Okay the day started off okay, my friend called me to verify what time she was going to babysit for me. In the background of our conversation her boyfriend was screaming in spanish because he's mexican cursing and pretty much not allowing her to say a word so I had to hang up and text to finish conversating. Well my friend my to keep our kid at our house, but she's calls me about 30 minutes later and it's quiet in the background and she asks if her boyfriend can come to my house. I've never met him and from our conversation earlier when we couldn't even talk I was hesitant so I called my husband and asked what he thought. The answer was no. I explained it to my friend and she seemed understanding I also asked if she wanted me to try and find another sitter and she said "of couse not your my friend". Okay it's getting late no phone call were dressed and ready to go can't get a hold of her by text or phone then I realize she stood me up.
2007-04-08 06:06:23 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Might I add this is the same person who's mother was very sick and had no insurance or any money so I asked the Dr. I work for to see her for free which she did on several occasions. This is also the friend when they had no money t keep their lights on I gave her and her sister money to pay their bill. I could tell you a million things but it won't bring back my birthday just wondering if anyway can feel where I am coming from
2007-04-08 06:08:14 · update #1
Might I add that this is the first time I have ever asked her to do anything for me so she has never been used or asked several times to do anything. I was a great friend to her and she wanted to be with her boyfriend so she stood me up over it after I asked her if she wanted me to try and find another babysitter and she insisted she was coming.
2007-04-08 06:25:57 · update #2
No, she's f'ed up. She's bitting the hand that feeds her. I would find another babysitter and cut off contact as she not appreciative and unreliable.
2007-04-08 06:11:22 · answer #1 · answered by Norm Peterson 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have been used by this woman, so stop it. Your husband did the right thing when he said, 'no' as this gals boyfriend would disrupt your home. Don't expect her to change as he is more important to her than you are. You don't want or need to have your child/children around people like that. Why do you need her?? Hire another sitter, or take the whole family out. It was a payback time for her, and you didn't get paid. If you go on with her, there will be more of the same. She is a loser. Best wishes
2007-04-08 06:41:08 · answer #2 · answered by tylernmi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some women (especially Mexican or other cultures) are controlled by their husband or boyfriend. They are psychically or mentally abused. They were brought up to be that way and even in America, they tend to stay that way. I'd suspect that her boyfriend ex'd out your meeting especially after not being allowed to come with her. I believe you did the right thing, but sometimes you just have to understand their position. The best thing to do is 'talk to her' and find out what the problem was and what happened. Nothing is better than talking out a problem with a friend, love or lover.
2007-04-08 06:24:02 · answer #3 · answered by Jack W 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This person is not your friend. I have one of those friends that only claims I'm her friend when she wants favors, and things done. The exact same situation as you. You wanted her to babysit. Your only their friend when they need help. I've seen those " so called " friends it depends on what " the boyfriend" is doing, and that bf changes their mind, and they tell you something different then what they promised you in the first place. She was trying to get out of a promise. She is playing you for a fool.
2007-04-08 07:13:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you so called friend could have called he better have a really good excuse if he promised to be there on you b-day that's one thing but you need to get a real boy friend it's really not your friends responsibility to act as your boy friend don't ya think a boy friend will take you out buy you things etc that's a boy friend's job it is special but as a b- friend i know it hurts sorry maybe he will come by later give him a call maybe he forgot this so much like a guy but a b-friend shouldn't forget right you might want to get someone else that's not cool or responsible she might have had a date an didn't want to babysit
2007-04-08 06:18:16 · answer #5 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like she is in an abusive relationship. Her BF might have threatened her or made it impossible for her to come. Try to see her side of the situation. She may need your help to get out of a very bad choice. Think about it.
2007-04-08 06:13:01 · answer #6 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your "friend" isn't much of a friend. i would give her some space and when she is ready to talk let her. i would give her a week and then i would try to get in touch with her.
also it might not have been her fault. she might not have been able to come due to an emergency. give her a little leeway.
i wish you the best of luck!
2007-04-08 06:19:23 · answer #7 · answered by stevie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the bf may have used force he sounds like a jerk and I think he was screaming No when u were first on the phone
2007-04-08 06:18:20 · answer #8 · answered by Nora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just you.
When you told her that her boyfriend couldn't come, you might as well have told her she wasn't welcome too. Would you be happy with someone who told you your husband wasn't welcome, would you go in that case?
Sorry to say but you sound very self-centered and immature. The world doesn't revolve around you.
2007-04-08 06:12:17 · answer #9 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you heard her bf. she is going to do what it takes to keep his trap shut. she has to deal with that not you. take the kids and your hubby and go have some fun somewhere.
2007-04-08 06:10:55 · answer #10 · answered by zsaffireblue2003 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋