.

Answer 5

um.. Being aggressive wont solve it, just be assertive, dont make trouble, just finish it if some one starts it with you. also just be open, not everyone will ever like u so if they dont, kindly say "**** off." and walk away.

Answer 6

stand firm. you dont need to come off as aggressive at first, but when someone does you wrong, you let them know about it, ya hear?

Answer 7

do not change who you are love yourself you are important the way you are exist to know this

Answer 8

just be your self, try to gain confidence.