I have been married 8.5yrs to my wife, she has cheated on me twice while I have been gone.should I be worried?

Question

I am in the army and gone from home alot. Every time that she has cheated I have been away. currently I am stationed overseas and I am begining to get the feeling that she may be doing something back home.

Answer 1

As sad as it is , once someone cheats , they usually do it again. It's only natural that you would wonder what's going on .The trust between you has been broken and this is the worst and most difficult trust to try and rebuild. Most often it just isn't possible.She has cheated twice , I think it's very probable it will happen again. You need to ask yourself if you can live with her betrayal and ever truly trust her again. Will you wonder everytime you have to go away? Will this carry over into your lives when you return home? You need to think about you , how you feel about this,how you're going to cope and get through it. You need to consider that maybe it's time to let go and plan your life for you. If there are children involved it's obviously a bit more complicated but you can work through that as time goes on. Staying together for the kids is not a personal sacrifice , it's a burden for all involved including the kids.They learn what they live ... it's just not healthy for them to live in the midst of a broken relationship. It's better for them to know two separate healthy ones.

It saddens me to think of what you're going through and I wish that I had something wise to say that would help you more. The truth is that you have a very difficult time ahead of you and all I can say is I wish you all the best . Take care : )

Answer 2

Sorry to hear that.

You should speak with a supervisor. the old guys Sgt 1st Class have seen it all advised younger guys and helped in these trying times.

If you have two admissions, it means you have at least 4 commissions. Suspicious now, then you are probably right.

Suicide is freakin bad soldier! You are better than that and will get through this and be better off in the long run. Basic training was much harder on you emotionally than this. Get your affairs in order, quit worrying and deal with it decisively when you get home. Financial Strain of doing it while remote is too much.
You better listen to the Gunney, OK !!!

I am pretty sure the guys in your unit will help you through this. I know we threw some pretty grand divorce parties for some of the men in our unit.

Smile the whole world is about to open up for you. She isn't worthy of the lofrty position she holds as a soldiers wife!

USMC 27 years, OoohRaaa

Answer 3

I think you should not be worried and divorce her. Why would you want to be with someone that has no respect for you. You are serving our country and everytime you are gone..she cheats....there is something wrong with that picture. You should have left her after the first time because when you stayed you were basically telling her that it is ok to do whatever she wants to because she knows that you will forgive her and take her back> I am very sorry you have to deal with this especially being overseas. I hope everything works out for you.

Answer 4

Yes be worried. Once a cheater always a cheater. She doesn't deserve you! You are overseas putting your life on the line everyday and she can't even keep her legs closed. Just being overseas is enough to have to worry about. You should not have to worry about what she's doing or in this case who she's doing. Get rid of her! You deserve much better. I'm praying that all you soldiers get to come home soon. God bless and thank you for defending our country.

Answer 5

Dump Her *** Or Give Her A Tast Of Her Own Medisin Have Fun Find A Girl frend Wear Your At Now You Only Live Once Make The most Of it.

Answer 6

Awe man, I hate that S**T. I was in the Army too, 2/27 INF. 7th I.D., Ft. Ord, CA.( just some clarification). My question is why haven't you sent her packing? You're off defending you're country and could be called to arms at any given moment and she's off being a harlot? Sorry for calling her that bro, but from what you wrote, I can't see it any other way. She needs to be honoring you for what you do and what you could very well sacrifice as so many of those before us have done. What she's done is a slap in the face my friend and I've heard that so many times before. It just really pisses me off. I can say that it never happened to me, at least not to my knowledge and good thing too. I would've had to wall-to-wall counsel that @$$!!!

Answer 7

From one military buddy to another...yes be worried. Not because you're gone so much but because she's already done it twice before. I'd be very interested to know how you found out. You being away is NOT an excuse and I can tell you that serving your country is no reason for her to be unfaithful. Have more self respect. If she doesn't appreciate your goals and missions in life, maybe it's time to chose someone who does. Plenty out there who will appreciate your worth.

Answer 8

You have every right to feel the way you're feeling. I think that when you get home, you and your wife should sit down and talk to see if you two should remain married. Your wife doesn't act like she appreciates, or even cares about you. If she doesn't get her act together then you should move on. You don't need this kind of stress on you right now or ever. There are plenty of other fish in the sea.

Answer 9

Once a cheater always a cheater! I know that is harsh, but think about it 2 + 1 = 3 strikes --- she's out.

You should have divorced after the second time, life is too short to waste on her.

Answer 10

Yes, you should be worried. Once a cheater, always a cheater. But listen sweety, there are women out there who wouldn't do that! Why don't you just find yourself one of those and dump the one who doesn't hold you in her heart?