my boy friend and i met at a club a month ago, and since then we've been hanging out and talking,and he's29. he always pull on my clothes and always has to whisper in my ear even if i tell him no. he tells me that i worry to much about getting pregnant,and ruining my life when i'm only concerned about my future. what should i do? give in, or stop him before he gets too serious?
2007-04-08 06:53:39 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Tell him that you don't believe in having sex before marriage.
After you are married, you can always tell him that you don't believe in sex after marriage either.
2007-04-09 05:40:44 · answer #1 · answered by Darth Vader 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're so concerned about your future then you shouldn't be with a 29 year old guy!!
Any 29 year old that wants to be with a 17 year old has some major issues. At this age he should be getting ready to settle down (of course there are bachelors... but they don't hook up with underage girls). Did you know that if you did have sex then it would be illegal? That's your first sign that something's wrong with this guy.
You need to quit seeing this guy. There's nothing you can do to make him stop. The reason he's with you is because he likes young girls and wants to have sex. Do you expect him to want to commit to you, or are you just in it for fun too? It could be dangerous.
2007-04-08 07:06:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really cares about you, he would understand and stop pressuring you already! Tell him why you won't do it and if still pressures you, leave him! It sounds like he just wants only want sex from you, not love. You only met him a month ago and he is already asking for sex?! He's 29 already and should be mature enough about that subject so this does not sound good..what ever you do, just don't let him pressure you to rush to doing what could lead to serious consequences and regrets later.
2007-04-08 07:22:17 · answer #3 · answered by Joyfully 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa whoa whoa. Firstly, the fact that your posting this question shows that you are not yet ready in this relationship to have sex. Secondly - what does a 29yr old man want with a 17yr girl? OK so you maybe mature and plenty of relationships work with age discrepancies but........what do you too talk about? Does he care about your future plans and what is he doing for the future? Can you believe HE is ready to take on the potential consequences of your becoming pregnant. Has he discussed contraception with you or is he hoping you will get to the point of no return and so be to to shy/scared/intimidated to ask him to "slip one on" Your description of his behavior is something I find really worrying but, you sound like a girl with her head screwed on so you know what to do. If he respects you he will lay off, if not, get shot. Wishing you all the best,
2007-04-08 07:07:59 · answer #4 · answered by riz109 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are young and have a lot of choices. if he will be your first man, better don't do it. you will regret later when you're in your 20's and once you decide to leave him, it will be really difficult to do it and to find someone else.
your age difference is too big and by the time you are 28 (your peak years) he will be 40 and going through middle age crisis.
he is asking you for it because his age's mentality is completely different from yours. sex is probably the only thing he needs from you (not many guys in his age manage to get a 17 y.o. girl). don't be surprised when after some time he will split up with you. at least you have nothing to lose if he goes now.....
someone i know was in very similar situation few years back.
hope could be of any help
Ihor, 24
2007-04-09 01:39:37 · answer #5 · answered by grytsko 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my goodness. I was 17 and met a 29 year old man and had sex with him for the first time. I am you! Let me just say this... if you aren't ready, DONT DO IT! If you aren't sure if you are ready, you arent, and dont do it! I am 27 now and in hindsight, I had no business having sex with a 29 year old man. I also have to wonder how you met this man in a club if you are 17. I met mine in a pool hall. Dont let him pressure you if you dont want to do it. I had sex at 17 wuth a 29 year old man, and became pregnant. I had to have an abortion because he didnt want to have a baby and told me he would never be there for us. I have to live with those consequenses every single day. You can avoid it. If you dont want to have sex with this guy dont. If that ticks him off, send him walking, hes not worth it anyway. Good luck!
2007-04-08 07:01:11 · answer #6 · answered by My two cents 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You deserve someone who is going to respect you and your wishes. He's 12 years older than you so he's got A LOT of "life experience" and more years of raging hormones than you do. Think seriously on if you want to be with a guy who's going to pressure you like he has been. You met him a month ago. I know that seems like a long time, but do you REALLY know him? Would it really break your heart, so to speak, to break up with him now?
Have you tried telling him how you feel? If saying "Look I'm just not ready to have sex yet so please back off." Doesn't help then I wouldn't waste anymore time with him. He doesn't get it now and he'll never get it. He's only thinking with one thing.
2007-04-08 07:24:48 · answer #7 · answered by Logan and Ella's Mommy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like he's just being really selfish. If someone belittles your own concerns like this its likely that they are only looking out for themselves, and it looks like he doesn't actually care about how u feel, only getting into your pants! you shouldn't ever let someone pressure you into sex, and its definately fair enough to have all these concerns; its not up to him when and if you decide to do it, and if he really cared he wouldn/t be putting this kind of pressure on you! dont give in to him, cos the fact ur writing on this shows ur clearly not 100% sure about sex with him, so no dont give in!!!!
2007-04-08 07:00:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Thants not good, I would definatly break it off before he forces you into to something you don't want to do it would be different if you were older but you are to young to be with a 29 yr old because older men are good talkers but they will leave you in a heart beat to if you are not careful. It would be diffrent if he respected your feelings but it doesn't appear that he is.
2007-04-08 07:02:12 · answer #9 · answered by John H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you dating a guy that much older than you? Simply tell him that you will let him know when you are ready forsex and that themorehe pressures you, the less you want to do it with him. He really only wants to get into your pants so he can say he did, then he will dump you.
2007-04-08 07:03:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, get rid of him in a hurry!! Only a total loser would be pushing you to have sex, believe me! There's nothing but selfishness there on his part, and honey he'll dump you in a heartbeat after he's gotten what he wants.
2007-04-08 09:09:38 · answer #11 · answered by cloudy5767 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋