Things are so difficult in my marraige that I think a trial seperation for a month or two is needed to give us both breathing space and to see how we feel after, my husband agrees too. Has anyone else been in a similar situation? and if so, what was the outcome?
2007-04-08 05:13:09 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If it's something you both have agreed on, then it's right for you. Depending on your reasons, only you two know what you want out of your relationship.
My hubby and I had a trial seperation but since we were both willing to put forth the effort in making it work, we are doing great! It's so easy these days to divorce than it is to try to make it work, especially if there are still feelings there.
I wish you both well :)
2007-04-08 05:25:49 · answer #1 · answered by MystiSaint 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Breaking up is never easy, which might explain why a trial separation is a more appealing proposition for couples in crisis (or good, old-fashioned relationship ennui). But you need to think very carefully about what any break-up – no matter how temporary – means.If, for example, one partner wants to walk while the other hopes to make things work, the proposition of some time apart offers a fair opportunity for delusion on both sides – as the former envisions a period of gentle, hopefully tear-free, extrication from romance (it is, after all, far easier, to say 'see you later' than it is to say 'goodbye'), the latter is imagining using the time to rekindle your love. It's vital, therefore, that you're both clear about why you're separating and what that really means to you both long term.
Trial separations are tricky; approached properly, they give a couple the time to take stock and hopefully reunite stronger than they were before. But for many people they're a last resort and it's best not to kid yourself about what you're letting yourself in for. The clue's in the name – 50% of what's on offer is a separation, plain and simple. And for all too many of us, there's no way back from one of those.
2007-04-08 05:32:35 · answer #2 · answered by mssgtmidnight1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There were many times that I want to leave him and trust me there were times that I packed up to leave but you know what? I always stay because I know that things could be worse and that I married him for a reason. Also that we could sit and talk and compromise a bit so things would work out.
I think that your approach to this is the wrong one because you should try going somewhere together and try to work out what need to work out with each other. I would take a vacation with my husband and try to enjoy it. All you need in your relationship is a little more laughs.
When my husband and I was at our end when I had a missed carriage we had to take time out of the house and went on vacation and trust me we were like high school kids finding new love.
I love him and he loves me and this why I married him also because of our bound to him and the same in return. Someone that I could talk to and to be my confident. Isn't this why you married your husband? Then its time to live up to your vows...
If you want time apart then you should try it for about a week and see how it fairs then go on a vacation. If you have kids let him stay at home and you go over to your parents house for a week. Let him learn to appreciate you.
2007-04-08 05:40:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Separations often are the beginning of the end for relationships. Perhaps you two should try couples counseling before taking a step that may cause a breach too wide to get back across.
Although plenty of couples that separate, do get back together, things often occur during separation that cause issues in the relationship upon reuniting (esp if either or both parties date others during the separation).
2007-04-08 05:18:57 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that trial separations are the first step in the divorce process. I think the best thing would be to get at the heart of the problem in the marriage and not try to pretend it doesn't exist by separating. Open honest communication is the key.
2007-04-08 05:23:01 · answer #5 · answered by xv 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I seperated for 4 months and there no cheating but we had our wings to fly. We got back together and things are alot better between us. We both had alot to think about and it worked out for us. BUT just because we got back together doesn't mean everyone else will. We was just one of the lucky ones. Good Luck and I hope you two will be one of the lucky ones also.
2007-04-08 05:23:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no longer in my opinion. there have been a pair women folk I knew that did try that. For one it did not workout and he or she and her husband grew farther aside. For the different, each and each and every replaced into dedicated to creating it artwork, yet felt they ought to no longer stay at the same time through consistent combating. seeing that everybody replaced into dedicated to attempting to make it artwork, they both went to marriage counseling and team counseling. The did come back at the same time and characteristic been a lot happier. Edit: i'm sorry to assert, there is not any thanks to persuade him. He could favor to be in simple terms as invested as you're in saving the courting. If he's no longer, then it really is probable best to ask him what he needs. Does he fairly choose a divorce or does he choose a tribulation separation so he has time to go out and "come across."
2016-11-27 03:33:27 · answer #7 · answered by rozalie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it should help both as distance lends beauty to the scene and separation will be a means of finding out the truth
2007-04-08 05:17:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, best time of my life being away from him. And we are now getting divorced.
2007-04-08 05:16:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, you get further apart... and one partner usually moves on...
2007-04-08 05:17:22 · answer #10 · answered by prop4u 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋