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i've been married for almost a year now.
Before i got married the relationship that my husband had with my family was great, now he seems no to like them at all anymore, and seems to hate my brothers 11 and 3.
We are from ecuador, does the culture has something to do with it???
Why everything was different before i got married, i feel very unconfortable and bad cuz he is my husband but they are my family too.
My mom and brothers are coming to visit us in 3 days cuz we're having a baby in a week hopefully, she is coming to help me with my new born for 3 weeks...I dont know what to do cuz he seems no to like the idea, but ofcourse i love my mom and brothers and i want them to be with me now that is very important for me.
What do u think that changed??? why he doesnt like them anymore????

2007-04-08 03:57:28 · 5 answers · asked by baby_ml 1 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

i asked him whats the problem many times but he always says there is not problem...I know there is something cuz he is always mad he they are around us.
And my mom also asked me why is he different, i dont know know what to tell her anymore im always making up excuses

2007-04-08 04:09:23 · update #1

he is american and his family is coming on june for 2 weeks, i love his family and i never had a problem with them.
Thank you very much for ur answers

2007-04-08 04:23:17 · update #2

5 answers

Dear María Luisa:

It seems to me that now that you are his wife he no longer needs to win them over. He won..hes got you. You need to ask him that question. You need to have a talk with your husband and try to find out why he feels that way. Its very hard to have a marriage with someone who is not getting along with other family members. Culture has nothing to do with it, because he got along great with them before. So something has happened and you need to find out. I advise you to talk with him before they arrive. Be realistic and don't try to justify his actions. We all need families and people. So your first step: find out why he's changed. Then let me know. Its very difficult to share a household among people who are not welcome. Do it! have a talk right now.

God bless you and Congratulations with your first baby
,...me in Patillas, Puerto Rico.

2007-04-08 04:17:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Not sure why your husband is acting this way. Did your family be-little him in anyway in the passed? He must have his reasons for acting this way. Sit him down and talk to him about this. I think it's great that your mother is offering to come and help with the new baby. That is what family does. So find out why he feels the way he does and the problem can be fixed so there is no conflict. Cocoa

2007-04-08 04:06:55 · answer #2 · answered by cocoa 4 · 0 0

He had to be nice to them while he was dating you and through the wedding. If he thinks they are meddling that may give him reason to dislike them now. He may think they are overly involved and your mom staying there 3 weeks may be a bit lengthy for her to be present. What about his parents and family? No mention was made about their interaction and what they think of you! He may have been a momma's little boy you stole away and his feelings are being guided by her. Ecuadorian culture is similar throughout the Latino community and is seen as overtly machismo, and he may think your mom may be controlling you instead of just helping you and has feelings she can do better for you than he can. Put his mind at ease and tell him she is only trying to be of help and concerned for both of your well-beings.

2007-04-08 04:13:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

I don't know but don't make excuses for him. Tell your mother to ask him as you don't know. If he is asked by someone other than you he may change.

2007-04-08 04:14:22 · answer #4 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0 0

It could be anything.

Why not ask him?

2007-04-08 04:00:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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