Well a friend of my parents are throwing them a surprise party for their 25th anniversary. The issue is that my parent's friends want to hear about all these good things about their marriage that she thinks my parents had, when little did she know it was all a facade. well the problem is that me and my one sibling were the only ones that lived with them for the majority of those years and lived with every kind of abuse and hell. And I definetly don't want to celebrate nor talk about how great my parents were as a married couple and have it all be a lie, its all hypocritical to me. My sibling has to work and lives out of town with his family, so he can't go. So i need any advice on this situation, whether just not go and have everyone wonder and ask why, or what. It feels so wrong, for me to be celebrating this or go and put on a very false front. I do get along with my parents now only because we don't interact and live in separate towns.
2007-04-08 07:12:08 · 5 answers · asked by Hazel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I feel your pain. Because most of my peers are children of divorce, they think I had an idyllic childhood because my parents stayed together so long. (It will be thirty-two years in May.) My siblings and I know that it was pure hell watching my parents fight and abuse each other.
You could tell the friend what you just told us but somehow I don't think that is wise. I would just tell her that you are much to busy to visit for the party and that you are unable to help her plan. Don't give anymore of an explanation because you don't owe her one. If she pushes for a story about all the "good things in their marriage" tell her that your parents are much better sources of information. After all, if they want to stay in an abusive spiritually dead marriage, it is their responsibility to maintain the facade.
2007-04-08 07:20:34 · answer #1 · answered by e_d_ellis2004 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow,it truly is a tough one.specific,i recognize how puzzling that's to positioned on a faux front,yet you may possibly think of of something solid approximately their marriage.Like the place they went on holidays,honeymoons,previous anniversaries,holidays they spent mutually.If any solid,attempt to undergo in strategies those situations and tell people approximately that.in the event that they ask something like do you undergo in strategies something say no.which you in basic terms in basic terms do not undergo in strategies.properly,in case you do not desire to have fun it in basic terms say that it does not be a solid thought.in the event that they ask why say that the timing isn't solid.i certainly don't recognize what to permit you recognize approximately this one.My mom and dad divorced while i strengthen into 14 so they even have not had a anniverary because of the fact that.i assume that's what you may desire to do for this situation.
2016-10-02 09:16:33 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is a close friend then - go directly to this person and tell her there really isn't anything you could say, you don't owe her any details, surely there must have been at least a few humerous events you could share- yes you should attend the party.
2007-04-08 08:07:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to decide this for yourself. you could go to the party just to make an appearance and if their friends ask for stories and such just tell them you don't have any.
2007-04-08 07:18:52 · answer #4 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go. How sad.
2007-04-08 07:46:52 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋