Do you think that making divorce no longer avaible unless in situations like Criminal acts.?

Question

Is Divorce too easy, or is it that Marriage is too easy?

Should there be a mandatory waiting period for a marriage license (like 3 years)?

Answer 1

The only people who think divorce is easy have never been divorced.

An 18-month waiting time for a marriage license is a good idea. Doing away with common law marriage is one step better.

Studies of human biology back this up as it takes an average of 18 months from the time a (heterosexual and fertile) couple meets until they bring a child into the world. For many, it is at this point that the marriage/relationship begins to break down - not because a child has entered the picture, but because the attraction that brought them together in the first place has cooled.

Other factors (finances, responsibilities, in-laws, children, etc) surely complicate the matter, but the crux of it is a premature jump on infatuation instead of waiting to see if the relationship is really one of love and not just lust.

This is not to say lust is a bad thing. It is to say that many misconstrue the intense feelings of lust for love. All that connection, vitality and "I've never felt this way before" are common to the less-than 18-month-old relationship and the are often the first things to roll off the tongues of those in new relationships.

The longer-lasting relationship speaks not just of trust and love, but of experience with it. If the relationship has withstood no misfortune (financial, familial, health, etc), there is no way of knowing whether either party really has the stamina for marriage.

The current fifty percent divorce rate is, in large part, due to those who married before their infatuation (wrongly referred to as "love") was allowed to run its course. While many couples grow naturally into love after infatuation has cooled, many others do not.

A waiting time would not prevent anyone from living together but it would help to insure that those who are in it for the long haul are the only ones afforded the opportunity.

Answer 2

We are talking about whether laws will make people do right. Should we use the legal system to enforce right and wrong? Our country is agreeable to laws that protect others, but very hesitant about laws that interfere with "freedom, as long as it doesn't hurt anyone else." The problem is, divorce, adultery, etc, hurts everyone, especially the children.
But the issue is more about how easy it is in society to marry and divorce. Laws reflect what a culture values. People turn away from their vows and the society doesn't turn and say "hey, what's up with that?" In fact, the culture says "go ahead, you are miserable, leave the marriage." Look at the % of Yahoo answers that encourage divorce and breaking up. Movies say "have sex if you are in love." There is no commitment involved first. Kids are shown as "better off" when parents divorce, as long as they can remain friendly.
What we need more than laws is help. We need to educate kids on good relationships, we need to model them more, we need to prepare everyone that marriage is hard and not about feeling good and loved all the time, and we need to relearn what it means to keep your word. We need to teach people what to do when a relationship starts having trouble. We need a cultural shift toward valuing commitment.
When so many people in society value feeling good over being good, when we redefine right and wrong as "What is good for me," how can laws help?
That said, yes I do think it is too easy. I am not in favor of a long waiting period, but mandatory counseling before marriage and divorce may be a good thing.

Answer 3

Divorce is probably too easy in the U.S. A friend told me that in England if you want a divorce, you must live under a separate roof for one year. That gets pretty expensive. I imagine that problems somehow get worked out that way. Who could afford keeping two residences for a year? Marriage is pretty easy, too. You have a valid point but I think 3 years may be too long really. This is a tough question. Good one.

Answer 4

I believe also they make divorces to easy. A couple who are wanting a divorce, unless, abuse, should have to go counseling, sometimes it is to easy for one of them to say get out and not try to work on it. Marriages, should be left like they are because alot of your churches require you to do counseling before getting married. I don't think some realize what work it takes to keep a marriage together.

Answer 5

I think divorce should be available always. There should be no limitations. Divorce I beleive is not too easy. It is there for us when there is no resolution to save the marriage. I don't think that marriage is too easy, it is we think that is what we want to do at the time. I don't think anyone anticipates divorce at the time of marriage. We just don't know what is going to happen.

Answer 6

The bible says that the only reason that it was cool to get a divorce was if one of the partners committed adultery.
I think that if that happens or someone is being abused a divorce should be granted.
If someone is unhappy and wants to move on to change their life...well, what can you say to that...be unhappy the rest of your life and stick it out?
I don't know...People just don't stick to commitments anymore.
Marriage takes work and two people who love each other enough to stick it out and work through the bad times...this takes being best friends too.
Maybe if people knew that love was not enough...that it took being friends too...then it would be a forever marriage.
I think there will always be divorce...the law has made it too easy.

be cool...

Answer 7

I think Divorce is to easy! People do not take marriage seriously these days!

Answer 8

If we did what you suggest then we would no longer live in a free country. There just is some ignorant people in this world who don't Cherish what they have and that's life. Sad as it is, it's a fact.

Answer 9

In my opinion, marriage is an outdated ceremony.

When couples get married, they don't walk into it with the expectations of divorcing within a few years. $hit happens.

Marriage and divorce doesn't affect me in any way, shape, or form. It doesn't influence my paycheck, gas prices, or anything else.

Answer 10

I believe marriage should last till dead do you apart......unless one of them cheat....and then the cheater should spend 5years in prison.