i have just come out of an abusieve relationdhip and finding it very hard to get over him, i miss him?

Question

i no he will come back in a few days as if nothings happened promise me he will change and then i will go throu it all again in a week or 2 the more i try with him the worse it gets.

Answer 1

HON,ONLY TIME CAN HEAL A BROKEN HEART AND I BELIEVE YOURS BEEN BROKEN ALOT. YOUR FRIEND NEEDS PROFESSIONAL HELP AND YOU CANT HELP HIM. GET OUT AND LET TIME DO THE HEALING FOR YOU , IT WONT HAPPEN OVERNITE . ALL THIS RELATIONSHIP IS DOING TO YOU IS BRINGING YOU DOWN EACH TIME ,YOU HAVE TO BELIEVE THAT YOU DESERVE BETTER IN LIFE SO GO OUT THERE AND MAKE A NEW LIFE AND A BETTER ONE . I WISH YOU THE BEST.THANKS FOR LISTENING....

Answer 2

Do not go back to him. You have to break the abuse cycle. What you are going through is perfectly normal. People in abusive relationships tend to develop dependancy issues. That means that you rely on your partner a lot more than people who aren't or haven't been in abusive relationships. The key is to find the strength within yourself to stop the abuse. If you go back with him, the abuse will never stop and may become very danerous. You deserve better. You deserve someone who will respect you and treat you well. I suggest you go to the public library and check out some books on abusive relationships. This will give you an objective view at your situation and may help you gain the insight you need in order to break free from this guy. Break ups are always hard but in abusive relationships they can be harder. Take care and try to think of what is best for you overall. Good Luck!

Answer 3

I know it's hard because even though he's abusive, he is familiar and gives you the false sense of security- but that's the key "false sense of security." There is no security or love in abuse. It's safe to assume that you have low self esteem, so you internalize or make excuses for him. Instead of taking him back, give yourself time and pamper yourself. Turn the bitterness and hurt you feel into motivation for taking care of yourself and excelling. Take a walk, read a book....work out...take a class...learn a recepie...socialize...those things will help you build up your confidence and when you are a confident woman, you will not tolerate any less than being treated like a lady. What are you holding on to? There is no glory in having someone who abuses you, really, that's not cool. However, there is glory in moving on from such a person because you love yourself. You deserve to be loved, not abused. Are you afraid of not being loved by another person? No matter what he tells you and what you want to believe, people who love you, don't abuse you sweetheart.

When someone regrets doing something, they won't repeat it. Obviously, he is, so he doesn't believe it when he says he's sorry and only says it to get you back for his own selfish reasons. Put yourself first, you deserve to be happy!

Answer 4

I was in a relationship where everything that could have been done to me was doone to me. I stayed for eight years. It is not worth because they don't change. Finally, I got tired and left. For three years it was just me and my children. I did not have sex, exchange phone numbers with a man, nor date. You need to take time and find yourself. Once you do that you can move on. Talk to family and friends and allow them to help you. You must have positive people in your life during this time. Don't fall for the same lines over and over. THEY DON'T CHANGE!

Answer 5

Make you think what is wrong with you doesn't it?

He will not change, he will not get better. Get over him or seek professional help for yourself. Clearly you have as big of problems as he does. This is not healthy in anyway for you, move on and don't look back.