My ex-husband just left me a voicemail about our 14 year old daughter. He has sole physical and legal custody of our child and moved due to job reaons. He just left the child assuming his mother who lives a few miles away would come and take care of her.
He says that she is failing miserably in school and she is not interested in going to college. She is depressed also. I went to stay with her for a few weeks and then came back.
He also said that he will not let me rest in peace or move on and get resettled. He says that I abandoned my daughter.
He wants me to call him and decide what to do with our child. I have repeatedly told him that he can send her to me.
Talking to or e-mailing him does not go anywhere. I really don't know what to do. The child is suffering though. Her grades are not good and he is putting the blame on me.
What should my next steps be?
2007-04-08 07:48:25 · 12 answers · asked by Stareyes 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, save the voice mail-don't erase it. Get a lawyer, he's a nut. How can he say that you abandoned her-that was a custody agreement- and he left her so his Mom could deal with it. He needs to grow up and move on, but you need to take legal action. Save every e-mail, text message, and voice messages. And call your daughter and ask if she wants
to come and live with you-most courts will allow a child over the age of 13 to decide which parent they want to be custodial. Good Luck!
2007-04-08 08:00:21 · answer #1 · answered by Queen-o-the-Damned 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What is wrong with you people???!!!!
Why does he have "sole legal and physical custody?"
Why do you have a need to "rest in peace, move on, get resettled" when you have A CHILD TO RAISE????!!
I'm sorry... but it really sounds like you need a counselor, priest, minister, psychiatrist or all of the above....not Joe Schmoe from Yahoo Answers helping you.
There is a lot that you are not saying, and it is very sad to think that you may take as validation some answer that a stranger gives you on Y!A to support whatever wrong next move you desire to make.
If I were you, I would get on my knees.
Additionally (now that I have read the other answers) it is a rare situation for a FATHER (no matter how good) to get SOLE legal/physical custody of a child over a MOTHER (no matter how bad.) If a judge made the determination that his care (sub-standard as it is) would be a better choice for your daughter than being with you, then I feel sorry for all of you----most of all your poor daughter.
2007-04-08 08:11:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Time for a few sessions of family counseling, hon..... pointing fingers doesn't work, and this is a real can of worms. You guys --- all of you, your daughter as well --- need to get some issues clarified, and on the table, and some alternate avenues defines, and goals as well, defined. You are all thrashing about in an abyss... get some help, hon. The best $$ you will ever have spent.... Good luck
2007-04-08 08:59:37 · answer #3 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get all of your physical evidence together and go to child support with what you have and request for emergency custody. Also remember your child have feelings and she also can explain to you what she may need to feel better. She has a voice let it sing to you. Step up and be the mother.
2007-04-08 08:21:12 · answer #4 · answered by sumayyah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a lawyer and file for custody
due to his neglect and moving away and abandonment she is therefore suffering in school
if you could convince the system that you would be able to provide a nurturing atmosphere for your child and help pick her grades back up then perhaps you can get her
no wonder the kid is failing and seems disinterested
mom left, and now dad left her too, all alone in a world so big
2007-04-08 08:08:52 · answer #5 · answered by zether 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Jesus....this is your daughter you're talking about not a pet!!! Go get her, for God's sake. She's a minor!!! Go get her and then figure out what to do with her. This kid is going to have some real issues if you don't put her welfare before your petty "wants". You and your ex ought to have your as*ses kicked! Go get the girl !!!
2007-04-08 08:45:34 · answer #6 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to a lawyer & find out what steps he/she suggest you take. you do need to get your daughter home with you. sometimes girls just need their moms
2007-04-08 07:54:42 · answer #7 · answered by Kay- Kay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lawyer up and get her now
From A dad that cares
2007-04-08 07:53:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Social services should be your first step.
2007-04-08 07:58:13 · answer #9 · answered by shelly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have your daughter come live with you and be a mom.
2007-04-08 07:52:34 · answer #10 · answered by me 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋